To think the use of prostitutes just isn't that big a deal?

@OnlyTheTitOfTheLangBerg....she really does not care about these things...

You're too much fun OP

@Hihothedairyo you're answering to me now too? Yeah I feel loads better now you little biter

OP, you sound well-educated, literate and able to find your way round the internet, probably able to interact with the agencies who can help you climb out of homelessness and navigate benefit systems which - in the UK at least - are made deliberately labyrinthine and off-putting. You’ve also obviously been able to avoid gaining a criminal record, given your line of work.

Do you have the empathy and imagination to understand that other women may not have your ability to string a sentence together, to express themselves in a way that makes them attractive to an employer? That their experiences of abuse may have made them distrustful of authority? That they may struggle with literacy - English may not be their first language in many cases - and find the process of claiming benefits daunting? That they may have been trafficked into the sex trade before they reached the age of consent and might already have a criminal conviction for soliciting or similar which will exclude them from the majority of even low-paid unskilled jobs?

Can you understand that even though you’ve had a tough life wading through plenty of shit, you’ve still got some advantages compared to many women, and just because you weren’t forced to resort to prostitution doesn’t mean other women in shitty situations have the same advantages to help them avoid it?

Considering you have been in that position then, it’s especially sad that you have so little empathy to the point of denying or shooting down any suggestion that not everyone does have a choice.

Whether you choose to accept it or not...not every woman or man has had the choice. There is NOT always another option. For some people it really is the only option.

You are turning quite nasty now and I really am done with you because I don’t believe you do want to be educated or gain any insight into the truth and I’ve got more to do with my time than waste in on someone so narrow minded.

I have a friend whose friend from school is now about 32 years old and has a part time day job in an office. She is also a high class hooker and she asked the school friend if she wanted to join her.

The pay is apparently £1000 a night. The clients are rich men who are happy to go to the young woman’s fancy flat in a posh area.

She is apparently fit and healthy, dresses really well in designer clothing, is stunningly beautiful, drives a fancy car and nobody has sussed how the quiet little office worker is so rich. They don’t know it’s not from her family and presumably they think mum and dad are rich, as the line of day job she is in doesn’t pull in much cash.

Nobody knows the truth except the school friend.

I promise you this is the truth. There is no husband or children. There is no being forced, it’s a lifestyle choice.

I don’t know what website they advertise on or any other details but if she wants to bring in extra money by selling her body it’s up to her.

At least you had the choice though, hey? Were you in a different, less generous, country then? Or was this the one that gives out free money so you don’t have to have a shit life?

Done speaking to her, yet keep speaking to her. You're a joke.

So when you were homeless what help did you get to get to where you are now? I’m curious, not judging at all.

What choices did you make to become homeless with a tiny baby?

Thats not comparable to having to sleep with 20 random men every night, it it.

In the theoretical world I was talking about there wouldn’t be a ‘have to’. Assuming prostitutes would be self-employed, they could choose the number of jobs per night,
much as taxi drivers do.

I judge men that use them. I can’t imagine reaching an orgasm with someone that I know is having sex with me purely to get money. It’s the grimmest, saddest, most desperate thing I can think of. I may feel sorry for a man who does it - perhaps a widower who is desperate for anything like intimacy, for example - but I still feel that the act of paying for sex is degrading. It doesn’t matter if both parties consent. The degradation comes from buying access to another person because they won’t give it to you voluntarily.

Prostitutes are revolting
I find that statement revolting. Prostitutes are human beings, someone’s daughter, sister, friend, who has ended up, either through no choice of their own or through bad choices leading to no choices, in such a desperate situation that they spend their lives having sex with men they would not choose to, to survive.

It’s surely not an opinion that they have other choices - they do or they don’t. I say they don’t. You say they do, but can’t name any other choice.

So let’s hear the other choices you say exist.

The mindset that allows prostitution to be more-or-less socially acceptable/tolerated is revolting. Punters who respect women so little as to prioritise their orgasm over everything else, including whether the woman has been trafficked into the situation she’s now in, are revolting. Prostitutes are not revolting.

Hihothedairyo
Walk along the street; you have to have sex with the first 20 men you see. They will each give you £20 so its OK.

Do that for a few months then report back.

Actual Jobseekers Benefit in Ireland is ABSOLUTELY based on previous contributions. Jobseekers Allowance on the other hand is not contribution based but has more criteria in order to qualify for it. Unfortunately, I had a relative who met neither criteria and was not able to be helped with social welfare. Luckily they had family to step in and pay their mortgage.

You must be blind if you can’t see the current problems with homelessness in our major cities. Have you not seen the images in the paper of the elderly and small children reliant on food from street based charities in Dublin? You do realise that there are people who fall through the cracks even in Ireland?

To clarify, I am talking about an hypothetical where prostitution would be seen as a regular job and therefore suggested to jobseekers as a valid option.
Which of course it isn't.