Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

That said, if it was the men's changing room, he wasn't behaving inappropriately. You shouldn't have gone in there in the first place.

Absolutely unacceptable and very inappropriate. He should have used a cubicle. Maybe some women on here don't care, but a lot would have felt very uncomfortable, especially around their children. My dds would have been extremely embarrassed.

@pinkboa you went into a men’s changing room for a period of time that was inappropriate. There did not appear to be any extenuating circumstances, like your son having a melt down and insisting on going to the men’s. Just that you felt like going in because it maybe was free.

You are now trying to body shame a father who is looking after his daughters and then changing himself.

It is a little ridiculous that you thought it was ok to go and perv in males change room and then get upset that the men they did not conform to your standards

The comments on feeling uncomfortable that a fathers children could see him naked while changing, implying a father is a pedophile and then trying to justify your predilections by trying to paint something innocent and play on people’s fears is completely inappropriate and pretty disgusting.

As a peeping Jane, I suggest you don’t go into the men’s changing room again

@SandraMBW understand your point. Most men would not care that your mother accidentally walked into a men’s room because she could not identify the men’s room and women’s room difference. However unlike your mother who would have probably made a hasty obvious exit, like most normal people going into the wrong change room.

This woman deliberately went into the men’s room and stay their for 1/2 hr while men were trying to get changed.

This is not a question of culture and from this women’s initial avoidance of explaining she was in the men’s room, the disappointment of a hairy male bum and the transparent attempt to use her kids and others as a excuse to be in a private male changing room only points that she knows she is in the wrong and trying to justify her behaviour by blaming a father looking after his young kids and then reasonably changing himself. Just because he did not have a smooth bum as it sounds like she wanted does not mean she should be excused for perving in a men’s change room. Else if you think it is ok, then you must be acknowledging that it would be ok for a man to go into a women’s change room for 1/2 hr with his kids and complain that a women was changing and did not have a good enough body, pretty poor excuse either way

So she walks into a men’s changing room and is disappointed that there is a naked man in there with a hairy bum. Sounds like she is a pervert

A man walking into a female changing room would be reported to management as a peeping tom. She tries to justify her perversion by stating a father helping his daughters change and the changing himself in a private place is some how wrong.

She should not have been there regardless of her excuses and is lucky the father who’s bum and tackle she looked at did not feel it was necessary to report her, probably because he thought she was a mother who needed to change her kids and did not want to make a big deal and give his kids a poor impression of their own bodies and his.

The fact that she rants about it on here, stating he had a hairy bum. Tells me she was hoping to see what she thought was an attractive man naked and unfortunately this man did not fit her perversion

@JolieOBrien

Understood. It's when the OP started saying things like the first line in the following quote that I stopped finding it humorous.

"It's also funny noting that people in here ignore the blatant cultural differences. Where I am from it's not seen as an issue for a father to take his daughter into a ladies to use the toilet or for a mother to take her son into the men's to use the toilet. We don't have public pools... in fact only private individuals own pools. Most people go to the beach... most people change their children on the beach and themselves in the cubicles."

@SandraMBW

This thread is about a woman going into a men's changing room at a swimming pool and complaining about naked men and hairy arses. I think this thread is a wind up but very funny. I personally would never dream of going into a men's changing/locker room because there would be naked men in there.

I joined just now for the sole reason of calling out the whole cultural differences excuse. My mother is Asian, was forbidden from going to school because she was a girl by her parents, couldn't read and didn't speak a word of English when she moved to the States to be with my dad and she still understood that she had to use the ladies and not the men's. My mom also chased trick or treaters away from her home yelling that they were bad kids the first time they knocked. So no to the really bad cultural differences excuse.

some of comments are even funnier than on this thread lol

Tony Horn, Brisbane, Australia, 50 minutes ago

Naked man in men's changing rooms? Hello. Captain Obvious. Men's rights are being eroded all over the place but the right to be naked in the men's room is still well and truly in place.

I love some of the pictures the Daily mail have provided !

This is utterly absurd. Can you imagine the uproar at a man being in a womans changing room to begin with, let alone complaining that a woman had her boobs out? Now I dont know how it works in womens change rooms, but generally in mens nudity is completely normal.. You know, because its a CHANGE ROOM. The entire point of there being different change rooms for men and women is because of nudity FFS.

OMG I had to sign up to respond to this hilarious post.

I am an Expat British, now in Australia, and Guess what, there are such things as Males in the male changing rooms.

The Original poster even tries to justify herself going in to the male change rooms, by saying "its okay, they are never used".

What about taking Son in to the Womens change room ?, nope, That I guess is not okay, Its okay son, I'll come in to the MALE change rooms with you, its okay, there are never any grown up Males in the MALE change rooms.......

Immediately upset there is an adult male with all his glory hanging out. Come to Australia, guess what, Adult males usually go to the MALE change rooms. guess what, Female children under the age of 5 are allowed in Male Change rooms. .

open group changing area, open group showers. The only cubicles are the toilets.

Males don't care about other males being naked in the change rooms. It is not like we take half an hour to compare sizes or anything, we just go in, have a shower, get dry, get dressed, go home.

Simple...Dont go into the male changing room!!

So... you, a female, goes into a male change room, where men are getting changed (the very purpose of the room) and you are offended that you saw a penis and decided to body shame his "hairy and unattractive bum".

He wasn't there to be judged by you as to whether he was attractive to you or not, he was there to get changed and by the sounds of it, be a good dad and be involved in his kid's lives by taking them to swimming lessons or the pool.

Get out of the men's room. I bet you would be the first to call the police if a man wandered into the women's changing room and just sat there, judging whether your bum was attractive or not.

Oh do come back OP, loads of YABU from the daily mail readers as well!

Yep - I saw that - and the. Moments are OVERWHELMINGLY that OP WBU!

I noticed the Daily Mail has picked this up!!

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7731717/Mother-blasts-father-standing-naked-mens-changing-room.html

where IME people are, or used to be, relaxed about e.g. a mother taking her son into the men's public toilet. I don't know if this is still true

I vaguely remember this but I can't remember the last time I saw that happen.

Which I think would raise a few eyebrows at the hot pools.

I think it's safe to say she'd be in hot water in more ways than one.

OP I think you will need to start a second thread when this one fills up.

@Rombocious

But you're standing by it's the norm in NZ for a women to take her young sons into the men's changing room to change them?

Apology accepted. But I didn't say this either.

OP hasn't denied that she's from NZ.. where IME people are, or used to be, relaxed about e.g. a mother taking her son into the men's public toilet. I don't know if this is still true. The OP said in a prev post that because she thought that OK it must also be OK to do the same in a men's changing room.

Which I think would raise a few eyebrows at the hot pools.

I don't get how people get so adamant about proving a point on an Internet forum they begin to traverse the rabbit hole... like a few people who kept coming back to hammer home their points... it's like watching the ballerina in the jewellery box.

Oh indeed it is.

On a revisit this thread just gets better - one of the most ludicrous original posters I've seen on here, and that's saying something!

MrsFox ...
whatever you called yourself perviously
Given her behaviour, this seems unintentionally appropriate

I have lived in Australia and New Zealand. People change in correctly-sexed changing rooms. Pinkboa you know this, it’s certainly not “cultural”.

Also, parts of Australia are hot. New Zealand isn’t.

@pinkboa our of interest how did you spend the time you were waiting? Reading a book, fiddling with your phone perhaps?

The OP reminds me of a woman I used to work with.

She was a twat just for the sake of being twattish aswell.