to expect my sister and her dh to pay back money they owe before they sod off on hols

the farms we're beneficiaries of were put up for auction - she thought she would go along - thats all

Sorry, am confused. Why would she expect you to contribute to the cost of her trip?

the other week she popped over to ireland to attend an auction - she wanted to go no one asked her to - and she took her friend the idea being that they were going to make a weekend of it. Anyway before she even went she complained that we hadnt even got her currency. When she came back early at an extra cost of £200 to get a flight a few hours before her booked one she complained that she had spent £700 - so basically she is pissed that she outlayed that and expects some contribution from us!

is it all possible she has forgotten, my brother bought our mums birthday present this year from both of us and posted it to her( easier for him to do it than me cos Im not in the uk) and had to remind me 6 weeks later that I hadnt paid I was absolutely mortified I had honestly totally forgotten.

If its not that she has forgotten I would say send me my money and petrol money or the bunnies dont get it (fed that is)

YANBU.

My sister owes me 30k which she is slowly paying us back over the next 10years. However SHE can afford to go to Ibiza for 2 weeks every summer plus Centreparcs. I can't.

Jammy, I knew what you meant; I was joking I hope this all gets sorted.

they live about a 30 mile round trip from my house so in reality its usually quite an expensive favour. much cheaper if she puts them in a bunnery and cattery

charleymouse
your too funny

YANBU
If you get the call re looking after the house/pets and they have left a key take some posesssions to a pawn shop to get your money back. Or is that a bit extreme? This sort of thing really annoys me to.

Saying no is the hardest. My aunt went through a nasty divorce and asked to borrow $1500 ...here we are three years later and we have never seen a penny. She has gotten her money...but us nothing. Does make me mad.

her pal's dh is something in the music industry and got the tickets for free

we admit we are fools . At xmas bil also asked dh to get him a couple of cases of wine which he has never paid for either. Obviously I wouldnt offer but when asked it is actually quite hard to say no

Chances are you sister and her hubby, are really casual about money and don't realize it is important to you to get that money back. If she can afford to see Rod Steward and go to the South of France for a few weeks, I am going to guess that they probably don't think the money is a big deal.

That being said, it doesn't make it right. Just call her up and tell her you really need the money before she goes, but I wouldn't be to mad.

dorry thta should have read "poor you re: your mum"

crikey i should have stayed in bed today ive got everything wrong

If it was my sister, there is no way id be peed off. Its swings and roundabouts in my family were always borrowing from one another, the difference is though that we do tend to give things back around about the time we said we would. If she was going on hols (and i know she doesnt gat many) i would wait until she got back so that she had more money to enjoy her hols.
But have listened to your comments about your sis and she sounds like shes extracting the urine out of you and dh.

On an evil note, you could withhold care of the bunnies unless they send the money but that would be quite mad I have to say, there is no way I would lend ds' money to an unreliable sibling but (a) that's by the by since it's done and (b) ds is two, so doesn't tend to be piling the cash up anyway.

I would just be totally matter-of-fact, "hi, we need to sort out when you're going to repay the money you owe because we need it fairly urgently, what's the plan?"

My poor mum? LOL I wish I had the guts to just get cross with her. But the funny thing is, if she say buys us something so we have to pay her back, she will go on and on and on about it, reminding us every day!

sorry that should hgave been not am getting msn and mn mixed up

I could have written this, except that my sister "borrowed" £2000 without my permission and is now waxing lyrical about her upcoming hols in Corsica when we cannot afford to go as I now have to earn another £2000 (am self-employed) to pay my daughter's school fees in September. My sister is a cow. There's no other explanation.

I would remind her asap about the money owed, as in my experience, people who borrow money & forget things often purposely forget about money borrowed!

Don't be gentle about it, but ask her outright when she is planning on paying the money back!

I have just stopped lending them money! Call and ask for it now. Do it now or you never will. [bossy emoticon!]
My Sis and her DH owe us hundreds from various small "loans" over the years. It drives me mad because she is always crying poor yet is always spending money. She bought a new mobile for £150 last week yet couldn't pay her landline bill.

The amount is not the point. The lack of respect is. Do not lend them money again and call them every single day asking where the money is. They can bank transfer you the money from France.

tiredfedupnanny what a shame. your poor mum

my few pounds is nothing by comparison

apart from the fact that we have no money either

Just realised I have taken this thread a bit OT. I saw lending of money and holidays in one OP and my head nearly exploded, LOL.