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AliceInBlunderland13 · 18/02/2020 13:11

Semi-regular poster but I’ve name changed for this as the details could be quite outing. Also not really an AIBU but posting for traffic and all that…
There have been two periods in my life when I have lived and/or worked in the city of Bath, Somerset and I’ve experienced problems with my mental health on both occasions. The first was right after I finished by undergraduate degree in London and I moved to Bath to do a Masters at the university. I started in the October and by Christmas I was experiencing terrible panic attacks and depression. I did manage to complete the course but as soon as I finished I ended the tenancy on my flat early and moved back home. I then worked in my home town for a few years, during which time I had no problems with my mental health. Then I decided to do a PhD and took a position again at the uni in Bath. This time I didn’t move there but instead moved to a nearby town and commuted in. Yet again within a couple of months of being there I began experiencing daily panic attacks, terrible anxiety and feelings of dissociation, and depression. I tried to stick it out (had counselling, on meds etc) but I still felt utterly miserable so I recently quit the course and found a new job in another town.
Even after having counselling, I’ve never truly got to the bottom of what triggers these episodes. Logically, it could be stress related as both a Masters and a PhD are obviously a lot of work but then I dealt with the stresses of my undergraduate course just fine, and the job I had between my Masters and PhD was high-stress and I loved it – in fact I used to think I worked best with a bit of pressure.
Then the other day, I was reading an old thread on here (bored while I wait to start my new job Grin ) about places people found creepy. Several people mentioned that they didn’t like Bath or that it had an odd atmosphere – I think one poster described it as ‘melancholy’. Now normally I’m very rational and logical (except when the anxiety takes over Confused ) and wouldn’t give it a second thought, but I couldn’t help wondering if anyone has any experience of feeling anxious/down in a particular place, or if anyone else has felt this ‘atmosphere’ in Bath? I know some will say it’s a load of pish but I guess I’m just interested in other people’s experiences really…

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SleepOhHowIMissYou · 09/05/2020 09:51

I love Brighton, but then I would be easily recognised as part of the tribe and I think this is largely what feelings described here boil down to. That intrinsic and uncomfortable feeling that you don't belong picked up from social clues from the residents of the town you're visiting.

Education and culture in the UK is still rather geared towards observance of Christian/Catholic values and, in a lot of the places mentioned here, there is a strong pagan undercurrent engendering subconscious suspicion and fear.

crimsonlake · 09/05/2020 00:23

Saltburn in Yorkshire, we stopped off there whilst on holiday one day. I cannot describe how uncomfortable and errily strange the place made me feel.

JudyGemstone · 08/05/2020 23:29

I went to uni in Bath but never lived there, from what I saw there was very little to do for anyone younger than middle aged.

JudyGemstone · 08/05/2020 23:28

I'd say usernameusrnme has Bath pretty spot on.

Whoever lumped Bristol in with it, how very dare you! Bristol is far superior in every way.

Yes to whoever said about Bath being 'safe' meaning white and Bristol 'edgy' meaning multicultural. Despite, or maybe partly because of its slave trade history, Bristol is one of the most culturally integrated cities in the U.K., everyone rubs along together and it's very friendly.

Lillyhatesjaz · 08/05/2020 14:51

I agree about Porlock weir but I think the village itself is fine

ilikebooksandplants · 08/05/2020 14:03

I know this is an oldish thread but I’m glad it’s been revived because it’s interesting. I had the same sinister, menacing feeling the one and only time I’ve been to whitstable.

AvalancheKit · 08/05/2020 13:05

Forest of Dean has parts that are like driving through a mid-west US town where they only see strangers once every 15 years. Gothic revival Victorian cottages with well- peeled painted wood frame windows, net curtains and dead plants in windows.

Pineapples1980 · 08/05/2020 07:22

Love this thread and now I really want to visit Glastonbury to experience the oddness!

SingleHandSue · 08/05/2020 01:01

The only place that made me feel really uneasy was the area around Porlock and Porlock Weir. We were on holiday in Minehead and took a drive out. I hated it so much, it felt really oppressive and I felt quite panicky, I begged DH to drive us back as soon as possible. I’d never go back.

123Dancewithme · 08/05/2020 00:46

I love Bath! I’d live there if I could afford it.

I don’t like Glastonbury though. Very unfriendly place.

Strawberrycreamsundae · 07/05/2020 21:23

I too feel uneasy in Glastonbury; the hippy vibe has a malevolent undercurrent.
I hate the atmosphere on Holy Island, I couldn’t get away from it fast enough when we visited. It was a lovely sunny day but a very chilling atmosphere.

Strawberrycreamsundae · 07/05/2020 21:20

I live near to Bath now, have been going there regularly pretty much all my life including going to school there. I don’t like the city at all, it’s expensive, dirty, overrated and ruined by hoards of visitors. I also feel it is actually pseudo-Georgian in a lot of places., mere facades.
You need to be upper middle class, well educated and posh to fit in, it feels unwelcoming to newcomers.
Too many empty shops, homeless people begging and soulless.

