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To wonder why up to 35 is now considered young

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thedaywewillremeber · 10/08/2020 21:43

I’ve just seen an article where young people are referred to as being up to 35. Aibu to wonder why this is when it used to be 25 maximum that was viewed as a young person.

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OwlOne · 23/11/2020 08:00

I agree with @IncandescentSilver even though at 50 I fall in to a category that hurts, a bit!

Nobody thinks 35 is a teenager, nobody really thinks a 35 year old can behave with exactly the same freedoms as an 18 year old, but it is still young and you'll waste '35'' if you feel you're not still young at 35

Redwinestillfine · 23/11/2020 07:58

When was 25 old??Halloween Hmm

Cam77 · 23/11/2020 07:58

Hit 30 and you’re youth is done! I’ve never considered a 30 something “young”. There is of course a difference between not being young and being hardcore middle aged.

ivykaty44 · 23/11/2020 07:58

Many parents treat there teenagers in such an infantile way that they’re still growing up during there 20s, parents have delayed the process of adulthood

lazylinguist · 23/11/2020 07:58

25 was never a universally agreed 'young person' limit, and 35 isn't now. It depends entirely on your perspective or the perspective of the person writing. You read one article.

However, factors like people living longer and the change in the average age people leave home (due to it having become more common to do further education, or due to changes in the job market) potentially affect this.

CherryPavlova · 23/11/2020 07:57

To a twelve year old thirty seems pretty ancient. To an eighty year old it feels very young. Perceptions of age are about how old you are.

CakeRequired · 23/11/2020 07:56

Yay thank god I'm still young! Grin Although in my head I'm still 18, it's refusing to believe the real number.

scentedgeranium · 23/11/2020 07:55

I was definitely going on my thirties! I'm 54 now.
Surely it's a function of the average lifespan increasing?

Lex01 · 23/11/2020 07:54

"Average age of menopause is 52.

Perimenopause begins as early as 10 years before that.

So you could be in perimenopause by 41 - makes 35 not seem so young!"

35 is not 41. It's 6 years away from it. That's like saying 12 is basically an adult because it's 6 years away from 18!

bluebluezoo · 23/11/2020 07:53

In the 90’s the industry I worked in had a “young candidate of the year” award.

It was 35 and under. 35 is “young”, relatively speaking.

diddl · 23/11/2020 07:51

@TableFlowerss

Just googled it

Up to 35 young adult
36-55 middle aged (although pretty sure the majority of under 40’s wouldn’t consider themselves middle aged 😳 technically yes but not really😂

55+ older adults.

I suppose there’s a similar difference between 18-35 as there is to 56- 75 year old.

My goodness I'm only just out of middle age.

I like that!

pressedclay · 23/11/2020 07:49

I think it is just a change in culture and potentially health. Compare photographs of your grandparents at your age to how you look and their is likely a big difference. Its still common to see even women in their 40's with smooth youthful skin.

I think terms of young and middle aged or elderly are also wrapped up with consumer issues and marketing and politics. So it depends what marketing group you fit into. Lots of 35 year olds are still single or in couples with no kids so your marketing to them the same as you might a 25 year old interms of fashion, nights out, holidays etc.

LITHIUMcomeasUare · 23/11/2020 07:40

@CanadianJohn

My 93-year-old sister-in-law insists that she is not old. If pressed, she will admit to getting "older".
Good for her.
decoratingnightmare · 23/11/2020 07:29

Average age of menopause is 52.

Perimenopause begins as early as 10 years before that.

So you could be in perimenopause by 41 - makes 35 not seem so young!

Lex01 · 23/11/2020 07:09

"Princess Diana was called young when she died, few weeks after her 36th birthday. Not new thing."

Does anyone think 36 would be a ripe old age to die? Seriously, you have a lot more life left in you at that age. What is wrong with you people?

Lex01 · 23/11/2020 06:51

I don't know why anyone would think 35 is middle-aged in this day and age, and overall scheme of life, it's very young. I know many 90s year olds. 35 is nothing.

yomellamoHelly · 23/11/2020 06:46

I think that fits with how I view myself. Didn't start a family until I was in my mid-30s. Think that shift in word view makes you feel a lot older.

DipSwimSwoosh · 23/11/2020 06:37

My dd was born in 2018. The day she was born on heard on the radio that 1 in 3 girls born that year would live to be 100.

SomewhereInbetween1 · 23/11/2020 06:34

All the time my mum still buys me an advent calendar, I'll consider myself young.

Currently 29 Grin

CanadianJohn · 23/11/2020 06:00

My 93-year-old sister-in-law insists that she is not old. If pressed, she will admit to getting "older".

Caeruleanblue · 23/11/2020 05:01

I think it might be people having children later.
My DM was a GM at 50. I became a GM at 59. So the 'young' members of the family were childfree and enjoying freedom into their 30s. So it was considered young.

malificent7 · 23/11/2020 04:49

Well I am a decrepid 42 year old so this thread has given me a confidence boost. Not.

SickToDeathOfThis · 23/11/2020 04:49

Because the Kardashians are turning 40...

GrandTheftWalrus · 23/11/2020 04:03

I turned 36 last week. Other than when I see the number written down I don't feel that old. Nor do I feel middle aged.

I do have a 4yo and am currently pregnant with no 2. That may be keeping me young.

lljkk · 23/11/2020 03:39

Princess Diana was called young when she died, few weeks after her 36th birthday. Not new thing.