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AliceInBlunderland13 · 18/02/2020 13:11

Semi-regular poster but I’ve name changed for this as the details could be quite outing. Also not really an AIBU but posting for traffic and all that…
There have been two periods in my life when I have lived and/or worked in the city of Bath, Somerset and I’ve experienced problems with my mental health on both occasions. The first was right after I finished by undergraduate degree in London and I moved to Bath to do a Masters at the university. I started in the October and by Christmas I was experiencing terrible panic attacks and depression. I did manage to complete the course but as soon as I finished I ended the tenancy on my flat early and moved back home. I then worked in my home town for a few years, during which time I had no problems with my mental health. Then I decided to do a PhD and took a position again at the uni in Bath. This time I didn’t move there but instead moved to a nearby town and commuted in. Yet again within a couple of months of being there I began experiencing daily panic attacks, terrible anxiety and feelings of dissociation, and depression. I tried to stick it out (had counselling, on meds etc) but I still felt utterly miserable so I recently quit the course and found a new job in another town.
Even after having counselling, I’ve never truly got to the bottom of what triggers these episodes. Logically, it could be stress related as both a Masters and a PhD are obviously a lot of work but then I dealt with the stresses of my undergraduate course just fine, and the job I had between my Masters and PhD was high-stress and I loved it – in fact I used to think I worked best with a bit of pressure.
Then the other day, I was reading an old thread on here (bored while I wait to start my new job Grin ) about places people found creepy. Several people mentioned that they didn’t like Bath or that it had an odd atmosphere – I think one poster described it as ‘melancholy’. Now normally I’m very rational and logical (except when the anxiety takes over Confused ) and wouldn’t give it a second thought, but I couldn’t help wondering if anyone has any experience of feeling anxious/down in a particular place, or if anyone else has felt this ‘atmosphere’ in Bath? I know some will say it’s a load of pish but I guess I’m just interested in other people’s experiences really…

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RhubarbBikini · 18/02/2020 23:54

I love Bath and have very happy memories of spending school holidays there visiting my glorious grandparents. I try and visit with own kids at least once a year. We're going tomorrow infact

littleyikes · 18/02/2020 23:52

Yes! Lived there four years, a string of constant bad luck whilst there, I was so depressed and anxious I couldn't leave the house! Moved somewhere different (so wasn't homesickness) and I was fine in months.

Coffeeisnecessary · 18/02/2020 23:44

This is really interesting, I loved both Bath and Glastonbury when I visited, but I felt incredibly peaceful in Wells when we visited, I don't really believe in all the woo stuff but I felt like it was my spiritual home!

CalmYoBadSelf · 18/02/2020 23:44

Glastonbury disliker here. So excited to go. Couldn't wait to leave. At first just felt a strong feeling of anticipation. Something going to happen. Turned into oppressive menace.
This sums up my visit to Glastonbury perfectly. I love woo so was really excited but left feeling quite scared

megletthesecond · 18/02/2020 23:30

Tavistock gave me the willies.
Brighton wasn't great either. Forced fun but a huge undercurrent of miserable drug use.

StripyHorse · 18/02/2020 23:20

I have never been to Glastonbury, but like most of the places mentioned here (including Bath).

I wonder if the radon map has something to do with it? I live, and grew up in a high radon area so perhaps I am not sensitive to it as some people are?

It is just big cities that get me. I hate London and Manchester. I was in a different city as a student and found it ok but when I came home (semi rural location) I felt so much more relaxed seeing fields and open spaces. Nothing woo though.

hammeringinmyhead · 18/02/2020 23:18

I lived in Bath for a year and then we gave up and moved about 10 miles away. It's... not very nice. Listed Georgian buildings mean mouldy windows and damp prevails. You go up the back streets north of Milsom Street and there are rows and rows of silent townhouses split into flats that you never see anyone come out of. There are some horrendously ugly metal bridges crossing the river. The nightlife is weird and aggressive - groups of drunks wandering about at night yet very few visible clubs or bars. And, of course, the tourists. You can't move from Easter to the Christmas Markets.

mintich · 18/02/2020 23:01

I feel like that about Avebury. I quite like it in the day but still feel uneasy. Cant drive through it at night though.

