to be annoyed at how DP 'proposed' to me?

too fussy

DH claims there was a lull in the conversation and he didn't know what to say so asked me to marry him...

FireFaerie - he asked you to marry him but perhaps you should -as he is planning to spend the rest of his life with you - explain to him that you would like it if the momentus moments were, well, a little more sober. But there was probably some need for some courage - he has proposed before and you've knocked him back...

He wants to marry you
He wants to spend the rest of his life with you
Just how exciting is that?!

I think you are definitely being to fussy about this. The point is - do you love him? do you want to marry him? If so - CONGRATS!

i think youre being a tad unreasonable tbh, dh proposed to me on new years eve 2002, he'd got so drunk that he passed out on the sofa, id been working and forgot my keys so couldnt get in, when i woke him up we had a huge row i told him he was a rubbish bf, he threw the ring on the table saying "you wont want this then". i burst into tears and he got down on one knee later that day in front of his family. it wasnt romantic but i love him, he loves me and we had a big romantic wedding. marthamoo's right, its the person not the proposal.

congratulations!

LittleLupin
Your story is funny.

I do not think he "passed out" per say. Her post says he went upstairs and hour later her passed out. I think he had to much to drink and slept it off.

My first husband proposed in New York, outside Tiffany's.

We are now divorced cos he is a cock.

littlelupin, that's just dragging it out

LOL LL

Patience....

Did he really "pass out"? I mean, if I have a couple of glasses of wine and fall asleep on the sofa, I might say "oh and then I passed out on the sofa". Sometimes it's just an expression.

LOL at annoy your mother

We went to Paris for my birthday. I thought he might be going to propose.

We had a romantic dinner. No proposal. We went up the Eiffel Tower. No proposal (and I discovered he gets vertigo). We had champagne on our hotel balcony. No proposal. He got out a small leather box... I held my breath... he opened it.... and put his cufflinks into it.

Next morning, over breakfast, I got stroppy and said "you know, we've talked about marriage but do you really think we'll ever do it?" and he sort of ummed and ahhed and changed the subject. So I was very .

The we got to the steps of Sacre Coeur, he got another small box out of his pocket, and said "well, you've totally arsed up my proposal, but will you marry me anyway?"

People, FGS he drank so much alcohol that he passed out!

Does this really count as normal drinking behaviour? At the risk of sounding like a member of the temperance society, I'm staggered that that statement can go by with barely an eyebrow raised. Bingeing in order to ask a woman to marry you is problem drinking, no matter how nervous you are. I'd address that before I even thought of marrying him.

Oh, forgot that the handing across of ring was the official proposal - first one was 'Look, there's a church, let's get married to annoy your mother'

We wre lying in bed. He said " Oblomov, I love you. Will you marry me". I said "of course I will". He said "fantastic" and rolled over and started snoring.
I wouldn't have had it any other way. I was never a ring, on bended knee, infront of the iffle tower, type of girl. But I appreciate that most normal people do what atleast a bit of zing.
OP, Being drunk, is not 'brilliant'.

Congratulations

Don't got to hang up on how he proposed as very rare is a romantic.

When my DH proposed he was playing world of warlock and i was watching something on telly, and it something along the lines off as your moving in we might as well get married. (Have now been married for 6years and lived together for 2 years before).

Just make sure you get a nice ring.

mine was on his hands and knees getting his shoes out the wardrobe and turned round and said"well while i'm down here anyway..."

I wanted a reproposal with the ring and thus it was organised. Including the bloody nosey woman from the jewellers who asked him where we were going and booked a table for a birds eye view.

Dh got down on one knee and a woman projectile vomited as he asked me to marry him. In a v v nice expensive restaurant btw.

Next day I held out my hand to show his parents the ring and a stone had gone missing

All hilarious in retrospect but a bit rubbish at the time. we are v happy though been together for 9 years now.

Oh I think he might have been nervous hence having a drink or eight.

My DH proposed in a jewellery shop saying, "Perhaps we should choose a ring for that finger".

I was so shocked, I told him to bugger off . He later proposed to me properly on a subway carriage by mouthing, "will you marry me?".

He's not the most romantic of people but I loved the fact that he didn't make a big song and dance about it.

Some men don't have a romantic bone in thier body but they mean well. He probably got drunk to work up the courage to ask you. Have you ever read men are from mars and woman from venus?

It explains some of the communication barriers between men and women. We really do think different than our counterparts.

Oooh, let's talk crap proposals/responses!

My friend's BF took her to Paris for New Years Eve. They had dinner on the Eiffel Tower. It was very romantic.

The next morning he woke her up quite early - she said she had a massive hangover and couldn't understand why he was still wearing his black tie. He told her they were going for a walk, she had a massive strop and said she wanted to stay in bed. He practically dragged her out of bed, and in the end she just threw on her coat and shoes over her PJ and stomped out, being (in her words) a real brat.

The got to the middle of Pont Neuf, he went down on one knee and whipped out a diamond! She was mortified and burst into tears immediately.

They are happily married with 2 gorgeous DCs now but he's never let her live that one down!

Don't get too hung up on a 'romantic' proposal - the imp thing is that he wants to marry you . I didn't get a big declaration either, was just handed the ring (and Dh was sitting down at the time)

agree with marthamoo - it's the person that matters, and the fact that he wants to marry you, not the manner in which he proposed. It's a bit like the first time you sleep with someone - it's generally never as you would have hoped it would be.

congratulations.

Congratulations!

I think we are primed to expect a Paris-and-flowers type proposal, but I reckon that men need a lot of dutch courage, hence the passing out afterwards thing.

If it is any consolation, my husband ended up getting down on one knee in a pool room of a pub called "The Dungeon" in my home town. Seriously, a pub has never been so aptly named - what a dive.

I think I spoiled the moment even more by saying something like "What - here?"

Well the mans heart is in the right place... he just seems to be lacking in style. If it's any consolation, DH asked me to marry him 3 days after we'd met. I told him to ask me again in the morning when he was sober. He never asked me again. (And yes, we are happily married, ten years later)

Some men are just not romantic, it doesn't mean they don't have other great qualities.

oh dear, i think you need to do it for you your dc will get over it believe me my mom been married 4times! and its never really affected us.
Good luck in thinking over your decision

gosh everyone's being very forgiving of him - I think that was a rubbish proposal and I would be a bit pissed off as well (especially the passing out downstairs an hour later part) - but it's done now and you can't try and re-do it so I suppose just make the most of it and try and have a nice night out together to celebrate.

FWIW my dp 'proposed' in the least romantic way possible (well if you really want to, Ok we'll get married' following a huge row) but I don't care now and we're getting married in September. The most memorable thing will be your wedding not your proposal, but I still think you're well within your rights for being annoyed!!