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AIBU to not be high maintenance beauty wise?

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Passmethebotox · 28/01/2020 17:12

Quite light hearted I think!
I was at a friend’s birthday last weekend. He works “in finance “ and there was a mixture of friends, colleagues, old friends, etc.
There was an obvious group of beautiful people. Tall, great hair, immaculate nails and make up and definite suggestions that some of them had some aesthetic improvements made. The all seemed to gravitate to one another even though they were from different groups and hang out taking selfies most of the night.
I’m not a slob. I see my hairdresser regularly and have my eye brows and lashes tinted monthly. I pass for pretty (although can sometimes look like a llama if I get unlucky in photos Wink)
I’m not jealous of their gorgeousness but I am pondering why there is such a jump to their level.
Am I not trying hard enough?
Yes = Up your game girl!
No= Beauty is only skin peel deep!

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Daddylonglegs1965 · 28/01/2020 17:31

They are maybe quite unhappy and insecure underneath all their procedures and make up. Some people say things like I wouldn’t dream of going over the doorstep
Without putting my make or war paint on first and I think this is how they see it as an outward mask to face the world. Personally I am more like you I get my eyebrows waxed and occasionally tinted and my hair trimmed every couple of months. I rarely wear make up and certainly wouldn’t want to be caked in it most days and sitting posing and pouting and taking selfies like a school kid.

Pipandmum · 28/01/2020 17:28

I don't know anyone, male or female, who likes that kind of look or finds it attractive. Natural beauty with some decent grooming trumps the fake every time.

Passmethebotox · 28/01/2020 17:28

I think I regard myself as much more high maintenance than I have been in past, hence the hair/brows etc but I realised that I am nowhere near the level of some people. They all looked gorgeous but I felt a bit too “normal “ to integrate their circle!

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Passmethebotox · 28/01/2020 17:24

@Ennith Fair point but my natural ones are horrendous!Grin
@Reginabambina Guess Boots don’t sell Become Tall body wash yet!
@LigPatin The husbands/partners were quite beautiful too! I was trying not to make too many assumptions about everyone but I don’t think I have enough available time or money to maintain to their level!

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Thesuzle · 28/01/2020 17:24

Natural beauty/make the best of yourself, clean tidy, best clothes you can afford, beats hands down the “plastic” beauty of the selfie takers any day

Housewife2010 · 28/01/2020 17:23

They do sound very dull and narcissistic taking selfies all night.

TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 28/01/2020 17:22

You are not low maintenance Grin

I quite like looking at “done” people, I think it requires dedication and the results can be amazing.

Am too lazy, mainly, and sadly just crap with make up, but some women just know what to do (though it probably took them a lot of time to learn, and money too!)

FunnyInjury · 28/01/2020 17:20

You are high maintenance OP Grin well, in my world anyway. I get my hair cut every couple of years. Cant remember last time I was in a salon, this is not a humble brag. I really wish I could afford beauty treats in a salon Sad

I bet you looked fab and far less vain than the selfie-taking weirdos!!

Ennith · 28/01/2020 17:20

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Vulpine · 28/01/2020 17:19

Youre more high maintenance than me

Reginabambina · 28/01/2020 17:19

Is it a case of the ‘jump’ being genetic gifts. No amount of preening is going to get over that hurdle I’m afraid.

Ennith · 28/01/2020 17:18

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LigPatin · 28/01/2020 17:16

Whenever I go to things like that I always get quite down on how much effort I put in to my appearance.
And then when I'm back home I remember that I prefer sleep, food and generally can't be arsed with the upkeep.

It's hard not to make sweeping judgements, though I'd be a bit Hmm at the selfies and, sadly, would make the assumption that the high maintenance women were, well, high maintenance. I'd assume their partners were the main earners too. Probably says more about me though!

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