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Contraception for my teenage daughter

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GT1901 · 26/11/2020 10:17

My daughter is 17 and has had a boyfriend for over a year. They are sexually active and have been using condoms, she has asked to go on the pill, to which I’ve agreed.

The difficulty is, she’s at boarding school and thus needs to get all her meds from the school doctor. She’s need advised to take the standard pill, is this what you’ve done with your daughters or did you put her on something else.

It’s a long time since I took the pill and I’m at a loss as to which is the beat method for her. Advice gratefully received.

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FelicityPike · 26/11/2020 11:25

Sorry but you don’t get to “agree” to her going on the pill. She, at 17, gets to choose what she does or doesn’t do with her own body!

ClaireP20 · 26/11/2020 11:20

@Mydogisagentleman

My DD had the implant at 16. She had it changed recently. She had 3 weeks of constant bleeding but hasn’t had a period since. She still uses condoms
Yeah, course she does!! Do parents actually believe their kids use condoms as well?!
BashfulClam · 26/11/2020 11:16

@JemimaTiggywinkle you don’t take another pill that day you use another method such as condoms for a week or that’s what my go told me and it’s in the leaflet with mine. Also worth noting that anti-biotics can lessen the effectiveness, my cousin’s beautiful boy was down to tonsillitis and the antibiotics causing the pill to fail.

JemimaTiggywinkle · 26/11/2020 11:12

There’s quite a few different pills... her Dr will recommend one to start with and will have to change to a different one if it doesn’t suit her.

Might be worth letting her know that if she’s sick or has diarrhoea at any point then the pill obviously won’t work and she’ll need to take another pill the same day.

Mydogisagentleman · 26/11/2020 11:06

My DD had the implant at 16.
She had it changed recently. She had 3 weeks of constant bleeding but hasn’t had a period since.
She still uses condoms

strawberrymilkshakemonkey · 26/11/2020 11:05

so many questions
your daughter is over consenting age, she shouldn't have to ask your permission to use the pill or any contraception for that matter. you shou;dn't have to 'agree'. it's her body and her choice.

a doctor should help and support her to make any decision she chooses, not you or random women/men on the internet! i'm not even sure why you're involved!

caringcarer · 26/11/2020 10:59

I would advise inplant as it easy to forget to take a pill.

BashfulClam · 26/11/2020 10:57

Her doctor is the best person to advise. The pill or mini pill is possibly best for teenagers, I’d advise trying them before the implant or injection to ensure that hormonal contraception is ok. Trying to get the implant out if it doesn’t agree with her would be a massive pain.

helloxhristmas · 26/11/2020 10:56

It's not your decision is it, it's hers?

BrumBoo · 26/11/2020 10:55

You've 'agreed' that your near adult daughter can make a medical decision for herself Hmm. Actually, this whole thing reads very oddly...

DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon · 26/11/2020 10:55

Also make sure youve had a chat with her about stis, if shes going to stop using condoms always a good idea for both partners to get a sexual health check.

DishRanAwayWithTheSpoon · 26/11/2020 10:51

She needs to speak to her dr. There are plenty of contraceptive methods that arent the pill which might be better for her. Maybe the implant.

But her GP will discuss the options with her and she can make a decision then

Ihaveabranchupmybauble · 26/11/2020 10:26

She should make a choice for herself as it affects her body and then speak to her Dr who will advise what's best for her.

aLilNonnyMouse · 26/11/2020 10:21

Her doctor will be the right person to help her make the best choice. Random people on the internet wont know enough about her and her situation to give useful advice.