Was I rude? To have told her to stop hinting and just ask me directly....

She sounds maniopulative and likke other pp said hinted to another colleague to make you feel bad

also she cant afford a single bus fare?

‘Please actually ask me in future. That way I won’t get irritated by your hinting for food and lifts.’

You could hint to the colleague that you were sorry...

Amused me

It sounds like you were a little rude since there were others around and you snapped a bit. Hinting the way you describe her doing is pretty darn rude too, not to mention moaning about you to a colleague when you'd been nice enough to give her a lift. Wonder if she's considering apologizing to you? She sounds pretty immature but if you do actuallly want to keep her as a friend you could apologise for not being more discreet when you pulled her up on her behaviour.

Ahhh I meant hinting gets on my tits not hunting 🙄

Nah she’s a pain in the arse. If I want something I say ‘hey x would you mind giving me a lift later?’ (to place you’ve mentioned you’re going anyway). If it’s a no, I’m not upset, don’t ask don’t get. I much prefer my friends to be straight with me too, ‘hey Ellen could you watch the kids for me for a couple of hours whilst I go do x?’ Not ohh Ellen it’s soo annoying I don’t want to have to take the kids with me and aghhh they’ll be sooo bored but I’ve nobody to have them, would be so much more relaxing if they weren’t there....
no. Hint, and I’ll dig my heels and reply like ‘yeah that sucks hun’ see what I did there? I hunned you off. Cause hunting gets on my tits smiley face 😘

The fact that she’s gone crying about it to someone else getting them involved is so fucking petty I wouldn’t be bothering to help or offer her anything in future. If it was my dp I’d be majorly turned off and friendships follow the same rule for me with this

Yeah nothing worse than shitting yourself in the foot!! 😂 😂 😂

YANBU, she sounds annoying. You've shit yourself in the foot though because now you'll have to have to be assertive and say no to her or make up excuses if she asks for a lift and you don't want to give one. Much easier to ignore stupid dog eyed hints.

I'd have locked the jaffa cakes in my drawer for that behaviour BTW.

I'd be hiding my jaffa cakes...

And now she’s bringing others into it? Is she eight years old? WTF?!?!

She sounds so irritating I certainly couldn't be around it.

Unfortunately the shouting at her was rude.

She's an even bigger PITA for taking the lift and then bitching about you🙄.

I'd give a very brief PA apology like " apologies if I was rude yesterday, I'd prefer if you would just ask if you need something".

Then I'd give her a wide berth. Complete PITA.

I would do an annoying apology that was followed by “ but, please be direct with me from now on”.

My grandmother does this. Drives me bat shit.

I'm relieved to learn that other people have to have this conversation with their children. Clearly hinters parents didn't.
Does anyone know why children whine instead of asking for stuff? I have a theory that they don't like to give someone the power of saying no, but I'm not so cruel that I'd deny my children a banana after their cereal, or a drink of water, and I'd like to think they know that.

Op, just be pleased you have done her a favour! Two, if you include the lift.

Like others said just apologise for snapping and if you feel comfortable explain it's a bit of a stressful time and your fuse is too short at the minute.

That said the hinting is irritating so although you probably shouldn't have snapped in front of a room full of people I can see why you were annoyed.

Oh FFS. We are trying to coax 8 year old DSD out of this shit - “use your words, please is a good one to use” Etc. What’s annoying in a child is generally insufferable in an adult. YANBU.

In the run up to Christmas nerves get frazzled, people get tetchy, it's part and parcel of the festive season.

Fgs don't reveal your private woes to her or the other colleague as neither sound trustworthy and it's likely your personal business will become the subject of gossip.

Apologise and pat yourself on the back that you didn't slap her. She sounds annoying but harmless

Honestly cannot understand why people are shocked that she's upset.

If you're shouted at by a friend, you're bound to feel somewhat upset/embarrassed/annoyed.

I wouldn’t even apologise. She was put of order hinting to that extent and it would have wound me up too. To be honest I would just point blank ignore any future hinting, no matter how obvious she tries to be, and only give food/ lifts etc if she asks politely.

Why would you apologise?!

Maybe because she shouted at her in public and upset her.

Yes, you need to apologise. She is your friend and you had a go at her. She might be annoying with the hinting but you've told her what you think of it now, but you didn't tell her in the best way.

Apologise and expect her not to do it again. If she does, call her out on it in a polite way, not by shouting at her.

"Sorry I snapped. In future, though, I really would prefer you just to come out and ask if you need a favour. Thanks."

God YANBU. I can’t bear this hinting shit either.

If you want something from me, just ask. The worst I can say is no, right?

As for her being upset - she needs to get a grip of herself.

Bring*

She was so upset she accepted the lift 🙄