Am I the only woman in the UK whose..

I understand and always had acne since a teenager though no idea about rosacea. I've seen dermatologists, had antibiotics, creams, acids, roaccutane, laser, microneedling, peels, supplements, diets.. to varying effects so I still get spots and have scars. It is very soul and esteem destroying.

I'm trying to reduce makeup but even in lockdown it's the first thing I do.
I remove in evening so DH is the person who would see me most without makeup. I dont even like the kids to see me without any foundation.

Sorry just realised my post probably sounded really shitty.

Just making the point that most people look better with makeup...if they didn't, no one would buy it! Doesn't mean you look awful without it though. And besides, loving someone is about far more than the superficial.

I think my problem is because I wore it constantly, it's more of a shock when you don't. So I used to wear make up to work every day, one day I didn't...I was asked throughout the day if I was ill! Whereas if I'd never worn it in the first place, then put some on, I'd have probably got compliments.

I think I look awful without make up but I have
Noticed that they random times when my husband says I look pretty is when I am not wearing any
Make up.

I’ve been with my DH since 16 and now both 60. His favourite time (so he tells me) is looking at my face in the morning while I’m still asleep.
Give your DH a bit of credit - I’m sure he loves you just as you are.

Hello OP. Sorry that you are struggling. Here is an article I thought that you might find of interest. Best of luck to you.

How To Treat Rosacea: What I've Learned From 5 Years With The Condition | Glamour UK
www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/gallery/rosacea-real-life-story

Well done for giving it a try, OP! I don't go out without make-up on, but I am make-up free a lot at home. No-one has died of shock yet.

I used to be like this. When we started living together I would get up early, re apply my make up and go back to bed!

My dh will admit I look better with make up on... he's right, I do, but he has no say in whether I wear it or not. Most days I do but that's for me not him.

To be honest, most women look better with well applied make up on despite all the women who are queuing up to tell us their husbands prefer them make up free...yeah right!

I had beautiful skin ( others told me) until i had a hysterectomy then out of nowhere Roscea appeared, although the heat and the pain sometimes get to me, it doesnt bother me at all. Nobody treats me any differently or stares. I took my doctors advice and kept the sun off my face but in the last few weeks i have let the sun on my face, now my face is very tanned i have no burning, no pain and no spots.

I’m very similar, I have a lot of redness, I’m looking into getting Botox for facial redness. I’m sick of it, I don’t leave the house without make up, I don’t even accept a delivery without make up. It took me 2 years to let my OH see me without make up. I’m literally sick to death of wearing make up 24/7

I can’t believe you haven’t been to a gp in all this time and asked for a referral. You could have saved yourself years of embarrassment.

And do your research too - there are lots of treatments for skin conditions and for self esteem issues.

Glad you have taken the first step. Your skin will thank you. And if your h doesn’t like you with no makeup, he’s a shallow twat who doesn’t deserve you.

Just seen your update. Well done OP - and hooray! I hope your skin starts feeling better with nights off!

The tinted moisturiser and constant makeup will be making the redness much worse.

It needs to breathe.

A friend with rosacea had some laser light treatment which really helped, but she had to be totally makeup free for the 3 months of treatment.

Perhaps use lockdown, whilst there's only your husband to see, as a way to wean yourself off the constant makeup.

My Husband has never seen me with make up on, i have roscea to.

LovelyIssues
I use to work in a medical aesthetics clinic where we did IPL for rosacea and broken capillaries, it was incredibly effective. Its similar to laser but apart from a little redness afterwards there was no downtime. It causes slight discomfort but nothing too dramatic (no more painful than waxing), it used to cost about £150 for full face treatment and they usually recommend 3 treatments about a month apart. It's worth googling it to find out more. Please, please do your research well as there are cowboys out there. I use to get it done free by a colleague and I loved it.

There is also microneedling for acne scarring and although I use to administer treatment I've never had that done and I know that is painful. However there are some great affordable skin care brands out there who offer effective home chemical peels. Again please do you research and use the products exactly as instructed, they can cause chemical burns if you go off piste with the application.

It would be wonderful if we could all just accept the things we are self conscious about but I take the view that if there's an effective fix then why not deal with it and forget about it and it sounds like your quality of life would be significantly improved if the redness/ uneven skin tone and scarring were improved.

I hope this might be useful information but please whatever you decide you must research the treatment thoroughly not only to prevent harm but also to give you realistic expectations.

Was meant to say mee too. Always wear mascara and eyebrow stuff and foundation.

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Thats so so sad, I can't imagine living like that.
I'm sure on some level he must know. It must be exhausting for you.
What about when you're not feeling well?

Well if you are, I'm probably the Yin to your Yang. Most of my dates (I'm a ridiculous commitment phobe, so perfectly single] have never seen me with any makeup. Makeup is not something that's ever interested me. I definitely 'feel' worse with it on, although I accept that, to the public at large, I may look better

Lock down has done wonders for my skin. No makeup (apart from. Mascara), creaming every morning and washing over with water twice a day. Usually I have a lot of red spots, none at the momenta nd I've never felt like my skin is so good! Even been going to work with no foundation or highlighter

I get it op. I used to have acne and my partner didn't see me without make up for the first 3 years. We've now been together 15 years so he sees me first thing in the morning now , but very briefly for 5 minutes before I've got my make up on again! I have always felt so ugly without it, perhaps because I was bullied at school. So yes yanbu I understand!