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SIL baby name

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Springtime3 · 10/11/2019 19:58

AIBU - I have a 6 month old Annabella, we call her Bella for short which I’m sure will get shortened to Belle. My sister in law is pregnant, due 04/2020 she’s just told me her girls names is Belle! I was speechless when she told me I just think It’s too similar ?? Aibu to feel angry over this?!?

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plantainchips · 10/11/2019 20:56

It’s not the same as if she’s named her child Anna for example is it? Because OP’s daughter isn’t known as Anna.

Belle and Bella are way too similar. I’d mention it to her tbh.

fedup21 · 10/11/2019 20:53

So she couldnt use Annabella, Bella, Belle, Anna, Annabel, Annie, Anne, Ella, Elle, Ellie or Ana or any other derivative as you own the rights to all those?

Exactly

MorganKitten · 10/11/2019 20:51

Yours is a nickname, hers will be her name.

Pipsandpops · 10/11/2019 20:51

YABU

Springtime3 · 10/11/2019 20:51

Thanks everyone, love hearing different opinions. No it’s not a family name and we are close, we live on the same street as well as my in laws. It’s never been a name she has mentioned as I obviously wouldn’t have had it if she did. Her three year old son calls my baby belle as he has difficulty saying Annabella. So another reason why I found it strange. She may even have a boy yet 😂 thanks for your reply’s ! X

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ThatMuppetShow · 10/11/2019 20:50

You don't even know why she chose the name Belle when you chose Annabella

the Annabella I know is called just that btw, no one is shortening her name, so it's not a "thing

If she is copying you, it's mildly annoying, but it's still a completely different name!
If you stole the name, she might have started a thread herself when you named yours and be told by MN posters to stick to her first choice Grin

Supersimkin2 · 10/11/2019 20:47

Is SIL named Bell-end?

Shelby2010 · 10/11/2019 20:47

The most you can do is the passive aggressive gushing: ‘Oh won’t that be fun for them being Bella & Belle? As long as they don’t end up as Big Belle & BabyBelle?! What do you think Bella, will you like having a Babybel as a cousin or does that sound a bit cheesy? Although if you like Disney princesses, I think Aurora is lovely too.’

But if it doesn’t put her off, then I’m sure you’ll learn to live with it!

Bluewall · 10/11/2019 20:47

This if off topic but I never get why people give a child a name but then call them by another name in real life ? Out of interest why did you not just name your daughter Bella ? Do you ever call her Annabella ?

Molly2010 · 10/11/2019 20:46

@diddl I think you’ve missed the point of the thread

TwoBoxers · 10/11/2019 20:44

So she couldnt use Annabella, Bella, Belle, Anna, Annabel, Annie, Anne, Ella, Elle, Ellie or Ana or any other derivative as you own the rights to all those?
You’ll have a Bella - you won’t have a Belle if your SIL chooses their name Belle. Unless you feel you have monopoly on all names associated with Annabella?
Some posters are utterly pathetic in their desire to be the first to give the op a kicking.
OP
If I were you, I'd be inclined to be quietly dismissive, don't rise, don't bite, just see it for the pathetic gesture it is.

Minxmumma · 10/11/2019 20:44

Definately go all out with referring to her bump as Babybel!
It's a bit odd but people are awful odd with this stuff - hormones have alot to answer for

diddl · 10/11/2019 20:43

"you should start referring to her now as Babybelle"

Why would Op be so nasty?

Skittlesandbeer · 10/11/2019 20:42

Whatever happens, brace yourself for hitting classroom after classroom chock full of Bellas. For the last 8 years or so, every second girl born around my community has been named it.

Ponoka7 · 10/11/2019 20:42

I agree that if you were going to call her Belle, you should have done that and not gone with Annabella.

I'm from a generation that used family names and even though we were less likely to move away, I don't know anyone who lives that close to their Cousins that it would be an issue.

I don't really see the problem.

Molly2010 · 10/11/2019 20:42

OP you should start referring to her now as Babybelle and see how long it takes for her to change it.

bridgetreilly · 10/11/2019 20:41

Cousins with similar or even the same name is really not a big deal. Get over it, OP.

Sunshine1239 · 10/11/2019 20:40

Annabella won’t be shortened to belle unless you encourage it

Dds both have names which can be shortened but never have been as it’s not encouraged by family so nick names haven’t caught on and their in high school now so unlikely too

Sounds like you’re being precious

Dd and my dn both have a similar name - one digit difference (dd was named first), it’s really no issue as cousins generally are more family than mates - I mean will they even go same school? Live in same town? If not then you have no cause to have issue imo

diddl · 10/11/2019 20:38

Perhaps your daughter won't want to be called Bella or Belle?

You already shorten her name, why must you also use Belle as well if your sil might be using it?

You haven't used it yet!

Greggers2017 · 10/11/2019 20:35

Why did you call her Annabella if you were going to call her Bella?
I have a niece whose name is Bella and another called Isobel. Not similar at all. If you are that bothered call her by her proper name 🤷‍♀️

morriseysquif · 10/11/2019 20:34

Well, she might have always wanted that name, you chose Annabella, then you shorten it to Bella.....

It is no big deal, my cousin and i have the same name, which is a family name.

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 10/11/2019 20:33

Waiting for the massive drip feed....

NeckPainChairSearch · 10/11/2019 20:32

People won't care. My grandparents had three grandsons with the same name and two granddaughters as they were named after family members. When families followed traditional naming patters it was extremely common for cousins to have the same name

This. Lots of names-in-common in my family as well. Literally no one cares.

No one you meet will care one jot that your DD has a cousin with a similar name.

MIldly perturbed? Maybe, at most. Angry? No, that would be a bit of an overreaction.

And also, your DD is called Annabella. Your Sil is still pregnant with a child who she MIGHT call Belle. She might have a boy. She might very well change her mind. Nothing to get annoyed about at all, imo.

Novemberblu3s · 10/11/2019 20:31

how close are you. will you be spending lots of time together?

would not bother me too much esp if you were not awfully close.

not sure why you think your DD will be called Belle given her name and nickname .

DryHeaving · 10/11/2019 20:30

You chose Annabella, she has chosen Belle, Call your child by her full name if you are that bothered

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