Neighbours and Weed

Exactly @heartsonacake you can't be there meeting all their needs if you're off your face so you can't look after them properly. Not difficult to understand.

I'm a very loving mother actually, put my child before myself and meet all their needs. Don't dish it out if you can't take it, you started with the bitchy comments not me.

@Doing yes the revenue will come in handy and disarm a huge criminal element too so it’s a no brainier for me; look at a lot of countries and see the direction, that’s what intrigues me about the pearl clutching breaking the law drugs mmmkay bad people.

To subject kids to smoke in the house is always wrong of course. But that is beyond the power of SS or anyone really.

@Lonelycrab, I would love for weed to be legalised just for the extra revenue alone but it won't stop people from complaining about smoking - they just won't be able to threaten you with the police etc.

Maybe because one is illegal and one isn't?

So if the law were to change, your stance would shift, no?

@Pewwhatasmell, sorry I didn't mean to add to your anxiety.
I will say though that I quit smoking exactly a year ago after MN put me to shame for smoking on my downstairs balcony. It honestly never occurred to me that it would travel to the upstairs flat (they have a toddler ). Never crossed my mind that opening windows would be a a problem for them. Stupid, I know.
They never complained and they were always polite, but when I did quit smoking, I couldn't wait to tell them (it was my way of staying quit) and they could totally smell it.

Could you explain why alcohol in society is ok, and weed is not?

Maybe because one is illegal and one isn't?

You can’t be a drug taker and a good parent
But I guess a glass of wine in the evening is fine, yes?

I think someone who peddles half truths and blind conformity to be not capable of being a good parent, but hey ho, each to their own.

To the nurse: how’s A&E on an average Friday night in a U.K. hospital? Full of stoners?

The many poor homeless I see on the way to work are alcoholics.

There seemed to be beer fuelled Neanderthals in our capital this weekend too, fighting the police.

Could you explain why alcohol in society is ok, and weed is not? I’d be surprised if you could give a coherent answer

LemonPeonies isn’t wrong. You can’t be a drug taker and a good parent.

Oh and my job has nothing to do with it being a fact that not everyone would make a good parent and I lump anyone who regularly takes drugs to the point the neighbours house stinks or if they were really drunk. It would make you incapable of caring for them properly so they don't deserve them.

I'm a fantastic nurse and mother thank you. Looks like you've got way too much time on your hands are you offended because you're one of those mums who thinks it's ok to parent your child while under the influence? You must be such a good parent

@Pewwhatasmell this sounds really stressful and we have a similar issue.

Speak to them nicely and if that doesn’t work then have a chat with the LL but whatever do you - don’t actually complain to the Council otherwise you’ll have to declare it when you sell up

We’re hanging on for a few months and hoping they’ll retreat as it gets colder and wetter. Then sell.

I must admit I'm very taken aback that a NURSE would use the phrase 'I hope you're not a mother' on a site where people talk about troubles to conceive. I've said it back out of anger but what a bloody horrible thing to say to someone

@Lonelycrab 100% agree and for a nurse to be so judgemental and hostile about it.... wow

@LemonPeonies I'm actually dying laughing at you trying to be insulting by calling me 'hun' 😂

And also as a nurse I really hope you're not so judgemental and stereotypical. I truly hope you're not a mother because dear lord, your poor kids 😂

@Lemon but it’s stereotypical nonsense, it really is. I know many prominent people, successful businesses people that smoke it. One is a university professor and lecturer who writes papers that shape his particular field. Another is a multimillionaire, who retiring to a huge chateau he’s built in the alps. Many more too, and they’re all considerably more successful than you or I. If you only know “sad” and “slow” people that smoke then I’m sorry, but you actually have had a sheltered, one dimensional experience of it and you’re not the authority you seem to think you are.

It’s a bit like if I said that anyone who enjoys a drink is a violent loud mouthed football fan. That would be a stupid, blinkered thing to say.

@ThisShitCrazy I do not live in a sad sheltered world "hun", you have no idea what a rough school I went to and how many people I know who still do it. I'm a nurse, I can tell when people smoke it, I've had colleagues and patients try to get away with it and I always tell them I know. If you think being under the influence of something that is well known for slowing you down (hence the chilled out feeling) as it slows your synapse responses in the brain etc, makes you good at looking after children then I hope you're not a mother and you don't do things like that yourself

Unless you can get their landlord involved there is nothing you can do. SS will not care, police will not care. You could try talking to your neighbours but if they don't care about smoking weed around their own young children I doubt they care about smoking it around you either.

I tried it a couple of times at uni but to be fair I do find the weed smokers I’ve come across (and I know a lot in the field I work in) are generally quite “sad”, paranoid people
who mistakenly think they are “hip” and liberal.

People who smoke weed are always slow and a bit dim and they don't see it themselves.

😂😂😂😂 I know people in senior management that smoke weed daily and take coke every weekend. What a sad sheltered little world you live in

Doesn't sound like a SS or police issue. I'd let your partner have a quiet word like he suggests but definitely investigate the loft space. If they're cultivating it that's another issue and can also be a fire risk.

People saying it's not like crack etc or alcohol. Being under the influence affects your abilities to react to danger, at the very least. Like any drug it literally kills brain cells. People who smoke weed are always slow and a bit dim and they don't see it themselves. I don't think children are safe being supervised by people who are drunk or on drugs. I would say something.

If you think it’s likely that they’re smoking weed around their 2 very young children then I think it would be reasonable to report to SS. Not because it’s illegal, but because how can you be sure they’re able to meet their children’s needs all of the time if they’re constantly stoned?

Going down to the bottom of the garden when the kids are in bed to have a single spliff and relax in the evening is fine, similar to sitting down with a glass or two of wine, but if they are smoking all day everyday to the point you can smell it in your house that would make me question whether they are fit to care for the children effectively. I would say the same if you knew they were drinking alcohol all day around the kids.

I would report your concerns because if you’re worried about a child’s welfare it’s always better to raise a concern and find everything’s fine than ignore it and find out down the line that a child’s come to harm. It sounds like they are a young family and potentially struggling with managing their kids and social services may be able to offer them support to improve their parenting (if needed) and help them to be able to get through a day with the kids without needing to turn to drugs.