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Ginger & worried about the future.

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Noimusntforget · 28/10/2020 15:54

Our gorgeous toddler Dd has red/ginger hair, she’s very pale, with blue eyes and barely there eyebrows and eyelashes.
We’re both dark haired, with tanned skin and blue eyes, our girl doesn’t really look like us yet. Where we are (not in the uk) ginger hair is seen as very unusual and special, but we plan to move back to the uk in the next few years. I have a red headed friend who was bullied for years. When I look at my sweet, innocent girl, I feel fearful for the way she might be treated in a few years.
Anyone else have a red headed child? Is her colouring likely to change at this stage (2.4 months old)
Her hair and colouring is stunning and special to us, but people can be arseholes in life and I feel sad if she’ll have to encounter that.

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Dinocan · 28/10/2020 16:03

She will need to develop a fairly thick skin. I’m sorry. Anti ‘gingerness’ is still a think in the U.K. but I feel is becoming less so with red hair being seen as more desirable. I was never really bullied at school, so it’s certainly not a given, however I’ve still endured plenty of stupid and offensive comments (mainly from strangers it has to be said) and the usual ‘oh if the dc come out ginger you can just dye their hair’ that one was from my MIL! It’s a very strange thing.

THATbasicWITCH · 28/10/2020 16:02

I am a redhead as are two of my dc. I was sometimes teased about it at school. My dd (7) has not experienced this. I think times have changed

Bluntness100 · 28/10/2020 16:01

I think it is less of a thing now. I’d also say if a kid is going to get bullied they are going to get bullied, ginger hair or not. Kids find a reason. It’s not the reason making it happen.

I’d not worry at all about this. There is genuinely no reason to believe she will be bullied any more than another kid.

lljkk · 28/10/2020 16:01

It sucks & I feel outraged that British are like this (about red heads).

You can do a lot to instill resilience into your DD so that she doesn't let the bastards get her down.

Audreyseyebrows · 28/10/2020 16:01

I had red hair as a child which later went more brown. I’ve just dyed it copper.

I was never bullied because of my hair colour (was for other things!).

CaptainMyCaptain · 28/10/2020 15:58

red-head*

CaptainMyCaptain · 28/10/2020 15:58

I'm a natural re-head and in 65 years have never been bullied. I have heard it is more of a thing now but wouldn't worry too much.

Cornishmumofone · 28/10/2020 15:57

My nephew (whose mum has ginger hair) definitely looked strawberry blonde until he was about 4. He's now 11 and has mousy blonde hair.

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