Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

Would any woman want to go into a men's changing room to look at naked men? Not me ... I have no interest in looking at a bunch of Dad bods in some swimming changing room. Infact I never go swimming anymore because I saw a turd floating in our local swimming baths and that has put me off swimming in any public swimming pool ... I only swim at my private spa club now.

At least then you know it's a private spa club members turd if you see one!

At our swimming lessons the rules are that you go in the changing room according to the sex of the parents for safeguarding reasons although no parents go in the pool

Does anyone else think the man in question actually behaved reasonably well? By turning and only flashing his arse and not his penis I mean? Just it struck me that some might well have thought this an opportunity to ‘legitimately flash’ the op - seeing as she was in the men’s and all?

Sorry it wasn't unisex it's the men's.
Are you a woman op? If so you shouldn't have been in the men's changing room. This man had every right to be getting changed in the men's changing room. You shouldn't have been in there.

Would any woman want to go into a men's changing room to look at naked men? Not me ... I have no interest in looking at a bunch of Dad bods in some swimming changing room. Infact I never go swimming anymore because I saw a turd floating in our local swimming baths and that has put me off swimming in any public swimming pool ... I only swim at my private spa club now.

This is the funniest thread ever and I think a 100% unanimous YABU?

But of course OP is not being unreasonable still! Also I don't get how someone could enter a dressing room and walk straight into the mans penis! Surely he'd gave to be at least the width of the door away for it too open?

Again I say did Op never wonder why she was alone in the men's dressing room after swimming lessons? I think that maybe she liked the space and not being crowed and then a man had the audacity to get changed in there! Bloody men, never know the right time me or place for these things...... oh wait!

starynights86 no, the OP said that she was actually only in there for 20 minutes. So, you k ow, that's fine. Under the perv threshold.

If you were in the men's then I think it's fine. I've seen women do the same in women's changing rooms loads of times. It's a space to get changed and some people are more open about it than others. If you didn't want your kids to potentially see a naked man then go to the women's but you're just as likely to see a naked woman in there too.

Oh FFS it's a men's changing room?

I got so annoyed about the stupid misleading comment about Germany on page 1 I didn't read on.

pinkboa you have no right to sit in the men's changing room if you're a woman, any more than a man has a right to sit in the women's.

Children under 8 can go into the correctly sexed changing room for their carer.

Children over 8 should be able to change alone without being confronted by adults of the opposite sex baring all in their changing rooms.

There should be a disabled changing facility.

Children without a disability who need help changing can ce helped in their changing room by an opposite sex parent if necessary, but this parent is purely there for the minimum time necessary to change their child and gets out ASAP and changes in their own changing room.

Women do not change in or sit in the men's. Men do not change in or sit in the women's. An adult sitting in the wrong changing room is in the wrong.

*everyone wears robes not rivers...

stucknoue there is no naked swimming in family swimming pools in Germany.

What utter, utter misleading crap some people spout.

Then people reading it believe it.

The naked swimming is only in 18+ sauna / spa places. Yes it's all above board and there are adults of both sexes (mostly elderly, the one time I went into one) removing their towels to swim and go into saunas, but they all know it's a "fabric free" area and the changing rooms still have cubicles and are single sex, and nobody walks around naked, everyone wears rivers and/ or large swim towels.

There are no under 18s allowed in those areas. They're "wellness" spas.

Family swimming pools have sex seperated showers (where people do shower naked) and sex seperated toilets, and changing villages with cubicles, and nobody swimming naked or walking about naked or getting changed in public open areas.

Gyms have open plan changing seperated by sex.

It is not in any way normal or acceptable for a man to change in the women's changing room. It is a room where girls of 8+ should be able to get changed unsupervised - penis bearers over 8 years old change in the men's, whether or not they first help their daughters change in the women's.

So woman goes to school pool and purposely sits in the male changing room, voyeurs aren’t welcome anywhere, they certainly aren’t welcome in changing rooms.

When I go to my gym class on Sundays there are about fifteen of us who are then getting showered etc at the same time and the swimming sessions are ending. So there will be at least 15-20 naked men showering, drying and dressing many with children.

If you were in there you would be reported for your voyeurism and banned from attending the gym in the future.

I would have complained about you sitting in there for half an hour watching people get changed. It’s weird and creepy.

So OP you’re a woman, hanging out in the men’s changerooms for half an hour. That’s weird and pervy.

I just laughed at this

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

I make my husband shave his because I hate hairy bums

I am surprised they did not complain about you being in the men's changing room. all swimming pools without communal changing areas I know, require anyone over 8 to use the appropriate changing room. I would have certainly complained if a bloke was hanging out in the ladies changing room.

Frankly as a woman, with a son why can't I take him to the Male changing room?

Because it's a men's changing room. you have no business being in there!

how old is he? if he is young, I would take him to the ladies but from 7-8 onwards, he sure can get changed without help in the men's.

Yes, i read the thread. just to emphasise the club hads all rights to exclude you permanently and (especially after hanging out there for 30 minutes)

So, weird woman sitting in men's changing rooms takes offence at a man getting changed because she can see his bare bottom. He ensures he is turned away from the bloody annoying woman perving at him so as not to show her his penis and is naked for less than 60 seconds. She is worried that children in the changing room might have to see a bottom and that children not yet in the changing room might be thrust into the room before their parents realise there is a naked man in the men's changing rooms (not exactly an abnormal place to see naked men). It has also never crossed her mind that the women's changing room is so crowded because that is where all other women are, regardless of the sex of their 2-year olds. Hmm.

@SuperMeerkat

I used to work with a naturist years ago and he told me his children once brought their friends home without warning him and him and his wife were in the garden naked doing some gardening. He said the children's friends started to laugh but his children were mortified and at school the next day all the children in his son's class could talk about was his Dad's willy ha ha.

You went into the men’s changing rooms????? i’m surprised they didn’t kick you out for being weird/wildly inappropriate/a sexual predator! jeez!

This is hilarious. All I say is good job you didn’t go into the men’s at the leisure centre on a Sunday morning 😂😂😂😂

I know you’ve got the etiquette now, but you keep your little boy in the ladies until he’s about 7 and can safely go into the men’s himself, and alone, and get himself dressed where he meets you outside the changing room door.

I just think it’s weird in general when people walk around naked in public changing rooms. I’ll walk from the bathroom to our bedroom at home but wouldn’t dream of doing the same in front of DS or the step-kids. They’d all be mortified and think i’d lost my marbles.

@pinkboa I take my infant daughter to swim lessons all the time and I... wait for it... shock horror... have to get naked to change back into dry clothes. As do all the other mothers! I How the F am I supposed to get changed if I don't do it in the changing rooms?

I went to the south of France for a holiday a couple of years ago and was sitting on the beach when this old fat man started to strip off and was standing there completely naked on the beach, he then proceeded to put on a pair of speedos ... not a pretty sight! My husband sat there with his mouth open and kept nudging me as if to say look at him ... you couldn't really miss him lol

Previous men have worn a towel because some batshit crazy woman is in their changing room, this guy thought fuck it, I'm getting changed and she can get a look of my arse!

Did you ever wonder why all the other mothers with sons weren't in the male changing room......

Hmm, now if this were a man telling this story, I'm sure the motive might be questioned.