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Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

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pinkboa · 26/11/2019 22:57

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

OP posts:
Jimdandy · 12/06/2020 17:40

YABU I can’t get worked up about a naked body.

Maybe if children saw a wide range of normal bodies in real life they might not have so many issues.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 12/06/2020 17:38

Just seen that I used the word 'literally ' in both my posts Blush I did used to know other words, just don't have much call to use them these days.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 12/06/2020 17:35

@ShebaShimmyShake OP probably hasn't replied because she's still busy reading literally The Entire Internet Grin

LochJessMonster · 11/06/2020 22:00

I hate zombie threads but I do enjoy this one every time it comes round.

The reaction of all the posters when they discover it was the men’s changing room gets me laughing every time.

ShebaShimmyShake · 11/06/2020 21:36

[quote JesusInTheCabbageVan]**@strollingdown how did you find this - did you literally just Google 'Bare bums in dressing room'? Confused[/quote]
To be fair, it's midweek in lockdown...fuck all else to do.

CarlottaValdez · 11/06/2020 21:34

It’s a great thread to be fair, I’m quite happy to see it again.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 11/06/2020 21:30

@strollingdown how did you find this - did you literally just Google 'Bare bums in dressing room'? Confused

strollingdown · 11/06/2020 21:27

Sorry to bump this thread but I couldn't believe what I was reading going through it and I wasn't around for it the first time either.

When DH has been out with our 3 year old DD he's always taken her into the men's room. He would NEVER dream of going into the women's as he knows that men won't feel violated by a 3 year old little girl but women and girls will certainly by an ADULT male.

So if ADULT males in the women's will make females uncomfortable and isn't allowed then the same stands with ADULT females making males uncomfortable in the men's.

BumbleBree · 08/02/2020 10:12

Streamside there’s a man at OHs gym who blow dries himself with foot on the bench. It doesn’t get much of a reaction except when he went in the other day he said the man was bent over and the dryer was halfway up his ass Envy - definitely not envy. I do hope he didn’t mean literally up there...

HumansAreConsumable · 08/02/2020 00:02

Odd that you think men should be subjected to the above, I assume you ignored my post as you think it would be wrong for me a man to sit and oggle in the women’s and it reveals you for what you are, a pervert

Yes yes I realise you said this weeks ago but wtf?

And @pinkboa well played, well played 👏🏿👏🏿 double jazz hands.

Cracking thread! Grin

Mia184 · 07/02/2020 21:19

OP, as a fellow asthma sufferer I wonder why you didn’t simply take two puffs of your asthma spray beforehand?

Ticklemeelmo · 07/02/2020 17:22

Pleased to see this thread has been resurrected Grin
It's the gift that keeps on giving.

PablosHoney · 07/02/2020 17:22

35 pages about getting naked in a changing room 😂

Oulu · 07/02/2020 16:52

If it's a school setting and a school pool and school changing rooms, wouldn't this be a boys' changing room - the one OP's son usually uses and probably headed for.

At age 2????

Winesalot · 07/02/2020 15:35

True SerendipityJane!

SerendipityJane · 07/02/2020 15:00

I'm guessing he was getting changed in a unisex changing room,

If you read the thread you were commenting on, you wouldn't need to guess anything Grin

RTFT people!!!

This is MN, there would be zero fun in it if everybody just read the thread. See above Smile

Winesalot · 07/02/2020 14:50

RTFT people!!! It was male changing room, OP was a woman with a boy in, who was actually in the pool so not even there. She chose to sit in the male changing room for the duration of her son’s lesson and is complaining that men were in there changing with their under 8 daughters!

And was unrepentant about commenting on the man’s bum!

PrinnyPree · 07/02/2020 14:42

I'm guessing he was getting changed in a unisex changing room, perfectly normal, us Brits can be so up tight lol.

I find the half hour hanging around in the changing room observing people getting changed and commenting on their appearance with puke emoji's, instead of going back to the reception area or the car stranger.

Southmouth · 07/02/2020 14:38

OP after first reading this I though YANBU, I wouldn’t be happy in that situation. Now since reading that you were in the men’s changing room YABU! What’s strange is you sitting in the men’s changing room using it as a waiting area! If it was a man sitting in a ladies changing area waiting, would you find that ok?! I doubt not!

If you don’t want to see a penis, get out of the men’s changing room Hmm

Winesalot · 07/02/2020 14:36

Plus diverseopinions her son is in nappies.

iklboo · 07/02/2020 14:27

If it's a school setting and a school pool and school changing rooms, wouldn't this be a boys' changing room - the one OP's son usually uses and probably headed for.

It's not a school swimming pool.

AngryAtYouTube · 07/02/2020 13:58

Wait - you were in the mens?!?!

I was totally shocked thinking your pool was like ours and big open locker area and then individual or family cubicles.

But no. You were in the mens changing room. Where a man was changing.

You're joking, yes?

Diverseopinions · 07/02/2020 13:02

If it's a school setting and a school pool and school changing rooms, wouldn't this be a boys' changing room - the one OP's son usually uses and probably headed for. It is interesting that parents were swimming in the school pool alongside their kids. I wonder if it's usual for schools to invite parents in to swim, rather than just hosting swimming lessons for the children.

SwedishK · 07/02/2020 12:30

I’m not sure what the concern is? Is it that he’s naked in front of his daughters or that he’s naked in a changing room full stop? It’s hard to get changed without taking your clothes off. Also, his daughters have probably seen his willy hundreds of times. I have certainly seen both my parents naked on multiple occasions. With my dad, probably weekly growing up. There is nothing sexual about it, it’s your dad!

Winesalot · 07/02/2020 11:39

Yay!! It’s back!!! Love this thread. Sheer lunacy!