Moved home and hate it - want to move back!

Then focus on fixing it op. These things aren’t big deals and you’ve clearly got the money.

I was one who gave up and went back to parents! Obviously a trait with me

Well no because they are very different scenarios.

I mean this gently but you need to grow up. You’ve got kids. Trying to buy your old property back, asking to buy old neighbours' homes, and crying every day is really concerning behaviour.

Absolutely this.

OP, in the nicest possible way, I did think like a pp that 'moved home and I hate it' meant that you had moved back to the UK from the other side of the world and were hating it, and as someone who has moved countries a lot, and has just moved back to my home country after 25 years in various overseas countries, I was about to offer genuine sympathy, because the reverse culture shock can be really difficult.

But, OP, you've moved three miles -- you can still socialise all the time with your old friends and neighbours, and have exactly the same social outlets, shop in the same places etc, and the things that aren't ideal about the house are all fixable. The fact that you were already weeping in the garden as the removal men were still at work suggests some deep-seated issue in you, not anything to do with the new house or village.

Stop trying to magic your old life back. You moved for a reason, and presumably the reason is still there. You presumably still have the big garden you wanted, even if it's overlooked, and the family room you wanted, even if the kitchen needs repairing or replacement, and the extra bedroom space, even if one isn't bright.

New students at uni feel,like this because they are away from their families foe the first time. It’s very different. The op has moved with her family.

You cant go back though OP, the new owners are unlikely to sell it too you because they want the house and have just spent money on it.

Selling a house that quickly isnt going to look good either and I dont think it is about the house either. This isnt a rational reaction and its one that you need I think to look at closely. You wanted to achieve something by the move - what was it? A sense of achievement for getting the bigger house/nicer village. More space etc? Something drove you to want to leave your house that has been unfulfilled by moving - and I suspect moving again isnt going to fulfil it either.

You have done it before - why then?

I agree with user1471538283. Follow your heart and don't waste time trying to settle. You've listed some major things wrong with your new house that can't be overcome. Let friends know in your old village that you're looking to move back so they can help with your search.

It sounds like good old fashioned homesickness OP. I think you need to accept the way you feel rather than trying to fight it, and realise that you will start to feel better in time. Until then, fake it till you make it. Look on the bright side and find things to improve it enjoy about the new house and village, even small things.
New students at university feel like this all the time. Some just give up and go back to their parents, but the ones who make the effort to get through it end up having a great time.

Eight years we bought a house in an area I hadn't wanted to buy in, and was the next village to my ideal . It's only plus was it had the big garden my dh wanted and was detached.
The house needed new kitchen , bathrooms , Windows etc , basically the lot . Dh promised me that it would all be done asap.
Eight years on , we have the new Windows / doors / heating but no new kitchen , bathrooms . However dh has done his perfect garden !
Yes I'm a bit peed off that I'm yet to have my lovely home but I'm used to it now and it does feel like a shabby home.

How can you not have known about the things you did like about your new house? Did you not go and view it?

I mean this in the kindest way possible. You sound depressed and overwhelmed and I honestly think you should contact your gp to discuss medication and counselling.

Think about all the reasons why you wanted to move, you say the move was your idea and you wanted a bigger house in a nicer village. You are looking back at your old house with rose tinted glasses.
We can't always live in the house we want to, I didn't like a house I bought once but it ticked all the boxes and was right for the rest of the family, it was just me that hated it. I had no choice for various reasons, we had to sell our old home and move away through no choice of mine so I just had to make the best of it. You are very lucky,you have the house you chose in a village you chose. Now you need to chose to make the best of it, stop being so negative and look at the positives.

But I really don’t want to waste any more time being this unhappy when I could move back and be happy again

But you can't. The house I lived in between 1983 and 1988 has never been sold since we sold it! It may be that it has been rented out, but it's not been sold according to the Land Registry. So it really could be a very very long wait. Of course you could buy a different house 3 miles back where you have just moved from, but who's to say that it would be any better?

However, if you have already gone to the lengths of emailing the people who bought your old house maybe you could negotiate a house swap ;)

Gosh this is extreme.

You’re not even trying to settle in, it’s like you decided the first day you didn’t like it and have been hell bent on getting back and doing nothing to settle in since then.

I mean this gently but you need to grow up. You’ve got kids. Trying to buy your old propert back, asking to buy old neighbours homes, and crying every day is really concerning behaviour.

I think you need to speak to your doctor again Urgently and take some responsibility to get more help to fix whatever mental health issues Are causing this behaviour, because just now the treatment isn’t working as you said.

And as you do, also do something to make this house a home. This must be awful for everyone living with you. You left your old house for a good reason, now you need to make this house a home, and seek medical help to get you back on an even keel.

And you can still socialise with the neighbours, it’s three miles!

You wanted to move, so now it's time to face the consequences of your actions- it may be you are not terribly good at doing this......

You are also being very selfish to your husband with all this crying.

OP this was me nearly 3 years ago everything your post said. I still think about my old house/area, although not as much anymore. I was EXACTLY like you - very agitated and irrational and howling crying wanting my old house back. The day we moved in, I felt it was wrong, our pet also died that night and I realised how utterly SHIT the sound proofing was! The house was suppost to be a better move, bigger for family needs. The house fell to bits when we moved in, huge flood downstairs, boiler broke, faulty heating - you name it. This did not help my mental health trying to settle.

3 years on and no sign of getting a move I have learned to try and like what I do have and both my children have their own room now - which is why I moved and we are not cramped anymore. There is major improvement still needing done and I will get there. We also got a dog so taking her walks, I have found a hidden gem in the area.

I will be honest though, if I could get my hands on a newbuild or move to a better area Id probs pack up instantly!

You arnt alone and reading this thread makes me realize this. I hope you calm down a bit (HUGS).

I think you need to stop thinking about going backwards and concentrate on going forwards.

Think about how you can achieve more privacy, think about how you can improve the parking, how you can improve the kitchen and the bedroom. How much time do you spend in the bedroom in daylight.

Changes to decor etc make a massive difference. This is along the lines of think of 3 things you are thankful for today, you need to find the positives and remind yourself of why you didn't want to stay in the old house.

I am sorry. I think I would up sticks and leave as soon as I could. A new home regardless of its condition should be exciting. It sounds like you are having a gut reaction

Yup. I moved 500 yards from a rented house to one we finally bought. I hated it for months until such time as we completely renovated it. It is much nicer now, arguably one of the best in the area. I've learned to like it. But after seven years I still love that old rented house and would move back to it in a second if it ever came on the market. But we couldn't afford to rent forever.

I feel sorry for your DH, you seem like hard work

I’ve had this with each house move (and there have been many!) all different areas so having to get used to a new place and routine. I considered moving home but knew deep down it would be a mistake for various reasons and my gut was proven right so I have stayed put. I never move back to a previous area I left, to avoid these wobbles.
It’s normal to panic and wonder if you made the right choice at first, but give it time now you are there. You moved there for a reason, remember those reasons and give yourself a chance to settle in before making anymore decisions. Each home I’ve settled in fine after a month or so, you learn to adjust and make it your own.
If it turns out to be a mistake you still have the option of moving again one day, it may even turn out to be your forever home.