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to be fed up with looking after friends daughter

30 replies

andiem · 20/07/2007 15:57

I have one ds7 one ds 4 weeks. My friend has recently split up from her husband. I am on mat leave at the moment and have become her unpaid child minder. In the last 4 weeks since the baby was born I have looked after her daughter 8 or 9 times both before and after school. Some of those times she hasn't been picked up till 18.30 in spite of me saying 18.00 is the latest I can have her.She is also dropped of at 7.30 in the morning when we are just about up.
I feel exhausted by it as she is not the happiest of children and mooches about and winges when she is here. She is also unpleasant to my ds who always tries to be nice as I have told him that she is having a hard time at the moment
My friend wants me to look after her in the school hols as well should I tell her no or be stricter about timings etc am I being a whinger

OP posts:
JoolsToo · 20/07/2007 16:01

Just tell her, if you just had a new baby you'd be happy to help but it's really just to much for you at the moment. If she doesn't understand she's not a very good friend imvho.

SpeccieSeccie · 20/07/2007 16:01

DS 4weeks! No, no, no. YANBU. Please don't commit yourself to looking after this child in the holidays. It won't be good for you or your dss. If you say no presumably your friend will need to make alternative arrangements which might suit the child better. Having a newborn is such a vulnerable time, I can't believe this woman is taking advantage.

DoubleBluff · 20/07/2007 16:00

Tell her to get lost.She' no freind.
Who dumps their kid on someone whao has just had a baby, fgs!

belgo · 20/07/2007 16:00

if you don't want to look after her, then say so. That's an awful lot of unpaid babysitting, especially as you have such a small baby.

lulumama · 20/07/2007 15:59

if she needs a childminder, she should find one, and pay...you have a newborn..you should be resting as much as you can...i think she is being totally unreasonable, and taking advantage of your good nature

do not devote the holidays to caring for her child...

what did she do for child care before she split from her DH?