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To think people are so mean about ginger hair!

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Mopmum35 · 30/09/2019 15:05

So why are people so mean and disrespectful of people with ginger hair?

It really upsets me.
What is wrong with ginger hair?
The amount of people that take the piss is shocking! I'm not ginger but it still gets on my wick. It's sad. Does anyone agree?

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FunkyKingston · 01/10/2019 02:15

A vestige of anti Irish and anti Scottish bigotry.

The negative trips associated with ginger hair, short tempered, impetuous and sexually libidinous are stereotypes associated with the Scots or Irish, which have the highest concentration of redheads.

doskant · 01/10/2019 02:07

I never understood it either. Ginger hair is the absolute bomb! Ginger hair and freckles are perfection 👩🏻‍🦰

NotTonightJosepheen · 01/10/2019 01:53

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Brassbedpost · 01/10/2019 01:34

My dd has red hair and everyone seems to feel the need to comment on it. Even if it's complimentary it gets on my nerves people can't not say something drives me potty Hmm

Gingerkittykat · 01/10/2019 01:30

Is it more of an English than Scottish thing? I've seen Alan Carr and other comedians being horrible about gingers.

My ex had a horrible time at school for being ginger, but DD and DSS have never had a problem. There is loads of gentle ribbing in the family about gingers, mainly from other gingers but never any nastiness. An example would be posting a picture of factor 50 on FB with #gingerlife or something similar.

tweedledeedo · 01/10/2019 01:16

@NotTonightJosepheen 🤔 so you don't know what all these people are on about and you gave them a "foxy" nickname? 👍🏼 ok then

Blobfish1 · 01/10/2019 01:11

Well when I was in primary school, the bullying started, but I just didn't take the bait. Copper knob, carrot face, ginger minger, ginger pubes. Also had the ' Christ I hope my baby isn't ginger, I'll drown it if it is'. People are just so nasty! My best friend who wasn't ginger, but a little bit plump, was also tortured, but she just couldn't handle it at all and spent all our school years in tears. One of my worst episodes that did upset me was when I met a lad in a night club, we got on really well, had a great night dancing and laughing together. He asked to see me again, I was so happy and excited. I met him a few days later, it was daylight and when he saw me he said, 'fuck, you'r a ginger
I thought you were blonde! Nah, I'll never live it down.' And I was dumped, there and then! Hahaha, his loss. Mind you, I've also had some pretty amazing comments too, which is lovely. So I think you either love us or hate us. My two kids, don't take after my hair colour, my daughter would love ginger hair but my son 14, teases me all the time about being ginger, it's obviously a topic amongst his mates. We have a good laugh over it, but he sends me masses of stuff relating to online ginger abuse. But of course, ginger were considered very bad luck, we'd be brought in so our skin could be searched for the mark if the devil, maybe an odd freckle or 2! Then that was the proof that we were witches and banshees and the punishment was to be burned at the stake or drowned. Yes, definitely mixed blessings!😂 And of course I have the added bonus of being Welsh! A double whammy when it comes to being abused!
Welsh, Ginger and Proud!🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

Sashkin · 01/10/2019 01:04

Absolute best though was some African bloke in his sixties, who clearly had some mental health issues, who tried to exorcise the "Red Devil" (me) on the bus to work one morning. Shouted biblical verses, told the demon to be cast out in the name of the Lord, etc. All very loud, continued for the entire 20mins bus journey without a break. Luckily I had headphones. And I had some bad reactions to my hair when I worked in Tanzania.

So it's not universally liked overseas (seen as demonic or associated with witchcraft in various cultures, apparently associated with prostitution in Tanzania, though I have no idea how that would have arisen because there must only be about three gingers in the entire country).

Sashkin · 01/10/2019 00:55

I'm a red-head, and it is probably better now than it used to be! The worst was the full grown men asking me what colour my pubes are, which was a very regular occurrence from the age of 12 or 13

Yep, same here. And the man who shouted at me completely unprompted in the street (aged about 12 and in school uniform), saying he bet my mum wished she'd had an abortion instead of an ugly ginger bitch daughter, he must have been in his forties and was in a suit.

It does seem to be a certain type of person. DS has beautiful curly strawberry blond hair, he looks like a little cherub. And in Canada I get people in the street stopping me to say what beautiful hair he has and isn't he an adorable little boy. In the UK, I get "oh dear, I hope he doesn't grow up to be ginger!" Fucked up.

DdraigGoch · 01/10/2019 00:43

I expect nothing less than depraved comments from teenage boys. I am however astonished that adult men think it is acceptable to ask a child about their private parts.

Wincarnis · 30/09/2019 23:37

Ginger here. Was teased a lot at primary school and like others got the vile “do they match” heckling from older men. By the time I got to late teens I had developed a repertoire of smart replies and had much more confidence in dealing with the piss taking. I have had some weird looks when abroad, but things seems to have died down, people have other things to get worked up about these days!

Mopmum35 · 30/09/2019 23:34

@Riojasmoothy your mil sounds awful. What a horrible thing to say.

