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Not to like the author of The Salt Path

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Romax · 30/03/2019 21:29

I had been so looking forward to starting this audio book. Ticked every box.

I’m 90 minutes in and I have not all warmed to the author.

She lost her home and then finds out her husband has a terminal illness. My heart went out to her struggles But....

She seems deeply judgmental and actually, for want of another word, bitchy.

I feel like I could well be the only person on the planet who reads / listens to the book and feels this way.

But on the off chance I’m not alone....?

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Vulpine · 10/04/2019 14:52

I don't agree with op at all, and it was a lovely paean to cornwall

Aquiline · 10/04/2019 14:21

Are we not allowed to criticise writers anymore then?

Criticising a writer would be saying that you though the middle sagged a bit, or that there were a few too many descriptions of sunsets or blisters. (Or that the Simon Armitage mystery went on a bit longer than was amusing, which I thought.) This is picking apart someone's personality under stress.

It’s the pure contempt she seems to have for the massive majority of people.

Look at an average day of Mn AIBU threads about dismissive/unpleasant behaviour among the Great British Public -- someone hitting a child, not controlling their dog, being verbally aggressive in a café, jumping a queue, failing to offer help when it was needed, failing to respect personal space, being insulting etc etc etc.

Now imagine dealing with that when you're already vulnerable, reeling from the shock of a terminal diagnosis for your husband, suddenly going from being a farmer with land and animals and a business and a house you've rebuilt from scratch over decades to being suddenly virtually penniless and homeless, in pain from lugging a rucksack along a steep path every day -- and you don't have anywhere safe that's yours to retreat to from other people's behaviour, apart from a tent that a man and his dog deliberately urinate on, knowing there are people asleep inside, on one occasion.

I think you'd feel as if you'd had all your skin stripped off, and at the mercy of other people's behaviour, good and bad.

And there are some accounts of very generous behaviour from people, and people who are just nice, as well as the awful ones. There's the pink-haired girl who gives them free pasties, and the nice young backpacker guys they meet near the beginning, and the soldiers on manoeuvres, and the wine millionaire who invites them in for dinner and lets them sleep in his garden, and the group of surfers on the hippie campsite who give them beer.

And they are both kind to people, too -- Moth shakes hands with the barrister who has just won the case against them in which they lose their home, and, despite living hand to mouth themselves, they give half their rations to a homeless man in need (who tells them to fuck off). Grin

TheGoddessFrigg · 10/04/2019 14:17

I really really liked this book. There was a sense it could happen to anyone- and that the author was not some hippy dippy It All Happens For the Best type but someone suffering genuine adversity.

Ironically what shocked me about the book- even though I have been there myself- is how mean and nasty people were to poor people. Forever hurrying them on or charging for water. And now we have this thread!
I would challenge anyone in the depths of utter adversity NOT to be judgey or bitchy. Except on MN, of course.... [hmm}

HaventGotAllDay · 10/04/2019 13:46

Are we not allowed to criticise writers anymore then? Fuck that.
I haven't read it, though it was on my list.
I recently read one (another true memoir) that I thought would be good- girl in the 1940s gets sent to live with a family in Spain as a kind of companion to rich children- she was AWFUL, whined and moaned for 200 pages. Deeply unpleasant person.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 10/04/2019 13:44

Well, don’t you see, the author made mistakes in quite a lot of ways. the OP wouldn’t do that, no sir.

Homefireburn1ng · 10/04/2019 13:40

And I didn’t get what the op is going on about either.

Homefireburn1ng · 10/04/2019 13:39

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/dec/06/home-is-a-state-of-mind-you-dont-need-walls

Not sure homelessness, terminal illness and a physical challenge is supposed to be a fairytale.HmmNice to see empathy is alive and kicking on MN.

Homefireburn1ng · 10/04/2019 13:33

What an unpleasant thread.

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 10/04/2019 13:22

Wow. I read this a while ago and really enjoyed it, didn’t get any of what the OP is getting from it at all.