AvalancheKit · 07/05/2020 19:57

This is really interesting. The first time I went to the centre of Bath it was vibrant with lots of independent retailers. This was around 1990 or 1991. I went back to the centre in 2002 for an evening event at the Baths and both that event and the following day mooching around had a very different feel to it. Menacing. I remember driving down the A417 and there was the most massive murmuration of starlings taking place in the sky and it looked brooding rather than awesome.

The thing that I remember Bath for most was a news report somewhere around those times of a local unrest to which the police were called. Just lots of people getting pissed early on a Friday or Saturday night and someone turned on male and female police officers. Many other drinkers turned out and laid into the police. The female officer was badly beaten - unconscious I think and lots of people turned out to cheer the attackers on. This was before the 'explosion' of the internet I recall.

For that alone there is something dark about Bath. Geography and buildings can forge people. Look at the ancient Egyptians, the Portugese and modern New Zealand.

usernameusrnme1 · 07/05/2020 19:37

Ive had it all over the place .This ward, that ward. In shops, this place, that place. Am I famous? I dont think so. That alone is enough to make me want to leave. Definitely not just in the town centre. If anything its less there and is probably the only part that I enjoy being in as a result. I've never come across more weird and awkward people anywhere else in the UK. Thats genuinely not hyperbole.

As for the cliquey behaviour, why is that? In other cities people meet, talk, discover. Bath seems IMO to attract a certain type of person more so than other cities London, Bristol, Manchester etc.

Madcats · 07/05/2020 10:29

Why do we stare here?

Whereabouts in Bath is this? I can't say that I've ever noticed. I do have form for staring blankly when I am thinking, so I have possibly been tailing you.

With 30,000 students, many many Airbnb's and lots of tourists you probably won't see too many locals in the town centre.

I agree with others that Bath is very very cliquey in terms of both social circles and neighbourhoods.

The city is in for a challenging year or two, I fear.

usernameusrnme1 · 06/05/2020 22:39

Any Bath residents able to weigh in on why people are so weird when they stare here? Just stare stare stare. Anyone get that nosy vibe here. People say its a very nosy place with nothing but gossip which isnt what people like the OP might like.

usernameusrnme1 · 06/05/2020 15:54

Lots of smiles when you're spending money

zscaler · 06/05/2020 11:26

That’s so interesting - I’ve been to Bath twice (for a long weekend each time) and absolutely fell in love with the place, I remember it so fondly even now.

usernameusrnme1 · 06/05/2020 11:25

Maybe this also contribute to the OP's feelings and vibe they picked up.

usernameusrnme1 · 06/05/2020 11:24

Once again as for the people....

www.bathchronicle.co.uk/news/bath-news/what-absolute-load-tosh-bath-889304

usernameusrnme1 · 06/05/2020 11:22

There is too much focus on tourism and not enough on more economic range. Independents need to cater to a wider demographic and not just the radio 4 crowd. Big businesses are fine and bring the place up to date while providing an alternative to the "lets preserve the look static"

AlphaJura · 03/05/2020 19:04

That's interesting, the Ken Loach article. I can kind of see what he means. They have cleaned up the buildings and stopped traffic going in the centre and many of us thought the new shopping centre was nice and in keeping after the 1970's monstrosity that was there before, does anyone remember that? But I suppose maybe it did have more character. I do agree that maybe smaller, independent shops have been pushed out and the centre is full of generic chain stores like any other city centre.

Upthread some pp were talking about stretches of road that are spooky. On one of the roads in/out of bath, it goes through some woodland where there's a folly on top of the hill. There's some strange stories about it and why it was built. It's called 'sally in the woods'. People say the birds don't sing in the woods and there's ghost stories about people braking down on the road. Strange as the folly over looks Bath 🤔.

usernameusrnme · 01/05/2020 21:10

www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2017/oct/20/ken-loach-says-his-beloved-bath-being-ruined-by-tourism

Have a look at some of the comments

AlphaJura · 28/04/2020 18:35

I was born in Bath and don't live too far away from it now. I've never lived there but visit it regularly. It can be alright, the park by the crescent is nice in the summer. I have had quite a few 'weird' experiences in Bath though. I do prefer Bristol, lived there for 10 years. I feel it's got more of a 'sense of humour' than Bath, even though it's not as pretty.

I don't mind Glastonbury although it has got quite an intense feeling. Must be the ley lines. Aveburys a bit like that too, but I like it. A lot of places in the West Country feel a bit strange, magical and a bit 'trippy'. Not to everyone's taste. Two places I wouldn't be in a hurry to visit again would be Stroud and Andover.

Oliversmumsarmy · 27/04/2020 22:34

Chillicheese123 if gunfights across the street didn’t put me off I don’t think a load of Spring Breakers would