To be upset at not being invited to this party ?

Her list - did she have a list of everyone in the department and was ticking off those invited, or did she do the list from scratch? In which case she may just have forgotten you.

I once invited DS’s entire class to his birthday party, minus his best friend. It was a total terrible oversight and I had no idea I’d missed him out until I asked his mum if he was coming and she said he hadn’t had an invitation. I then checked my list and his name wasn’t on it. How I could have missed him out, I have no idea. So oversights do happen.

I wouldn't say "Oi, where's my invitation, bitch?" out STRAIGHT, but I would ask her if she is having a leaving party of any kind and see what she says.

It sounds like an oversight rather than a deliberate snub. I would just say "how come I'm not invited to your leaving do, eh?' and see what she says. If she stutters some bullshit about there being restricted numbers then, yes, you've been left out. The likelihood is that she will tell you that you are invited. It's unusual for leaving dos to be invitation only.

Say something. Make her feel awkward at least. Don't be a pushover.

It does sound like a mistake OP - I can't imagine anyone doing this on purpose unless they were pure evil.

The last time I left a job (15 years ago!) I forgot to invite a really lovely woman - she was in another department but we chatted fairly regularly - it just completely slipped my mind because I had so much going on with winding up my old job and preparing for the new.. Are you physically around her much? Could there be a reason you were overlooked such as desk layout, different department, not on a certain mailing list?

I'd ask her in passing if she's planning a leaving-do and see what she says...

Make sure you don't but in to her leaving collection of sign her card.

Your colleague sounds like an absolute prick to me. I've never worked in an environment where this would be considered acceptable and I've had some shitty jobs.

As McCrap says - shitty job or not, usually everybody is invited to a leaving do - even people who started that week (gives them a chance to get to know us, warts and all). I've never been anywhere where it hasn't just been a general invitation to the whole department, though obviously some people might have it tailored (eg "Meet at 7.00 at the 'Dicky Ticker' - (menu attached). Afterwards on to 'Hot Rats A-Go-Go' for any who fancy really making a night of it. See you all there! (Nigel - do NOT bring your trombone hahahaha "))

To have targeted invitations is way out of my experience

As she is leaving there is nothing to be lost by asking, and if it was not a mistake then at least you can save money that you won't be putting in her leaving collection.

I also believe it might be a mistake/misunderstanding. Tbh, I'd just ask her straight

To my amazement, she actually came as well, although I don't remember us actually exchanging a single word all night.

I suppose if she was going to celebrate anything with you it would be you leaving?

just kidding, just kidding :p

If it is on purpose to not invite you you can really consider yourself very lucky,this is how some people get their kicks and they are just sad sad people. If I was working in an offuce and saw this going on I'd make an excuse to not go because I would not associate myself with some one like her.These things happen to everyone at some stage and it is not nice.It happened to me when a group I was very friendly with where 2 had a wedding,everyone invited except me.I had my wedding after those wedding but I invited all of them.What I can't understand is to this day one of those girls always after me to meet up bla bla and while I speak when I meet her I never ever met up with her because guess what,an elephant never forgets.phew sorry for the rant just has to get that out there

I got missed off a party this weekend - sent a text saying "hi, heard you're having a party. I totally understand if I havent made the invite list, just wanted to check it wasnt an admin oversight :)" and got a reply with an invite as it was just an accident.

If you're really feeling you're close with this person then ask, just ready yourself that the answer might be "no, sorry".

I think it’s pretty mean.You invite everyone to a work thing. That’s the point.

However I do work with people who are completely socially inept. Laughing too long and loudly at things that aren’t funny/their own jokes, asking stupid questions, chipping in at inappropriate times. They are nice people as it goes but hard work.
Do you think you might be one of these and she’s thought fuck it I’ll never gave to see her again?

Not justifying her leaving you out, some people are rude but maybe not brave enough to tell you she finds you annoying?

I'd 100% ask. Or ask someone else if they can ask why (you know, as if it hasn't come from you), if you don't want to. Or ask her if she's having a leaving thing? She's leaving anyway, and things like this really bother me, so I wouldn't let it lie.

It's possible that it was just a mistake - it's easy to miss someone accidentally off a list.

She should have invited everyone, including the two new people, though. Even if they don't come, at least the offer is there and it's a polite gesture.

I had a leaving do at my last job and there was a woman in my department that I actively despised and who also hated me, but I still invited her because I'm not a complete child and it would have been petty to invite literally everyone else and not her.

To my amazement, she actually came as well, although I don't remember us actually exchanging a single word all night.

That's awful, I would have thought a work leaving do would have everyone invited, even new staff. Awful to just not invite a couple of people. It's nasty

Clearly she is choosing to go out with people, she’s known for longer. Try not to take it personally. It isn’t about you or the relationship you have with her. Needless to say I can understand why you are upset and it is thoughtless.

I personally would not be bothered as she's clearly just a colleague and not a friend. She's probably closer to the other people she's invited and intends on seeing them outside of work once she leaves.

I would ask her, why you haven't been invited.

Do you follow a special diet that would make it awkward to eat out with them ?
How many people is she inviting ?

I'd ask her.

I don't like leaving people out.

My colleague left on a Friday and she had drinks after work in a pub.

Her replacement had started on the Wednesday so they overlapped by two days.

He was asked to the leaving do and came and enjoyed it! It wouldn't have crossed our mind not to invite someone new!!

How many are invited. A select 4 or so of close friends is different to not being asked to a group of 20.

That’s hurtful OP, a bit odd on her part and incredibly rude if done on purpose, I’m hoping it’s an oversight.