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Original poster

Ok I know this is pathetic, but when a friend doesn’t like your posts but likes others

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Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 21:55

I know it’s needy and pathetic, but normally if someone didn’t like my stuff I’d think of maybe they’ve not been on fb etc

But one of my friends hasn't liked any of my stuff for ages
Yet I know she still must like me because she’s always messaging me on what’s app and asking to get together etc

My posts are only very tame like the kids pumpkins etc
And a couple of half term activities

Yet I see her liking and commenting on other people’s posts basically the same sort of posts as mine and I think why do you ignore mine ?
Esp when she comments and likes people’s things of people I know she’s actually not that keen on in real life

I guess there’s a chance she might not see mine
I don’t know how the algorithm works

But I’ve now stopped liking hers too

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LindaEllen · 04/11/2020 00:14

@Lardlizard

I know it’s needy and pathetic, but normally if someone didn’t like my stuff I’d think of maybe they’ve not been on fb etc

But one of my friends hasn't liked any of my stuff for ages
Yet I know she still must like me because she’s always messaging me on what’s app and asking to get together etc

My posts are only very tame like the kids pumpkins etc
And a couple of half term activities

Yet I see her liking and commenting on other people’s posts basically the same sort of posts as mine and I think why do you ignore mine ?
Esp when she comments and likes people’s things of people I know she’s actually not that keen on in real life

I guess there’s a chance she might not see mine
I don’t know how the algorithm works

But I’ve now stopped liking hers too

One of my best friends has had to be muted on my Facebook, because she's a vegan but one of the really vocal ones who shares photos of animal abuse etc. I am veggie myself so no hypocrite and not scared of the truth etc, it's just not what I want to see. And she posts about 30 times a days just silly things she's shared. She also shares all of her memories one by one so once we've seen things one year we'll see them every year going forward .. she's not the same person face to face as she is online, but I don't see any of her 'normal' posts as I've muted her for all the crap. I like her, but don't see her updates 🤷🏻‍♀️
Original poster
Lardlizard · 04/11/2020 00:10

I’m not saying I’m not an idiot but I’m not saying she’s jealous

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SpaceRaiders · 03/11/2020 23:58

The person I rushed past, is actually not a friend, and she’s actaully A right two faced shit stirer who thrives on negativity

Pot...kettle.Confused

MLMbotsgoaway · 03/11/2020 23:56

I think you’re the one thriving on negativity. You have a friend who regularly contacts you - but as she’s not liking your posts (which she may not even see) she’s obviously jealous 🙄

Someone else stopped to speak to you, but they’re a dementor.

And “your past humouring idiots”

maddening · 03/11/2020 23:56

Is she even seeing your posts? What goes in your news feed may be different to hers?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 03/11/2020 23:56

@Lardlizard

The person I rushed past, is actually not a friend, and she’s actaully A right two faced shit stirer who thrives on negativity
Tbh that's exactly how you sound here
LoisWilkersonslastnerve · 03/11/2020 23:55

I don't really interact with my close friends on fb because I don't feel I need to, we talk on a regular basis, they know I 'like' them whereas people I only have contact on fb get a bit more attention as I can't do it in real life if that makes sense?

Original poster
Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 23:52

Anyway I’m done with it

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Original poster
Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 23:51

The person I rushed past, is actually not a friend, and she’s actaully A right two faced shit stirer who thrives on negativity

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grapewine · 03/11/2020 23:47

[quote MLMbotsgoaway]@grapewine and OP brushed past someone at school who waited to speak to her.
I don’t think social media is the issue here.[/quote]
Fair point. That was even more confusing tbh.

MLMbotsgoaway · 03/11/2020 23:45

@grapewine and OP brushed past someone at school who waited to speak to her.
I don’t think social media is the issue here.

grapewine · 03/11/2020 23:44

So your friend texts and interacts with you regularly in real life, but you're in a strop because she's not liking your posts on Facebook? Posts that she may not even be seeing?

That's genuinely bizarre.

kazzer2867 · 03/11/2020 23:43

YABU- grow up!

This.

saraclara · 03/11/2020 23:40

@Lardlizard

Eat the ham, there’s a mum at school, she’s so miserable, like a dementor and v two faced I used to smile and give her the time of the day, in hummering her type way Anyway the other day she was actually waiting for me, saw me and waited for me to get to the same point as her, I just said hello Ina rushed type way and carried on walking Fast ! She seemed so shocked But I’ve got to the point I’m past humouring some idiots
Seriously, do you realise how petty this seems?
saraclara · 03/11/2020 23:37

@Gncq

Sorry, as a person who doesn't do Facebook for good reason, your post really reads to me as written by someone mentally damaged by social media.
I do use Facebook, but I agree with you. It's pretty scary.
Voice0fReason · 03/11/2020 23:36

I do wonder what message this sends to our children if we feel and behave like this as parents.
How will they learn how to manage Social Media.

felineflutter · 03/11/2020 23:36

Possibilities: Frenemy as PP says she has probably bad-mouthed you to other people and doesn't want them to her liking your posts.She likes you but sees you as competition so doesn't like your posts due to this competitive streak. She has a million friends and really isn't interested in looking you up as she sees you all the time(unlikely) Grin

I am not on FB anymore.

Toothsil · 03/11/2020 23:35

I know what you mean, I get annoyed because the minute BIL posts pics of my niece or them on family days out, FIL instantly likes and comments, but he never ever likes anything we put up or pics of DD. I know he sees our posts because of the things he says, like he saw we did such and such. There's a lot of favouritism going on there though so that's probably why. Other than that it doesn't bother me, I never notice who else likes things I post but that is just so obvious.

MLMbotsgoaway · 03/11/2020 23:32

Hmm am starting to see a common theme.

1Morewineplease · 03/11/2020 23:27

You don't need to be liked on FB.
Focus on your real life friends. Treat FB as a news feed or a place to dip into if you must.
I abandoned FB a few years ago and it means nothing to me now.
I still have friends and my family think nothing of my withdrawal.
The positives are that I no longer have to endure the MLM brigade and I no longer feel the need to like the 47 ( yes!) posts of a new baby taken in one day.
It's quite liberating actually!

Butterfly3105 · 03/11/2020 23:26

@Lardlizard Are you talking about Instagram or Facebook?

Sounds like insta, but don't you think it's childish to just unfollow her it looks like you're dong it for attention also did you ever think that perhaps what you're posting just might not be interesting enough for her to like it?
Anyways with everything that's going on now people have bigger problems is she ok?

Original poster
Lardlizard · 03/11/2020 23:22

Eat the ham, there’s a mum at school, she’s so miserable, like a dementor and v two faced
I used to smile and give her the time of the day, in hummering her type way
Anyway the other day she was actually waiting for me, saw me and waited for me to get to the same point as her, I just said hello Ina rushed type way and carried on walking Fast !
She seemed so shocked
But I’ve got to the point I’m past humouring some idiots

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MLMbotsgoaway · 03/11/2020 23:21

You do know that people only see about 4% of what is posted. If she has a lot of friends on FB she probably isn’t seeing your posts.

EatTheHamTina · 03/11/2020 23:20

I just don't get the fascination of likes. Does it really matter that I didn't double tap my thumb or finger for a heart to appear on your post.
I just don't get it.

Skysblue · 03/11/2020 23:18

Fb is weird. It shows me endless pictures of kittens but I only see posts from about half my friends, for the other friends I have to keep popping into their home profile to see if they’ve added anything nee. So annoying. Fb doesn’t care if we see friends posts or not they only care about advertising 😡