H0llie · 18/02/2020 22:04

Never felt weird in Bath. Glastonbury yes, but because of the druggies. Somerton made me feel scared though. Isle of Wight would feel very different if it wasn't an island. I think it's the fact you can't get off it easily that's the problem!

ginandbearit · 18/02/2020 21:54

Yes ..to both Bath and Brighton . I have had happy and romantic times in both places and lived in Brighton for a while, but they both also have a sad and menacing edge and I think for me it's due to the Georgian architecture .The tall buildings look wonderful but its the backs that get to me and I just get a sense of unease and sadness, perhaps influenced by Hogarth prints of misery ..but definitely something 'off' about both towns...a lot of these spa and holiday towns have a sadness about them .

MrsMoastyToasty · 18/02/2020 21:53

I have no problems with Bath. Some of the people through....... (I live between Bristol and Bath)....

The place that made me feel uneasy was the German underground hospital on Jersey.

Butterer · 18/02/2020 21:39

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CopperMugs · 18/02/2020 21:39

I'm of the very woo opinion, that we all resonate or conduct various things.

I used to work at a two thousand year old monument. Never felt a thing.
Worked in a Georgian mansion, and had to fight the urge to run screaming

attatiti · 18/02/2020 21:36

I found Bath very disappointing, although not particularly weird. Ashburton though, I worked there for a while and definitely had the ‘life sucked out of me’ feeling. Nothing would persuade me to set foot in the place again.

Howyoualldoworkme · 18/02/2020 21:34

We're in holiday on the IOW at the moment and it's very old fashioned but I like that.
Norwich is a very strange place though.

WingingItSince1973 · 18/02/2020 21:31

My daughter has just moved back home after living in Bath for 6 years. She had really bad anxiety there and thought moving home would be better but now shes desperately missing Bath and will probably move back. The only time I felt weird about a place was Portland. Just felt so so weird even approaching it from the mainland. Could sense the atmosphere. No offence x

Honkingallthewaytothebank · 18/02/2020 21:30

Harrogate does nothing for me. I don’t think it’s quite ‘woo’ but whenever I’ve been I find I just want to leave again. It seems soulless.

Shaminon · 18/02/2020 21:26

I have felt the same in Bristol and Eastbourne

StoneofDestiny · 18/02/2020 21:25

Loved Bath!

StoneofDestiny · 18/02/2020 21:25

Walsingham is an odd place. People all looked the same somehow - same expressions.

Verbena37 · 18/02/2020 21:23

I’ve been to Bath a couple of times and did find it a bit strange. I thought I would love it but I didn’t. I didn’t not like it but I have no desire to really go back (although we don’t live near there anymore so wouldn’t be a first choice geographically to visit anyway).

I felt it lacked cohesion - it has so much history it was overwhelming.
It all seemed very separate. We visited the German Christmas shop/cafe, the Roman baths, went to a Jane Austin costume exhibition, then did a pretty boring bus tour that seemed to never end, then had dinner at a very weirdly empty restaurant, then stayed at a manky travel lodge. Really odd experiences. Perhaps the eras all compete with each other to give a confusing feeling of not belonging?

I get a similar feeling when visiting York.

Coughsyrupsucks · 18/02/2020 21:19

Walsingham in Norfolk, freaked me and my daughter out. It feels oppressive and dead, like something awful happened there. We walked round for a bit, looked at each other and realised we both wanted to leave ASAP. We make an effort to avoid it whenever we are visiting Norfolk now.

FloresTorres · 18/02/2020 21:11

Lived ( Walcot) and worked in Bath for a couple of years.
Lovely work colleagues, but could not settle there at all, and I've worked in different cities. Bath just never felt quite right.

York-I always felt fine there.

Harrogate always felt blah to me too, but Bath was a strange vibe.
I used to shiver walking past a couple of little old houses, even in the day time. Confused.

keepingbees · 18/02/2020 21:10

I've seen a few posts on here saying similar about the south west OP. Glastonbury is often mentioned. Some say it's something to do with lay(?) lines?
I felt Bristol had a similar off vibe.

Eminybob · 18/02/2020 21:01

No wonder I get the willies there - I’m convinced the locals are all aliens in human-skin bodies

I work in Buxton and am inclined to agree with you. I live in Macclesfield and have to do the “cat and fiddle” drive over which can be either incredibly bleak and depressing, or beautiful and awe inspiring depending on the weather/my mood.