But then I’m sure if she’d started an AIBU about it all the perfect parents on MN would have piled on

Romax · 10/04/2019 13:17

Given how disorganised she is (Failing to submit court evidence in time; failing to cancel insurance so company took money from their account; failing to bring any docs with them in order to sort matters out, the list goes on) it makes me wonder whether they were actually “wronged” in court.

But being disorganised is not unpleasant (difficult to live with though), I have no issue with that.

It’s the pure contempt she seems to have for the massive majority of people.

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Home77 · 10/04/2019 10:47

It's kind of weird how the husband was terminally ill but now seems to be completing his studies Ok etc...maybe the walk turned it around as they seem to say but who knows...

PristineCondition · 10/04/2019 09:42

They didn't have to be homeless and fuck up the kids lives, there were options they were to selfish to take.
Had they made decisions like adult parents rather than petulant children i expect it would of been better for them and the poor kids but she sought of got a book out of it

Home77 · 10/04/2019 08:03

They made themselves homeless as they didn't want to get council accommodation, btw,

Home77 · 10/04/2019 08:03

Sorry should have put spoiler alert there for the ending.

Home77 · 10/04/2019 08:02

I didn't like it either

Thought it was like 'being homeless tourism'

Didn't like the way they just buggered off after making daft financial decisions leaving teenage kids homeless and stressed about them

All about them- agree with comments about others like they are more superior- and then when they decided to go to uni to get free student loans and accommodation at the end! Kind of taking the piss really

Also didn't like all the talk about how smelly they were- so much so that children on a ferry had to move away. Nice. Hmm

Aquiline · 10/04/2019 07:23

But don’t you think you’d feel savagely critical of other people’s waste, judgementalism etc — justifiably or not — if you were suddenly homeless, incurably ill/looking at your partner’s incurable illness, hungry and desperate?

Bloodybridget · 10/04/2019 06:11

Good to find this thread - I read The Salt Path a couple of weeks ago; I got through it quickly and wanted to find out what would happen to them in the end, but I wasn't very impressed with it as a book, it was not well written, very repetitive and flat. And I was surprised that so many of the people they encountered were apparently rude, unkind and judgemental - I did start to wonder if they were managing to put people's backs up! OTOH the observations about homelessness and just not having access to money were very thought-provoking.

Romax · 10/04/2019 05:28

I don’t expect Gandhi
However I don’t enjoy reading almost constant scorn being poured on all almost all those they encounter and holiday crowds. What they are wearing, eating, way they talk, the holidays they’re on... the list of features that the author essentially bitches about at every opportunity goes on and on

It was a relief to finish and no longer have that nastiness in my life actually.

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Aquiline · 09/04/2019 23:45

I don’t think people generally turn into a combination of Mahatma Gandhi and the Virgin Mary when they lose their home and farm, income source and get a verdict of terminal illness on their partner within a couple of days of one another.

KittyMcAllister · 09/04/2019 23:37

So glad I've found some kindred spirits! Just finished this one for book group and did not warm to the woman at all- selfish, disorganised & reluctant to take responsibility for the consequences of her actions.

Hopefully I won't be alone in my group!

Justheretogiveaviewfrommyworld · 31/03/2019 16:36

We'll always have Paris is awful too. Self-centred and delusional author. Vile read.

user1469530553 · 31/03/2019 16:35

Oh good, it’s not just me, then. I didn’t like the pair of them.

HoneysuckIejasmine · 31/03/2019 16:29

Oh, I know. I just meant "here is another book about a person who I don't like". I know she's not a real person, but I've heard everyone say how wonderful the book is but I just hate it.

Romax · 31/03/2019 13:33

@HoneysuckIejasmine

This woman isn’t a fictional character. It’s a true story.
Eleanor wasn’t meant to be likeable I don’t think. That was a bloody good book IMO

This woman I think we are most certain meant to like and root for. She’s certainly endured enough struggle

But I find her scathing, superior and unpleasant

Shame as I think the book has be potential to be great

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PristineCondition · 31/03/2019 08:50

i read it because lots of reveiws, presumably written by her family, saying what nice inspiring person she was

Kind of thought she was absolute knob.