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Toddler massively prefers dad :(

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NotBehindTheRadiatorPlease · 09/11/2020 16:21

Hi all. DD is almost 20 months and seems to have a real preference for her dad! She will play, cuddle ect with me when it's just us two at home, but as soon as DH gets home from work it's like I don't exist! She will follow him around, clamber on his lap, demand cuddles ect and if I try and take her off of him (if DH needs the loo or something for example) she will throw a huge tantrum!

Even if she wakes up in the night (which granted doesn't happen much anymore) she will literally push me away if I try and comfort her and want her dad instead 😭 She also seems to throw far fewer tantrums with DH than with me.

I try and tell myself that it's just a phase, or that because I'm at home with her all day I'm a bit boring and her dad is more fun and novel, but I must admit it does hurt a little that she seems to like her dad so much more! Of course it's lovely to see that DD and DH have such a close bond.

Is this normal? Did any of your little ones go through a 'only wants dad' phase?

OP posts:
pastabest · 09/11/2020 16:30

@Gatehouse77

All of mine did. One more so than the others but it passed. Take advantage whilst you can!
Absolutely. I loved when they had these phases, I actually managed to get shit done briefly.
Gatehouse77 · 09/11/2020 16:27

All of mine did. One more so than the others but it passed.
Take advantage whilst you can!

Theworldisfullofgs · 09/11/2020 16:26

It is all completely normal. It is a phase and it will change.

Mine are more or less grown up now and I remember theses times well. In fact one then went through a phase of only liking me and it was utterly exhausting. Take the opportunity to have some time and make the most of it while it lasts!

BettysSpaghetti · 09/11/2020 16:23

It is very normal at that age. All three of mine when through a phase of preferring their dad.

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