To ask about your perimenopause symptoms

I'm 44 and unsure if I am in perimenopause, but think I could be.

My periods are heavier and I skipped one two months ago. Legs ache at times, like when I've been sitting down for a while they feel very stiff when I get up and I have to waddle. It might just be getting older but it's a big change.

I also have bad PMS.

My post was that the menopause passed me by, which it mostly did but now have hypothyroidism and a lifetime of medication so I was wrong.

How depressing. I commented on this thread in 2020 and now I’m 52 and still fucking bleeding regularly and having many symptoms.

52 in three months’ time and still having a period every 28-29 days, and yet….

My bullshit radar is turbo charged. I’m pathologically, emphatically, completely and totally sick of other people’s nonsense, selfishness and stupidity, which definitely feels linked to dwindling hormones.

I have become incapable of putting up with it all. I’ve rapidly become so irritable and so extremely intolerant.

This makes me sound like an absolute delight, I realise that. But at almost 52, ‘it is what it is’ . Deep breathing, counting to ten, trying (and invariably failing) to get a good night’s sleep are having no positive impact on my raging irritability.

Permanently wound up and Literally ready to kill anyone at any given moment. Often feel completely overwhelmed and out of control.

Waking up in middle of night brain whirring.

Inconsistent periods from hell

Such fun

I’m in a different country with a different healthcare system but has anyone considered having a consultation with a private gynaecologist? I would really recommend. It was worth every penny to have someone listen to you, order the appropriate blood tests and reassure you that this was all normal and then come up with some solutions. I realise this isn’t possible for everyone but if you can, it’s money well spent.

So the restless legs are another thing

On and off for a couple
Of years yet now I seem to get them for a few nights in a row just after ovulation (make a note on my phone when I started noticing a pattern )

I literally am now starting to feel heavy and tired etc and a bit flat so give it a week or so and I know il come on god I can read it and time it al just by how my body feels.

I literally reckon I get a round ten days out of a whole month where I feel normal nowadays.

my hairs gone curly, it was dead straight for 50 years now I keep getting asked if I've had a perm.

This has happened to me as well

relieved lady it's awful
Isn't it?

Today I felt like I was going insane, crying at the silliest thing. Want it to be done

Feel fat
Feel crud for about 2 weeks around ovulation until end of period and then have two weeks feeling like me

Weird aches and pains especially in the tummy and never experienced this before!

Now I feel sorry for teenagers during puberty.

Oh god this is me

The crippling headaches for the first two days of period

The immense wipes out feeling

Horrendous ovulation pain mid cycle and then again during period.

The hip pain

My low mood means I know exactly when I'm ovulating and again when I'm about to come on it's shocking

Tinnitus I've noticed aswel

I've gained two stone in a couple of years but this last 6 months it's jumped. I've never weighed this much in my life

I have no tolerance at all right now. Works been bloody hard going and my empathy for people has all but disappeared

I get the husband rage Aswell!bless him he's an awesome guy but I get the rage with him at hormonal times something chronic.

He knows now when I take myself off to the sofa when I get home from work because I've come on and am like death he picks up the slack and makes me good coffee

I take a well woman menopace tablet another multi vitamin a vitamin d and calcium and a vitamin b complex for hair aswel as a magnesium spray daily in the hope it keeps my levels well. Mind you I'm not feeling the benefit as yet

Can't take hrt due to having no thyroid so am already on hormones which is another wanker issue in itself so have no idea how it will pan out

Periods left right and centre, bleed for 6 weeks then nothing for 6 months, totally uncontrollable, no pad, tampon or mooncup big enough to cope with the tsunami of blood and I wake looking like I've slept with Freddy Kruger. Irrational mood swings, my temper is horrendous, I've always been a yes ma'am no ma'am how high? person, now I'm a fuck off you jump person, night sweats, anxiety, panic attacks, manic depression and my hairs gone curly, it was dead straight for 50 years now I keep getting asked if I've had a perm.

Unfortunately I'm stuck with all my symptoms as my doctor refuses to prescribe HRT. I can see me stabbing someone for asking something perfectly civil "Dimples would you like a cup of tea?" -- Do I look like I want a cup of tea?. Am I not capable of making my own cup of tea? Goes into a rage .. Or throwing myself off the M1 motorway bridge (that's never going to happen, my hips hurt I'd never get my leg over the railings) today I can laugh about it, tomorrow I could spend all day crying into my pillow ... I absolutely hate being me right now :-(

Internal vibration went to the docs with it, thought it was some sort of numerological thing I had. I was told that It was a symptom of the peri and menopause.

Crippling anxiety more so when I wake in the morning.

Very low mood.
Painful periods
Forgetfulness. The list goes on.

Has anyone tried Ashwagandha? One of my main symptoms is a shaking anxiety, especially when I’m working. Also I get headaches and insomnia.

I’ve bought 500mg capsules to try. I started taking them along with a vit B12 supplement but one of them is leaving an awful taste in my mouth.
Only been taking them 2 days so not seen any real improvement with anything yet.

Headaches, headaches and more bloody headaches

Thanks, will investigate further. I am seeing a physiotherapist tomorrow as I am not getting very far with the GP.

I’m not a doctor but I think the recommended dose is just to prevent rickets. I think you can take more but look into it. Also depends if you’re actually deficient. I take 2 1000iu at the monent but would usually take 1 a day Oct to April.

benjispruce I take vit D3 every day at the recommended dose by NHS is that sufficient?

Make sure you’re getting enough vitamin D3. I’ve had two 40/50 year old friends with aches in their legs/knees find out they’re deficient and the pain went when they were prescribed high doses of Vit D3.

Currently suffering sore hips and feel like I have OA, cannot move in the morning

Also period symptoms and still where is my period?

Some of these things are just ageing, not specifically menopause.

Most of the above. It is shocking. Having been skinny and flat chested all my life I now have D cup sore boobs all the time and a spare tyre. Thinning hair and a bristly chin. It is awful.

Dr Lara Briden's website and her Period Repair Manual have been quite helpful recently. It explains why all these things are happening and what the treatment options are. I looked at it originally as a friend recommended it to help dd with period pain, but it covers all ages.

Im 47. My periods are all over the place. I had a good few years of 3 weekly cycles but now it is anything from 20 days to 61 days.
I have had a lot of trouble with my urinary tract. Increased UTIs and just general discomfort. I take d-mannose religiously now but am rarely just right.
My libido is off.
I am getting fat around my middle.
My ankles, hips,.wrists, shoulders and knees all hurt at various time.
My hair is thinning.
I can't think straight.
I occasionally get night sweats. I've had hot flushes in the daytime only a handful of times.
I went to the doctors before lock.down about it as I wasn't sure if it was menopause or thyroid problems.
I've been put on iron tablets and I can walk up hills now but I still don't know what's what. Guess if it wasn't for the covid I'd be back asking questions.

@washimal yep. Im 36 and in full menopause. I have all your symptoms plus crushing anxiety and bloating.
Im on hrt and apart from weight gain and bad skin, it's been helpful to a degree. Still have issues with swears, greasy gaur, exhaustion, aches etc. But the brain fog and anxiety have lifted.
May be worth a trip to your gp