To ask what you actually can't do after having children?

Nipping, you can't just nip anywhere if you are alone with child, it's packing everything you need with you, if it's not nappies and wipes, it's snacks and drink lol

Weeing on your own, my son went through a phase of wanting to sit on my knee while I had a wee 😳

Putting yourself first, you will always consider them first.

Other then that, most thing possible if you have a kind and considerate partner to share it with.

I think most people who think life just carries on/you can do anything either have supportive family or money.

I'm sure this is true - I have some of both and it absolutely makes life easier. I do think the biggest factor is whether you're co-parenting or not, and if so what they do, though. So many of these posts are written as if it's just inevitable that OP will do every nursery pick up and drop off, that any career damage will be hers, that it'll be unthinkable for her to leave her children in the care of their other parent while she does something. That might well be true - for all I know she's considering being a single mother by sperm donation - but for most people these things are choices they make.

Sleep, go out when you want just you and DP, go to the toilet by your self, have 5 minutes of peace

• do a number 2 in peace
• sleep
• have a lazy day
• have holidays ( some people do it but not relaxing with mine so don’t bother)
• have a tidy house
• spend the weekend mooching about, I can’t even go to Starbucks with toddlers they won’t sit still.
• look my best - look like crap as every morning is a rush then just permanently exhausted / no time to focus on hair / Male up

Wish I enjoyed it more before hand!

Very few things you can’t do anymore, but also nothing you can do without thinking about the child first.

Sleep, judging by last night's evidence. DC (7) had a sleepover, still chatting and giggling at 1AM despite repeatedly being told to get to sleep. Then woken by DC (1) at 5:30, before realising DC (7) was actually awake and chatting then too! It's going to be a long day, I think we'll all be tired, emotional messes by 4PM!

But other than the loss of sleep, it's all jolly japes and fun just stay away from sleepovers

Decided to go for a couple of drinks after work as have nursery pick up.
Can't think of anything else

I think most people who think life just carries on/you can do anything either have supportive family or money.

It is really really lifechanging without either!

Trampoline, sneeze, wee in peace. But seriously, some practical things such as long evenings out- mainly because I’m tired. And that was with 2 c sections

Work.

I had a jcareer that I loved, but involved sporadic hours and lots of travel. OH had a similar job, we had no family for childcare,

I thought the workplace was an grown up place regarding sex equality.
It is not.
I had to jack in my job.

we can’t now afford holidays, and with the behaviour of my toddler, it wouldn’t be relaxing.
We have limited childcare, so social life is non existent. One of us is usually at work, and the other has the kids.
Lie in. My kids wake anytime from 4am, and yes, we have tried everything.
Travel by foot, at a reasonable speed.

And then there's the guilt.

• Finish a thought,
• Finish a chore,
• Sleep deeply (29 years of sleeping with one ear alert now)
• Watch a horror movie or a movie involving cruelty, or children in dire situations, or documentaries along the same lines,
• Enjoy silence - silence causes alarm bells to ring loudly in your brain,
• Go anywhere away from home with your baby, toddler or small child without mentally assessing how much of a death trap it is,
• If you have several children, you can't go anywhere with them without constantly doing a head count.

Yes make a phone call without someone crying!
Focus on one task until it's done - I built furniture yesterday interrupted by amongst other things my 4yo having a hissy fit that the DVD she was watching had a.picture that didn't fill the screen (old kids tv programme)!

Pop out. In my case exercise or do my hobbies but I expect that to improve as the 1yo learns to sleep better.

And on the positive.... I can no longer.put up with any shit at work or people devaluing me, I don't have time for that crap so have become more assertive

You can't go a single day without...worrying about your little people... being annoyed about something they did/didn't do/refused to do/went ahead and did when you just told them not to etc etc and of course you can't go a day without feeling like you just love those little people so much that no matter what you would never ever stop loving them.

Oh and you can't ever eat a chocolate while they are out of bed without hiding in a cupboard unless you want to share it haha... those flappy little ears become very tuned to wrappers being opened.

Forgot to add use the phone in peace. They will be quiet all-day then as soon as you are on the phone, they will pester you non stop, sing, start to ask you any amount of random shit, or start fighting!

Sleep! Have a sleep in!

Freedom gone!

Popping to the shops is a mission.

Silence gone.

Selfishness impossible.

I’ve had a week without mine at their dads. I miss them but it’s been amazing to experience pre-kid life again!! So chilled.

Said - DSis

@BinkyBaa what are the most important things in your life youd like to try to maintain. I the most disorganised person on the planet. I did have parents to help sometimes and did have a babysitter sometimes too but quite honestly if I can do it anyone can. Things like taking a baby in the loo are minor months scheme of things. You can't leave a minibeast with a later pen running around while you lock yourself in the loo. What's there to hide anyway. You'll be teaching them pity training.vety useful. What do you want to continue? My said had her 3 kids skiing and water skiing by 3 years old as that's their thing. A friends child was cycling 5k by 3.5yrs which shocked me immensely. So whatsyour objective?

Smog I have a 14mo. What am I supposed to do with him whilst I’m on the loo when I am in sole charge? He has an uncontrollable urge to hurl himself off the nearest piece of furniture so can’t be left alone downstairs. And he wants me in his sight anyway so he follows me wherever I go (this is hardly unusual). If I put him in his cot (for example) he would get very upset and I would then have to calm him down - why on earth would I deliberately create that situation for myself. Far quicker and easier to just have him in with me. I don’t even really see it as a problem.

Holidays with young children are completely different.
I missed reading 6 books in a week on holiday, I barely managed one with a small child.

I have no idea why people claim not to be able to use the toilet alone - nobody I know in RL has had any issue with this!

I can no longer hear/read certain news stories without feeling massively affected. Having children definitely opened some sort of maternal door that was previously shut firmly and this seems to extend to any and all suffering children

Ditto for me.

And to add, that everything everyone has mentioned is temporary. Children grow up, leave home, life changes again........ and then if you are very lucky, gorgeous, adorable grandchildren burst into your life :)

For me as my baby is young:

See my favourite band play at Wembley next year
Go for a drive with my DH in our two seater convertible
Jump on a train at the last minute with the pram