Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

Can I just point out that the OP felt that the man in question should have been hiding away in a cubicle to get changed (as I understand it) but I've just noticed in one of her updates that there weren't any changing cubicles!

It's at a school not not men men... so it doesn't smell. It's one toilet with a door... two showers and open space.

So there was one toilet, two showers, an open space and NO changing cubicle. What are you suggesting he do @pinkboa? Change in the toilet cubicle?? Or stay in his wet swimsuit for the onward journey?

Pinkboa the point about people taking issue with your criticism of the man's hairy ass is that you shouldn't have been in the Men's Changing Room looking at it in the first place.

If your DS is 2 then you should bring him to the Women's Changing Room with you.

You have no business going into the Men's with him (or alone).

And quite frankly, if you deliver your completely unreasonable feelings and irrational opinions on a plate to the company here gathered, you are going to get shits and giggles aplenty.

pinkboa Wed 27-Nov-19 16:54:45 - invested much?

Bloody hell. Op you are being a proper GF! Just wait in the ladies!!

I'm off to hang around men's changing rooms and toilets to try to get a glimpse of bum 🤞

Incrdible thread. Great twists and turns. 10/10.

Good to see that OPs stopped replying....... after the children are in bed! She wouldn't want to take time out of her time when she can do it during the hours the children are awake!

Why do you keep replying if you’re so insistent you don’t care?
Are you enjoying life under that bridge of yours?
Maybe you should take a break from mumsnet and consider why you were completely and utterly in the wrong.

I can’t believe you sat in the MEN’S changing room for 1/2 an hour! WTF... seriously if a man did that in the ladies there would be rightful outrage. You are beyond in the wrong.

I haven’t read the full thread but having read you were in the men’s you were totally unreasonable! Imagine what would happen if a man went and sat in the women’s for 30 minutes because it was hot or whatever! I’m surprised he didn’t complain about you. You shouldn’t be in the men’s when the adults are getting changed!

You were in the men’s changing room ffs! What did you expect to see? He was using a facility for its intended purpose and you are offended by it. Your are beyond ridiculous.

Next time I suggest you go and sit somewhere else.

Also, what is the relevance of his arse being hairy? Imagine a man coming on here and saying he was disgusted by a woman for having hairy armpits. It’s normal to have hair on your body. Again, it’s nothing to be offended by. You’re reacting like it’s the first time you’ve seen a naked body and it didn’t live up to your expectations.

@Spartak

I would not have remained there .. hairy arse!

Yuk!

I'm curious as to why, when it became obvious the man was getting changed did you not get up and leave the changing room.

And also what harm you think might come to your two year old from seeing an adult get changed. He's not going to catch syphilis, chlamydia or the gay by a glimpse of a penis or arse. He may however learn that there is nothing wrong with bodies of different shapes and sizes.

No way this thread is real. Think about it. I cannot imagine a single person in the world marching into an opposite sex changing room, sitting there for 30 mins, seeing a correct sex person changing there and COMPLAINING about it. Not only complaining, but insinuating that the changing person is some sort of perv, because he's not hiding behind the towel in the appropriate sex CHANGING room. Can any of the posters imagine someone they know doing such? Just wtf.

If I'd be such person (in school of all the places!), I'd be thanking my lucky stars (and the hairy-arsed bloke!) that I wasn't reported for being a pervert and police wasn't called. Either that man didn't care enough, or was just too embarrassed and wanted to forget the whole incident asap. Because if it was a man sitting in women's changing room for 30 mins.. Wait, this wouldn't happen, women would not let him sit there for half an hour, he'd be instantly thrown out, school notified and police called (and rightfully so).

This can't be fit real. A woman goes into a man's changing room and sits for half an hour and complains she sees a penis!! So what if his daughters were there. My dh takes my daughter swimming all the time. You are beyond ridiculous!

@pinkboa keep out make dressing rooms and you've still not said why you didn't think that you being the ONLY WOMAN WITH A SON in there was odd, you won't then see hairy male arses!

And before you say I did t realise it was wrong, you did, you were the only mother doing it and liked the fact it was empty! So cultural knowledge is total bullshit and only said when you were handed your arse on a plate!

@pinkboa

I would call it a hairy arse ..

OP you've said repeatedly that you didn't feel he should be naked around other people's children. Now since he was in his designated changing facility and using it as a changing facility, you are also saying that he shouldn't be doing that (in the way he chose to do if) with "other people's" (aka your) children present. Therefore, once children (again, aka your child) was present, your child being present trumped his right to use his designated facility for its intended purpose.
Please correct me if I'm wrong, otherwise what is the point of your OP?

A woman, in the men's changing rooms complaining about a man changing in there. Really?

I am amazed this wasn't a wind up, but the OP is becoming so rude, it might even be real.

Unbelievable.

😂not frothing one bit. Highly amused that you continue to think what u did was ok.

Only in Britain could we have a thread like this.

What the OP thought about the man's bum's attractiveness is just nasty. Being shocked is perfectly reasonable, not being happy at being near the door in case someone could be seen from outside, fair enough.

From @pinkboa

*Another corker from @

I can't believe people choose to get so heavily invested in something on the internet... man I am amazed!*

Because she's not! So much time spent today be OP but it's because she's super efficient and not ignoring her 2 year old