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Neighbours and Weed

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Pewwhatasmell · 15/06/2020 22:51

NC.

We had new neighbours move in about a month ago. Very young couple, 22 max, 2 kids. It's their first house, he works shifts, and you can tell they're still finding their way in life. Ok to chat to. That's the good bits.

They are very vocal, argue a lot, the kids are screaming around 18 hours of the day. We are already pretty fed up with them but keep reminding ourselves that these are strange times and it may get better after lockdown. We're also both quite avoidant to confrontation.

They quite obviously smoke weed, and a lot of it. The man put a chair half way down our garden to smoke it during the day (facing towards our decking / seating area which was previously quite private), but at night smokes indoors. The smell is permeating through our walls and into our house (we're both mid terrace). I used to smoke weed and am fairly non judgemental about it, but my house fucking stinks. Plus knowing they have a toddler and a baby indoors, it makes me very uneasy.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? DP has offered to have a quite chat which I hope will help, but I'm not sure. I think we should report to SS due to the children, DP concerned that they will immediately know it's us and could lash out.

I suffer quite badly from anxiety and am often torn about what to do in difficult situations, hence reaching out to MN. If anyone has been in a similar situation would be keen to hear your solutions.

OP posts:
priya38 · 15/06/2020 23:28

I think reporting them to ss is taking it a little too far.

maddy68 · 15/06/2020 23:22

Can you have a polite word about the noise ? They may not realise. And suggest that perhaps they close their windows when smoking weed as it's very strong and it's coming into your home. But definitely don't make a massive deal out of it

chubbychipmonk · 15/06/2020 23:19

I would report to police and SS. This is the problem, too many people don't want to get involved and then all these children exposed to situations they shouldn't be slip through the net.
If you can smell it Hth at strongly in the house maybe he's growing it? Does the house have a loft??

maddy68 · 15/06/2020 23:19

I find it strange , the UK is one of the few countries that weed is illegal and therefore deemed unacceptable.

It doesn't make the children at risk anymore than children of non smokers

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Pewwhatasmell · 15/06/2020 23:15

I was so close to reporting them to SS on several occasions but DH convinced me that nothing would be done and it would just cause even more tensions.

@namechangetheworld, this is our concern. They have already made us feel uncomfortable in our own home (again, trying to stay zen and hope that it improves as lockdown eases) and I think it has the potential to get worse if we rock the boat.

I really don't care what they do, and I can (mostly) put up with the noise, but we spent a lot of money and time renovating this house to make it perfect when we bought it last year and I really don't like it stinking of someone else's drugs.

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namechangetheworld · 15/06/2020 23:11

You have my sympathies OP. We were in your exact position a few years ago. Our revolting ex-neighbours used to constantly smoke weed in their house and garden, around their toddler children. Any time we dared to open our living room windows or patio doors the smell came straight in. It used to make our washing reek.

Anybody who claims that weed 'chills you out' is delusional - both of them were angry, violent, and constantly screaming at each other.

I was so close to reporting them to SS on several occasions but DH convinced me that nothing would be done and it would just cause even more tensions.

crispysausagerolls · 15/06/2020 23:01

YANBU one of our neighbours apples weed and it is fucking antisocial, smells rank and I don’t want to have to smell it/have DS inhale it.

I would be extremely worried if they are constantly yelling/children screaming and they are potheads. Yes to SS.

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Pewwhatasmell · 15/06/2020 23:00

Well it's coming through the doors, windows, everything. These are 2 up 2 down terraces and we're in really close quarters.

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maddy68 · 15/06/2020 22:58

It doesn't come.through walls!

Honestly it doesn't bother me (although I do understand as I cannot stand the smell of normal cigarettes. , Weed smell is nice (to me)

He probably sits half way down ten garden to avoid the smell coming into people's gardens. I'd rather be next to stoners than drinkers

I wouldn't say or do anything

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