Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

out of the cubicle I am typing too fast as usual!

Just stumbled upon this in the grips of insomnia....

Wow.

My first thought is that the man in question displayed his hairy bum given he wasn't inclined to display his root and two veg at the creepy woman hanging around in the male changing facilities...

Single sex spaces are important and should be respected. It doesn't matter if they are empty or less frequently used. Imagine in reverse a woman entering a female changing room to find a fully dressed Male just sitting there? Creepy.

OP honestly, it's been a gas, but you're either utterly clueless or trolling.

This is like shooting fish in a barrel.

I was not the only parent in the room, there was another father and his son getting dressed for the class.
When you keep on posting remarks like that, I suspect that many reading the thread wonder if you really understand the point about the Men's Changing Rooms being for men and their children, including daughters up to age 7.

a lot of women are prudish and in truth would never go into a men's changing room even if it was a class specifically for toddlers and it was empty I.DO.NOT.CARE
For the record, women don't avoid the Men's Changing Room out of prudishness.

It's because all over the world, everyone above age 5 knows that Men's changing rooms are for men and their children, up to age 7 if female, and Women's changing rooms are for women and their children, up to age 7 if male. Maybe you missed this because you have always swum at a beach and have never changed your clothing away from home when swimming. And live in a little bubble all your own.

NOT.CARING. doesn't mean you are entitled to disregard the global convention. You are a woman, ergo you use the changing room marked Women, along with your DS who is 2. When he is 7 he will use the Men's, alone.

And it's not smart or polite or reasonable to use the Men's loos when you're out either. Men are entitled to privacy or at least the exclusive presence of other men while peeing into a urinal. Leave yourself time to queue for the Women's loos just as millions of other women do.
If you genuinely have a pelvic floor that is not working, then go and get it fixed.

And after all the palaver about how different things are where you are from - one should really not think that because they are used to something happening one way it can't happen any other way..
Priceless!

@pinkboa
If the only place to wait is the changing rooms, why did you not wait in the women's until the lesson ended rather than sitting 20 minutes in the men's. Surely they're both adjacent to the pool?

Ummm... pinkboa. You do what the rest of us women do. And as this is Mumsnet, many posters have also had babies and know exactly what it is like to be busting to wee with pelvic floor issues but if a) you are really that busting you kindly ask if it is ok to go to the front and maybe, just maybe, the line will take pity on you. Or b) if you have a genuine bladder issue that qualifies as a disability, you might check out the disabled loo.

I’d suggest not feigning cultural differences in feeling that ‘popping’ into the men’s loo is ok. unless you are ok for men to do it to the women??? In which case, let me point you to a few threads that might be enlightening.

And again, if it was ok in whatever country you grew up in, perhaps it is time to learn the social mores of toileting of the country you live in and adopt them while you live there. Or even if you are just visiting.

@pinkboa, I don’t think @Mamboitaliano is suggesting that you should police other people’s use of the disabled loos. What she is saying is that your dh and child should not be using them because neither of them is disabled.

They have other alternatives - he could take your child into the Gents - whereas disabled people will probably have NO other option, so while your able bodied child is using the disabled loo, a disabled person could end up in discomfort or even soiling themselves!

Can you not understand why this is deeply selfish of your dh?

Can this go in classics please?

Poster complains about a naked man in changing room, drying his body as its wet from swimming.

Turns out poster is female enjoying a leisurely sit down in the MENS changing room.

Actually pinkboa, while you have said you will not use that changing room again, did I read correctly that you would use the men’s loos anytime you felt the ladies queue was too long?

Do men not deserve the same privacy that woman do?

Where in the world did you grow up that you learned it was totally acceptable to do this? And no, it was not acceptable in Australia when you lived there either ( unless perhaps you got away with it out bush somewhere).

I wonder if he thought you were a pervert. Maybe he got it out because you were lingering around and wanted to see.

@pinkboa

If you're real, you're horrible.

Ok. If you did in fact read you would have seen mums-nets response. But hope it made you feel better.

Read my post then? I said I didn't think it could be true, in other words that was my initial thought but then saw MN post (tho they only said you were a long-standing poster, they can't confirm this isn't all bull). I reported you, as I said, as you're goady & winding everyone up.

And yes there are lessons where I do not need to be in the water with my 2 year old. Lessons where the ratio is 2:1 and lessons I am happy to continue with.... one should really not think that because they are used to something happening one way it can't happen any other way...

Ratio is 2:1 now? So 2 teachers for each 1 child??? C'mon!! 'One' doesn't think anything but I can't for a moment figure out how two year olds can be taught how to swim by a 1:2 ratio OR 2:1 ratio. Most parents would feel really odd about passing over their 2 yo to a teacher in that scenario. Sure, a 2 yo CAN'T learn to swim, it's only fun in the water, which is usually done with parents.

Still, I'm pretty sure you're getting your kicks from winding us all up, which I'm indulging now!!!

Well it's not like I could see his face? His back was turned to me

Have you even copped on yet that JUST MAYBE he had his back to you so that you couldn't see his penis? Ergo, he was a tad uncomfortable by your presence?

Jesus Christ some people really are THAT self absorbed.......

Sorry, it’s hard to keep track with you changing the story with every post

Haha!!

if it was full I would leave.

Except you didn’t. 2 men, 3 kids, all in the right place and you sat there with a tiny toddler watching them like a complete weirdo

Am I right? You are female and went into the male changing room to wait and and complain because you saw the hairy backside of a man?
Surely there was somewhere else for you to wait (like reception) . He could have complained about you being there.