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To expect the teacher to call me for Parent Teacher conference on time...

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eleusis · 12/07/2007 17:18

and if not to make SOME effort to give a phone number where I could call her back when SHE missed the appointment by 23 minutes?

She very begrudgingly agreed to this phone conference when I told her I could not possible be at school at 3:34. (then appointment was later changed due to their error to 4:15). I told her I could do the time, but only on the phone. Blah blah blah, so she agreed to it.

I waited for the call, but then missed it because I was away from my desk 25 minutes later. And she left a message that said something like "Well this is really difficult over the phone because there is a report for you to comment on... well, maybe we'll catch up some other day."

Now, why couldn't she say "so sorry I'm late, if you can call me back on x I'll be here for another 15 minutes". I think her approach was a bitpassive agressive to be honest.

And Im bloody pissed off that the school thinks I can just leave work in the middle of the afternoon.

There goes my donation to the end of the year teacher pressie's. Think I'll spend it on someone more deserving... like my lovely new nanny.

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eleusis · 12/07/2007 17:59

Oh, MrsWobble, that was my next question. Is there a difference between state and private schools?

Cod, are your kids in private school?

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MrsWobble · 12/07/2007 17:56

I'm afraid this is pretty standard in state schools - they are not terribly flexible so if what's on offer doesn't work for you there's not usually a lot you can do about it. Our school offers appointments up to 7pm so this hasn't been a problem for us but there have been numerous other inconveniences which you just learn to work around. You are not a customer and not treated like one.

eleusis · 12/07/2007 17:53

Nope, and before school wasn't on offer anyway.

I am prepared to leave work early, but not in the middle of the day. I can make about 4:45 onward.

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hatrickjacqueline · 12/07/2007 17:38

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eleusis · 12/07/2007 17:27

Forgot to say....

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eleusis · 12/07/2007 17:26

Yes, I'm sure the others overran. That's okay, these things do overrun. But a bit of effot on the message to give me a way to contact her straight away seems reasonable. Especially since it is she not I who overran.

Mine was the last appointment. When I asked her to call me she said "These are the same times that all the other parents have agreed to come and they all work too." I laughed at her and said "all the other parents do not work". There are 26 kids in DD's class and ONE other mum works full time. She never goes to the P-T conferences because she can't make the times they offer. I'm a bit more stroppy about demanding a suitable time. Actually it has never been a problem before. As I have laways been offered an evening appointment. But, not this time.

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hatrickjacqueline · 12/07/2007 17:21

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meandmyflyingmachine · 12/07/2007 17:21

Presumably this isn't parents evening or anything? I mean, she hasn't had other appointments which over ran?

eleusis · 12/07/2007 17:19

3:34? Eh? Sorry, that was supposed to say 3:45.

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