AIBU to not be high maintenance beauty wise?

@Passmethebotox are you sure you aren't being a tad disingenuous with your no judgement comment. I can't help but feel the selfie comment was deliberately planted to suggest shallowness. And I hate the 'they must be jealous' suggestions that always happen when someone disagrees, but in this case what else is it? Someone else being beautiful doesn't affect you, but people (women) are so damn sneery about it, I just don't get why you care.

Why would they hang around taking selfies? Are they 15?

I enjoy makeup. I like buying it, messing about with it, applying it. Same with skincare
I can waste hours in selfridges beauty hall because swatching makeup is relaxation to me!
I don't really do anything with my nails except paint them and hair gets cut every 5-6 months
But Botox, skincare and makeup I am all over
It's my "thing". You get ready at mine and want a black glitter eyeshadow, a pale gold highlight and a cool toned red lipstick, I'll supply

YANBU OP. I’d much rather be in a low maintenance race to the bottom than the other way around

My Dad is French and I inherited his natural good looks . French women are generally pretty low key so I use that as my excuse! I have olive skin and my skin is pretty good so I don’t feel the need to cake foundation on. I like wearing red lipstick but that’s all I really wear unless it’s a special occasion then I’ll put winged eyeliner and mascara on. I’ve never worn fake eyelashes or nails.

Seriously, you are not low maintenance 😂

RedPanda2 somehow I don’t feel particularly “supported” by your opinion.... I feel a bit preached at

Or is it just who need to be supportive (fwiw, I think I was) but you can chastise us (to feel like you’re the better person? )

You do more than me!

I plucked my eyebrows for the first time in 6 weeks today.

If it makes you feel good about yourself, do it. If it doesn't, don't.

People who want/need to look like they've spent hours working on their appearance are great, good for them if it's what makes them happy, but I take the approach of wanting to appear, well effortless.

I had a childhood heroine of a retired lady/housewife who wanted to do something for the less fortunate children who came into our school and helped out by giving her time to things like embroidery, reading and doing 'nice' things - Mrs Watts could have been 40, she could have been 80 for all I knew, but she had a perfect, pure white jaw length bob, quiet jewellery, perfect clothes and she had an air of calm and ease that was completely alien to a grubby little grot like me. I wanted so much to be like her when I grew up and glide into a room, rather than thunder in to looks of barely disguised horror and disapproval.

I sort out the basics - good haircut that falls into place, hair removal, eyebrow threading, skin and hair care that makes everything feel its best immediately - and DP does my nails/pedicure and weekly massages. Makeup is the perfect shade and texture (no point spending a hundred on ten things that aren't quite right or need to be mixed with fifteen others; just get the right one first time).

I concentrate my energies on what I see as needed for health - massage, medical treatment, osteopathy, orthotics, dental care, vitamins, a good diet, gentle exercise - I'm high maintenance there - and on the best quality clothes, shoes, jewellery and accessories I can afford that fit and suit me.

If I had the disposable, I'd probably have professional facial treatments just because they feel good. Same way I'd have professional pedicures because the salon has one of those chairs that turns me into jelly from the back pummelling. But it wouldn't make that much of a difference cosmetically (and I've earned my crows' feet - I have quite enough needles on a weekly/monthly/quarterly basis to ever consider paying somebody good money to stick more into me).

Different strokes for different folks, is what I'm trying to say - some people want others to think 'She looks great, she works really hard at maintaining her standards', I'm happy with 'I think she just looks like that naturally'.

Oh, another 'I'm not like other girls' thread. Can't we just support women whether they wear a lot of make up or not? Most of the women I know that are high maintenance (in your words) are high earners. Some aren't.

I like people watching (in person, not on Love Island) so I would settle down to observe... and also look for whoever else is a good laugh. I don't care about beauty. But I do like a good laugh.

Did you enjoy the company of these people, do you have a good time with them? In my circle of friends it would really stand out if someone was 'high maintenance', I suppose we all gravitate towards people like ourselves.

Presumably you don't want to become 'high maintenance' just to fit in with these people?

"These threads always turn into a competion on who is the most low maintenance"

MN is full of posters falling over themselves to tell everyone how they're Not Like Other Girls.

I have a friend that sounds like the ladies at the party. I tend to just stare at her at her gorgeousness and high maintenance beautyness in total awe of her. How does she get to look like? How much time does she spend to look like that? Does she ever look normal?

Not the point @Passmethebotox but your Llama comment made me chuckle.

FWIW we have similar routines re beauty although I do my own mostly as childcare costs currently devour our £. I definitely feel v low maintenance compared to friends, colleagues etc, I could be higher maintenance but I am lazy & prefer more time in bed/to chill

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I think it’s just about doing what’s right for you. If you’re low maintenance, great - whatever works! But equally if other people feel more comfortable in themselves if they’ve had x, y and z treatments then fair play to them to.

I have a long list of “things” I do: hydrafacials, Botox, hair colour, cryotherapy, cupping. I rarely talk about them and never take selfies. I’m barely on social media, as it happens. So I do those things because they make me happy. (Lest you think I’m dim, I’m also an avid reader, go to museums etc.—not that you made such an inference in your initial post.)

I get my nails, eyebrows, facials and eyelashes done once a month. I get my hair done every 8 weeks. I'm a single working mum and pay for it all myself.

I tend to notice that it's the women who don't really tend to do much beauty wise who are the most judgemental and rude about those who do. Plenty of examples on this thread already - "they must have wealthy partners" "they must be insecure" "they are narcissistic" "natural is so much better."

I don't care what other people do beauty wise. Sad that some people on this thread seem to think it's fine to judge women who wear more makeup etc.

God, for parties etc I try not to go brush my teeth and make sure my clothes don't have holes in.
Got tired of trying to do make-up years ago. Hair is short and cut choppy so that it always looks messy. CBA with/can't afford fingernail maintenance or getting anything on my face tinted.

Not sure what my point is really, but YANBU.

@Daddylonglegs1965 does it have to equate to someone being 'insecure' or 'unhappy' just because they put effort into their appearance?

I don't understand why there is always some kind of negative back story as to why someone mainly women in this case, who like a bit of make up, botox, fillers etc.

Competition *

These threads always turn into a competion on who is the most low maintenance.

There's a big area between having a hair cut once every five years and being addicted to botox and fillers!

I like skincare products, having nice hair, lovely colour lipsticks. There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make me a bimbo or shallow