AIBU to not be high maintenance beauty wise?

Me too. Can't remember when I was last in a salon - many years ago. My eyebrow and eyeashes remain untinted. I seldom wear make up. I cut my fringe, and DH or DD trim the back of my hair. I trim my nails with nail clippers. A Lebanese family member, uetterly beautiful herself, once famously said, "You know, Zimunya, you would be quite attractive if you only made an effort."

I'm way to lazy and poor to keep it up with those kind of people. I also find no joy in getting nails done so never had it and I go to the hairdresser just wanting him to get on with it. It's just so boring I can't be bothered. I think I probably got lucky in the genetics lottery because I think I look ok without artifice but maybe that's just me being an optimist:).

Definitely low maintenance lol I'm a don't wear make up loads don't do nails don't go hair dressers often and don't go to a salon 🤣🤣

I aspire to looking natural yet well groomed. Not fussed about false eyelashes/nails/tan and can rarely be bothered with make up.

I think there is pressure in many jobs to look good though and have no doubt that it can help your career.

Personally, I always cringe a little bit at stuff like this. I have a few friends who fit your description (and I love them) but I always think - life is too short for posing in endless selfies and pouting... just enjoy the party. I am pretty high maintenance, but I like to look like me, and I think others look their best when they look like themselves too.

Too much in the way of eyelashes/eyebrows/nails/botox/fillers... everyone starts to look the same. No doubt really well polished and well groomed - and I really do hope they feel really confident and happy, because that's what matters - but selfishly, I just wish we'd all look a bit more like ourselves.

Ooooh I love the biscuit smell! I am trying to put the effort in to be more “high maintenance”, I don’t look particularly different but feel much better when I haven’t cack handily done everything myself and it feels like a treat. I’ve started having my nails done every few weeks and my hands just look a bit better, very subtle highlights rarely as they done so they can grow out and I can’t afford the upkeep and I like how they look, and had my eyebrows threaded for the first time a few months ago and it made a huge difference. And I won’t be dying them myself again after the last time however much I like Groucho Marx.

Ah i forgot brows, they really need attention but I guess I get those done every 2 years . If it’s not in front of me I don’t really think of it tbh. Same applies in the other areas of my life

If I had more money, time and inclination I’d love to be getting weekly manicures, massages, bimonthly hair cuts, blow dries etc... but I don’t. In fact I’m probably too lazy to do any of that bar the twice yearly mani/pedi.

Perhaps because I grew up with a mother who had to look just so and critiqued herself and others constantly that I just can’t be bothered with it all. But I look at people who do look polished and have nothing but admiration

A lot of men these days are visiting beauty salons to have their eyebrows and eyelashes tinted, their eyebrows waxed so they are "on point" is the quote I've heard. They also want full arm waxes, so their sleeve tattoos aren't obstructed at all, their "hairy backs and chests" absolutely repulse them? They tend not to go for spray tanning, because apparently the smell of "biscuits"? gives it away, and isn't attractive to the opposite sex, but they regularly use tanning beds and stands? And some I know have also went down the protein shakes (and steroid use) to help them build muscle mass at the gym... Not to mention the facials and botox... To say its only women is naive, but yes, they do all seem to gravitate towards each other, as though they've found "their people"

Eurgh I hate how it becomes a competition for who is the most groomed or ungroomed! And I don't like the term "high maintenance" what does that even mean?

I have a busy day looking after my baby, I work too and look after the house as many others do... At the end of the day I like a bath and i have an "elaborate" skincare routine that I find relaxing and rewarding before bed. I also get natural eye lash extensions, and I have pedicures and wax. I don't care if that makes me high maintenance. I love having nice skin and smelling lovely before bed.

If you choose to buy 20p soap and cut your hair every ten years with a pair of kitchen scissors making you "low maintenance" good for you, it's nothing to do with me.

The connotations about high maintenance vs low maintenance need to stop.

Its just a different set of priorities... different people need different levels of grooming to feel a certain level of confidence.

For some people that means being very groomed and "done", for others its a less is more approach.

The trick is to find what level of grooming most brings out your optimal confidence. It can take years to do this.

I think there are unhelpful stereotypes at both ends of this discussion tbh and this thread is a perfect example, with cattiness directed at the people who are into grooming and those who don't prioritise it.

Find out what works for you, learn not to give a fuck about what other people think about it and don't waste valuable headspace on over-analysing others for their grooming choices.

You get more done than I do. And I thought I was high maintenance, with my Beauty hauls .

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Just Re read my message sorry for the typos
@AdoptedBumkin if what you mean by be yourself is that if you like grooming make-up hair etc., or are low maintenance and both are of equal value. Then I couldn't agree more. That is exactly what we should be supporting everyone being themselves without judging or sneering from others.

They don’t turn men on. We don’t notice

@mansviewpoint, are you seriously labouring under the tragic delusion that women’s every grooming move is made in the hope of male approval?

I’ll assume you’re trolling, because no one is that self-deluded in 2020.

@mansviewpoint my partner notices every beauty procedure I have done and compliments it without a single prompt from me. He loves my bare face and my 'war paint caked on' face. In fact, so do my male relatives and friends. Maybe it's just you that is so shallow and asinine that you cannot appreciate self-care, artistry and self-expression.

@AdoptedBumkin if you mean if be yourself band that is to like grooming make up hair etc. Or if be yourself means low maintenance then I couldn't agree more. That is excactly what we should be supporting everyone being themselves without judging or sneering from others.

Nothing wrong with being yourself.

@mansviewpoint as much as it may shock you to hear this - I don't care what men think, and I certainly don't get my eyebrows done to impress men. I get them done because I prefer the way they look when they're shaped and tinted.

@Ffsseriously I mean I'm sure I'm wearing eyeshadow for men who can't tell the different between MAC and makeup geek but yep, it's ALL FOR THEM

It's a hobby to me. Colours, textures, new products, rediscovering an old favourite. Some people use colouring books, I use my face

@mansviewpoint I don't plaster makeup on but I certainly don't do my eyebrows or makeup for men, it's all for me and if I want my eyebrows tinted, then I'll get them done
also wear makeup so my boss doesn't send me home because I look like death warmed up!
People say oh it's just because they're not used to seeing you without makeup, no, it's because without it I'm blue tinged and also foundation hides my hive breakouts

Oh good the menz is here to tell what they really want ffs

I might be considered high maintenance but I pay for it all myself not every woman is financially dependent on a man!

I get masseter Botox for TMD - it’s not a cosmetic procedure but has the side effect of slimming my face

I have had lip filler in the past, it looks natural

Get my hair trimmed and a colour refresh (toner) every 3 months, highlights probably 6-9 months

Other than that, I look after myself. I go to the gym and eat well so my figure is toned. I have a skincare regime and use high end makeup. I keep my nails short but glossy/neutral. The only faff is hair removal.

Do whatever makes you feel happy. less is more and all that. personally i cannot stand the current war paint slap on and permanent marker eyebrows that some people think are fashionable. We all age and if people aren't willing to see the real you, and are only interested when you are plastered in make up, then that just speaks volumes about that kind of relationship. Again, as a bloke, I would much prefer to be able to have a conversation and a cuddle on the sofa with someone, than have to wait 3 hrs for them to have triple checked that each eyebrow is in perfect alignment. Be yourself and respect yourself enough to show yourself. Also once a month eyebrows??? They are eyebrows.. Designed to stop dust and stuff getting into your eyes. They don't turn men on. We don't notice. If your lucky we notice about 10% of what you girls do to yourselves and usually that's once it's been pointed out a few times.