@31weeksgone you sound very clever darling😁

@Jody21 Fanta pubes 🤦‍♀️ what dicks.

@Elprup that's nice Smile

@definitelyshouldknowbetter well done for going back to your natural colour.

@Nirvana1979 that's discussing! What a pair pricks.

@mullyluo you little ones hair sounds amazing, it would be amazing if the bullies did stop.

@loveskaka 👍😘 support for the gingers.

@Ozziewozzie absolutely spot on with your comment couldn't of said it better 😁

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Ozziewozzie · 30/09/2019 23:19

It’s always baffled me why people have such an issue with colour.
I genuinely fail to see how surprising it could possibly be. We’re living in a world where we are becoming accepting of so much, yet people actually still feel the need to be derogatory towards ginger hair colour. Astonishing.

I think the only acceptable prejudice should be towards all the ignorant twazzocks who make other people’s life a misery based on colour of hair, skin, shape, size, nationality, sexuality, class, ability, gender, age.......

I’ve always said, if any of my children were a bit mischievous at school...ok, fair enough, but if I ever found out any of them bullied anyone, I’d be disgusted.

To ask someone what colour their pubic hair is? Shocking.

loveskaka · 30/09/2019 23:11

My hair is brown, I bleach it and dye it ginger 😍 x

mullyluo · 30/09/2019 23:09

My son has gorgeous ginger ringlets, he get so many compliments about his hair especially from older ladies who love to touch it. When I was at school a lot of the ginger kids would have gotten pick on for it but i think (hope for my son) that the tide is changing and ginger is becoming more fashionable now.

Nirvana1979 · 30/09/2019 23:02

@definitelyshouldknowbetter thats interesting, i used to faint all the time.Grin

Nirvana1979 · 30/09/2019 23:01

I was bullied for having ginger hair all through school. Had the pubes comments too. This will never die out, even grown ups i know make nasty remarks in front of me.

A guy in my office refers to an ex colleague as a fucking ginger cunt all the time. Says things like, "who cares, hes ginger, fk him etc etc. My manager sits there listening and doesn't say a word. I'm one more remark away from going to HR about him. Who the fk does he think he is? Saying those things is bad enough but saying them in front of someone with ginger hair is just not right. On balance i do get nice compliments too.

Ds1 is ginger too, he has had the same comments but hes pretty chilled and just laughs it off. Hes 20 now.

definitelyshouldknowbetter · 30/09/2019 22:46

My hair is now it’s natural auburn colour and I love it!!! I get so many compliments, people want to touch it all the time when I wear it down which is a bit weird but after years of bleaching it blonde (didn’t love and appreciate it at 15BlushWink) I grew it out and went back to natural and don’t regret for a second!

Apparently redheads have a gene that makes us more prone to fainting, bleed more and we have a higher pain threshold. I think there is some American studies into it, I’ve not properly researched it but when I had my first child I wanted an epidural which didn’t take despite the anaesthetists best efforts and then a massive PPH and the midwife made a comment afterwards about it being the red head that caused it so I googled it and it is a genuine thing! And obviously we’re all super cleverGrin

Elprup · 30/09/2019 22:32

Honestly I would kill to have ginger hair. I think it’s beautiful!

Jody21 · 30/09/2019 22:30

I have ginger hair, as do both of my DC. I love it now, but for years I dyed it every color possible. I was painfully shy in my teens and was a natural target for bullies who would shout 'Fanta Pubes!' at all the gingers in our school. Gratifying now to see those same assholes every now and again and they have hardly any hair left at all between them!

31weeksgone · 30/09/2019 22:03

I tell you what though, I’m in a particularly academic place at the moment studying at a very very high level (not blowing my own trumpet!) there’s 96 of us in the group. AT LEAST 25% of us are red heads, which is generally really unusual I don’t normally come across that many red heads in one place. So that just leads me to believe that red heads are just undeniably clever 😜

(Even though I appear not!)

Mopmum35 · 30/09/2019 21:30

Do you know what also pisses me off, it's when people laugh at the word ' ginger' 🤦‍♀️
Like why?

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Mopmum35 · 30/09/2019 21:04

@31weeksgone absolutely bloody brilliant! Dh and I have said similar to what you have just said. Well done to you, I love what you have put and how you stand regarding gingersSmile
@squirrelfriends what a knob of a teacher.

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sqirrelfriends · 30/09/2019 20:53

Agreed, it's stupid.

My first ever boyfriend had bright orange hair and got all kinds of grief for it, even a teacher said he had no soul.

I think red hair is beautiful, lots of people dye their hair red nowadays so it can't just be me that thinks it.

Mopmum35 · 30/09/2019 20:53

FreeSpiritJen couldn't agree more!
YesQueen: completely agree, all old shit still being said.
Carpathian2 it's a shame those bullies made you feel that way. Sad
holidayhelpppp yea that is pretty stupid! Ds hair sounds lovelySmile
YesQueen your hair was/is gorgeous.

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