Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

@TomPinch Ah sorry. Read the ditto as vice versa for men and daughters rather than every goes to the men's.

But you're standing by it's the norm in NZ for a women to take her young sons into the men's changing room to change them?

Never seen it, sounds absurd. For one, wouldn't the mother also be planning on swimming and therefore getting changed most of time? I.e. she would have to change her sons in the men's then take them to the women's (if they were to young to be left alone) so she could get changed.

You're making our country look ridiculous because of some myth you heard.

Could I just clarify something for the posters who assume that Scandinavians are comfortable with nudity...? We are, but in the sense that women are comfortable with other women’s bodies and men are comfortable with men’s bodies. I managed to live in a Scandinavian country until the age of 25, frequent gym and pool goer and never see a naked man who wasn’t my dad or my boyfriend. Anyone going into the wrong changing room would see a LOT, before being verbally abused and reported to the police. And self identification does not exist.

The world is a vast place with varying cultures

There it is again... cultural differences! What ‘culture’ do you come from that is so important for you to cling to when clearly you are going against the culture of the places you are living in?

You CANNOT use the men’s toilet either!!! If there are men facing the other way using the urinals, you don’t get to saunter past them to use a cubicle in the men’s bathroom.

It’s like you’ve landed on earth from another planet. Goodness knows what other social norms and boundaries you’re teaching your toddler to ignore 🙈

No one is that bonkers in real life.

Except the OP who is clearly unhinged.

Another vote for classics..
This has been hilarious! I'm not convinced it's real though. No one is that bonkers in real life.

@KeraStase I love that phrase and it certainly fits here!

🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸📦📦📦📦📦

Well I have seen advertisements for 2:1 and 3:1 ratios but for 3yr upwards not age 2...so it MIGHT be possible?

This is a wind up. For one thing, swimming lessons for 2year olds would be parent and child or private one to one
Secondly changing rooms are hot and humid, why wouldn't op sit in the lobby.
Thirdly who would sit in a nene changing room for a hour where adult men were getting changed

I’ve loved all 29 pages.. thank you for the laughs OP. Honestly, you’re a box of frogs!! 😂 😂 😂

Just got back from my early morning swim (stealth boast ) and was thinking of this thread ...

I had visions of all my fellow male swimmers making a sort of "guard of modesty" with their towels so I could walk from the showers to the changing area without offending any random women that might have needed a sit down.

maybe your on the spectrum

Please don’t insult people on the spectrum, I work with autistic people and none of them are this mental/self entitled/rude

Man gets penis out in men's changing room, call the police!

Seriously? This thread is hilarious

Great. So we have established that OP has not grown up in Australia or NZ. Both Countries which pretty much follow the British way of using the sex of the accompanying parent’s toilets for children. And it is not commonly done to nip into the men’s loos because you are busting and you don’t care that there might be men using the urinal in there. Unless, it is a single male loo cubicle then maybe....

She has said it she did not grow up in Sth Africa and has not given an answer on Fiji or Somoa which I posed yesterday. (Due to being a Commonwealth country that could be described as hot, lovely and popular that had plenty of ocean swimming but a lack of public pools (only private) ).

I am questioning how there has been a lack of exposure like this that she puts down as being ‘cultural differences’ in toilet etiquette (or even... law).

By the way pinkboa. It is not that you didn’t know that is the problem. I get that. it has been your attitude after discovering you were in the wrong that has people’s back up. It is the do.not.care bit.

To some extent I can see the OP's perspective. When you have the situation of (presumably) very small children getting ready for a swimming lesson where the parents don't go in the water it doesn't really matter what room you're getting changed in because the adults remain fully clothed at all times. She obviously wasn't aware that on some occasions parents do go into the water.

However the weird bit is that she stayed in the male changing when this dad started to undress himself. I would have been mortified and left immediately. Then not only does she stay and have a good look at his bum, she assumes HE is the one in the wrong and starts a thread about it!

*@spacepyramid

That dad and his son are always in there... as I have also said. His son and mine do the same class. But it's still empty...*

Only in your head.

As for NZ, it's news to me - I don't think I've ever seen a parent of the opposite sex come in the changing room with their child. Good job really, I don't want anybody looking at my bum, hairy or not.

@Rombocious

Yeah- That's not normal but I never said it was.

Mum to 4 boys. We go to swimming lessons every Saturday. Smallest gets changed by side of the pool with me (3) just in case family change is full and the two bigger ones need to get themselves changed in the men's. At no point would I go into the men's with my boys, let alone fully clothed without them. Surf life saving at the beach is a bit more of a free for all but quite frankly no one cares or looks...

This was a brilliant thread.

Man gets changed in male changing area

The spoof thread has been deleted. The reason... it is not Friday.

I wonder when the OP will add to this thread again. I am really laughing about some of the comments on here.

Oh and you keep saying you didn't want to go outside in the rain, I'm sure it isn't just the changing rooms then directly outside, there will be a waiting area.

As a man when I use a male changing room, I wrap a towel round me from the shower to the changing area but then you would see my arse as I finish drying and get dressed.

I've been to Australia it works same as here.

If I was the swimming baths I would ban you permanently from the premises, for your behaviour as it's frankly unacceptable.

You are eithier a pervert or a idiot which is it?