In love with female teacher...

If your marriage is worth saving op and you're definitely not gay, I'd just take dd out of nursery and put her in a new one.

The disruption to her life would be far worse if you got a divorce.

Do you know anything about her? Have you had any conversations other than about school stuff?

Secondly, and probably most importantly is how you deal with the temptation you face. I think the answer is the same if this was a man or a woman. What's more important to you? Your marriage or her? If it's your marriage then I suggest you do your best to keep some distance until your DD goes to school.
This ^^. Your sexuality is irrelevant. You're married. End of. Keep all contact professional between now and DD leaving, and then stop completely. If she does flirt with you then that says a lot about her because she knows you're married. But if you continue as you are then you're in for a lot of trouble one way or another.

If you want help to snap out of this crush, which is all it is, tell the school that one of their employees is being inappropriate,which she is.

Again, tell your dh what exactly? That you have a crush? Are you hoping he'll suggest a threesome? Or dump you so you can follow up your crush?

It's all a bit cringe really.

I had an overwhelming crush on someone many moons ago. He was all I thought about but at the same time I didn't want to risk my marriage. As soon as he started to show an interest in me (he asked me to meet him for a drink) I told my DH and it burst the bubble. If I hadn't told him I just know I would've been tempted to meet this other man on our own (I saw him weekly anyway but in a group situation)

And yes, it is a crush, op. You're not in love, you don't really know this person. You want to have sex with her.

It’s limerence. I’ve been there twice now so I completely get it. It’s awful and all-consuming, and logically you know it’s ridiculous because you don’t know them at all, but you can’t stop feeling this way.

I think you made a really positive step in asking your partner to do the school run. The more distance you put between yourself and the teacher, the easier things will get. It will pass but you need to accept nothing can happen between you.

Unfortunately lots of people cheat. It doesn't mean someone needs counselling.

at people suggesting counselling for a bisexual crush.

Irregularegular - feel free to message me.

Having read the thread it sounds like you need to speak to a therapist ASAP. As lots of people have pointed out you don’t really know this women yet you are contemplating blowing up your life over her. I think it is significant that she is gay/bi and may well be awaking something inside you. But for her sake, the sake of your marriage and your daughter you need to talk this through with a professional and make sense of it all. If, after talking it through with a professional and you decide to end your marriage then that is where you need to start. But playing out this fantasy and cheating on your husband is just horrible behavior for everyone involved.

I have noticed some gay women just have this kind of sexual magnitisim about them and even moreso - transmen. It could be that she is actually a dude (at least mentally) and you can sense that. Can't say I've ever wanted to sleep with a woman but if you've ever seen Elliot fletcher from the American version of shameless? Ooft, I would. Wouldn't even care that he hasn't fully transitioned yet. I consider myself straight and I hate all this 'fluid sexuality' claptrap tbh but maybe there's...something in it. You like what you like and there's no shame in that.

As long as you aren't acting on it, I think it's ok to have a cheeky fantasy here and there. Problem is that... if you think she might like you back...would you be tempted to act on it?

Me too perhapsIwill

I've never felt like this before. But it isn't really like the OP as I do know her very well.

It's quite a different situation from with a man in that nobody thinks twice about us spending lots of time alone together, even a weekend away. I'm just going for close friendship and not telling anyone (including her, or DH) exactly how I am feeling. It's not ideal but I'm not sure what else I can do.

If something happens the only reason for it is that you are too selfish and weak to stop it.

I think you are using this thread as an opportunity to talk about your crush, because doing so is exciting. Let’s be honest you want to cheat. Otherwise you would stop making excuses and distance yourself. Google Limerence.

Should she be messaging you though? Isn’t that unprofessional?

I think that if you value your marriage at all, you need to pull back from this. You could lose everything only to find that this lady doesn’t live up to the fantaay in your head. You don’t really know her at all, after all.

So, you have met someone (let’s forget the gender thing) who you fancy like mad. In many marriages this happens, and we often fancy people we know comparatively little about.

^^ Well put. Unless you actually want to end your marriage for reasons other than this, let it be and it'll fade away at some point. I've experienced this type of intense attraction a few times during my 20 + year marriage - probably because everyday life is a bit boring! - and it goes away after a bit.

I've got a slight crush on someone right now and I suspect he fancies me too, but as we're both happily married with families, we won't do anything about it, it would do so much damage. We just enjoy a flirt when we see each other.

@whatacrapusername2306. As you are going to keep it that way, nothing wrong with that. It shows you are younger at heart. Female sexuality increases with age.

I would rather be in your situation than mine. Happily married, 2 kids and suddenly have a crush on an 18 year old lad I know. Made worse by the fact I can see all his social media. Absolutely nobody is aware and I will keep it that way. I mean Im old enough to be his mother for goodness sake. Shudder

I think she's interested in me too, and if she is that makes things a million times more complicated!

why?