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Ok I know this is pathetic, but when a friend doesn’t like your posts but likes others

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 21:55

I know it’s needy and pathetic, but normally if someone didn’t like my stuff I’d think of maybe they’ve not been on fb etc

But one of my friends hasn't liked any of my stuff for ages
Yet I know she still must like me because she’s always messaging me on what’s app and asking to get together etc

My posts are only very tame like the kids pumpkins etc
And a couple of half term activities

Yet I see her liking and commenting on other people’s posts basically the same sort of posts as mine and I think why do you ignore mine ?
Esp when she comments and likes people’s things of people I know she’s actually not that keen on in real life

I guess there’s a chance she might not see mine
I don’t know how the algorithm works

But I’ve now stopped liking hers too

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:38

Actaully it would be interesting if I posted a story and she saw it .....

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FarTooSkinny · 03/11/2020 22:37

I have a friend who posts loads of tedious kids, Halloween, school homework, blah, blah, blah stuff on Facebook. As I am non confrontational I passively aggressively like and comment on similar posts that aren't hers in the hope that she gets the message.

I think she also posts on MN so if she puts up a whiny post I'll reply with something sarcastic

seayork2020 · 03/11/2020 22:37

Maybe it is time you step away form social media and stay in the real world?

RishiMcRichface · 03/11/2020 22:36

My mum is one of my top FB friends and I message her in FB messenger all the time and always comment on her posts but for some reason I don't always see her posts. So it could well be a F B glitch.

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:36

Actaully it would be interesting if I posted a story and she saw it .....

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seayork2020 · 03/11/2020 22:36

Maybe it is time you step away from social media and stay in the real world?

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:36

“Might be worth tagging her in something you know she wants to see, or commenting/reactting to her posts so fb algorithms know you want to see each other's posts.“

I’m always liking her posts

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macncheeses · 03/11/2020 22:35

I'd personally bin social media for awhile. You are overthinking this. It might be fun and a way to keep in touch especially in dark times when you can't see each other, but honestly, it's all meaningless and can be damaging!
You aren't thinking straight and coming across as immature and needy.
Why don't you pick the phone up or send a private message instead.

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:35

Perhaps she’s jealous? What if she’s posted her own Halloween stuff

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Nordman · 03/11/2020 22:34

Instead of questioning why she doesn't like your posts, question why you are bothered about it. If I put anything on social media its because I want to share it with people, I genuinely couldn't care less whether any of those people click the like button. If this is something that really bothers you then maybe take a social media break.

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:34

If I posted a video what would that prove

I suppose it would prove if she’s seen it ?

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UpHereforDancng · 03/11/2020 22:33

Facebook can be a bit strange like that. A couple of years ago I created a favourites list of about 30 FB friends and I now get an email whenever one of them posts. But strangely it doesn't include my two best friends on their for some reason, and I've noticed that they both hardly ever like my own posts.

However, it bothered me for about an hour in total! I'm not hugely active on FB and prefer Instagram (but I'm not on that much either!).

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:33

I totally agree it’s needy and pathetic
But it’s just confussing me

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Diavoloroquito · 03/11/2020 22:32

Upload a video to see if she’s viewed it. I can get a bit upset too when I don’t get likes from friends or family but they are liking everyone else’s.

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:31

Perhaps she’s jealous? What of she’s posted her own Halloween stuff

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RoomOfRequirement · 03/11/2020 22:30

Do you post often? Could be you're on her unfollow list for news feed. I had to do that with some friends I do like because they posted so much their stuff was all I saw/they posted too much stuff I wasnt interested in.

seayork2020 · 03/11/2020 22:29

Maybe it is time you step away from social media and stay in the real world?

Benjispruce2 · 03/11/2020 22:28

Perhaps she’s jealous.

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:27

Another option is that she likes you (obviously she does if she is texting with you) but not the shite you are posting...

No I don’t think it’s that as much crap like the kids doing pumpkins is pretty maybe the same as everyone else’s that she loves and comments on about how great they are etc

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Benjispruce2 · 03/11/2020 22:24

Perhaps she’s jealous.

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 22:23

No I don’t post anything at all about brexit or Covid or controversial in the slightest
Or even that often

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 03/11/2020 22:22

Firstly, the algorithm really may just not be showing it when she is on. Happens to me and I sometimes wonder that I haven't seen anything from x or y for a while.

Secondly (and I say that as a fan of sm) you might want to step away.

Another option is that she likes you (obviously she does if she is texting with you) but not the shite you are posting...

RoomOfRequirement · 03/11/2020 22:21

Do you post often? Could be you're on her unfollow list for news feed. I had to do that with some friends I do like because they posted so much their stuff was all I saw/they posted too much stuff I wasnt interested in.

Gncq · 03/11/2020 22:21

Sorry, as a person who doesn't do Facebook for good reason, your post really reads to me as written by someone mentally damaged by social media.

Diavoloroquito · 03/11/2020 22:19

Upload a video to see if she’s viewed it. I can get a bit upset too when I don’t get likes from friends or family but they are liking everyone else’s.