To object to MIL's response to our name choices

Fimbo - dd's pet name for ds is Patch! I thought it was just her - obviously great minds think alike!

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. Clearly you are hormonal as you are pregnant but I am sure it makes the decision harder now as she has put her opinion in. If you name him Paddy she may think you have done it to spite her and you may worry she won't love him. If you don't will you resent her for her input and will she think she has won? Good luck.

My ds is Adam (the only one I know!). Love love love Patrick, it was my grandfather's name. I am also tickled with the idea of shortening it to Patch, I think its fab.

We deliberately never told my mum what ds's name was to be as I know she would have had something to say, as I don't think she particularly likes Adam.

oh - i dont think yabu. i think it was bloody rude of yr MIL.

i adopted the approach of making up names to stump folks before our dd ws born - mercywald for a girl and grimblethug for a boy. i loved saying them with a straight fac and watching outhers reactions. when she was born - caoimhe ("keeva")seemed mild in compaison!

My DSS is called Patrick and can assure you he is never called Paddy... unless he's throwing one lol.
I vote for Patrick too, nice name.

This is the single most important reason why you should NEVER EVER discuss baby names with your family prior to the baby being born. Present them with a done deed. They are not going to say 'your name is shit/ a dog's name/ reminds me of a slutty/bitchy woman I knew once' to your baby's face are they

Or do what my SIL did, and when people asked she said some names that she had no intention whatsover of calling her son, just so people could have something to talk about. She went for really wierd and wacky ones too, gave us quite a giggle

I went through a list of names I like to my sister and she had a reason for disliking almost every single one of them, usually because she had once known someone with the name and thought they were horrible. You're always going to get this if you discuss names with people, I've decided now not to tell anyone the name we've decided on cos then no-one can try to put us off it. Your MIL's reaction was way over the top but I bet she doesn't really believe what she said for a second.

Yuck - families and names - it all gets too much. We chose Arthur as the middle name should we have a son (pg with our first and don't know the sex). My SIL (who has 20 years on me so kind of acts in an MIL capacity) actually laughed when DH and I were discussing it as a first name. I told her that she shouldn't be so insensitive as first of all, it's a name we were considering and secondly, it was my Grandads name - I was exceptionally close to my Grandad. She actually laughed again and continued to criticise.

Problem is, ladies, that there are lots of incredibly insensitive people out there who seem to think that they have rights over our children. Tell em to get stuffed

It never occurred to us to reveal any names for our 4 until after their births. None of mil's business. I'd quietly drop it and present her with the name in October.

My mil criticises the pet name that we call our dd by and always calls her by her full name. She is the only one to do this.

She has criticised me in front of other people for abbreviating dds name.

I just let her get on with it now. DON'T get me started.....[weary]

I warned my mum that the more she said she hated a name, the more chance there would be that we would pick it

My Mum said' Don't cal him xxx, my friends dog is called xxx and you cannot name him after a dog'
We called him it anyway and even now she agrees tha he suits his name down to the ground!
Stick to your guns, it's your baby.

My mother hates my ds's name and told us so when we told her what it was. I just ignored her and chose it anyway, and she loves him to bits - she has always had a soft spot for boys which is great as MIL loves girls as she had 2 boys

Patrick is a fabulous name...

My ds is Patrick - and he was going to be Paddy or Pat, but he isn't - he's Patrick. I think it's a lovely name. Go for it! And he's the only one in the school - there are 4 Adams.

We mentioned a name about halfway through with ds2 - my mum made mutterings of disapproval about it then, so we didn't mention names again and stuck with our chosen name and now she loves it and can't imagine him being called anything else. Best thing is to say nothing about any names you're really seriously thinking of using.

FIL called up after we announced DS's name and said "About this name I'm not sure about it". DP asked what he meant and FIL said "What if he wants to be Prime Minister"!!!

daft thing to say, I agree, and it would bother me too. My mum's response to dd's name was "um. It's good to have a middle name, isn't iot"
And both are lovely names. (although my guinea pig as a kid was called patrick )

Mother in law's - who'd 'av 'em?? Can't believe I will (maybe) be one one day!! It's a scary thought the things my daughter in law might say about me!!
Just ignore her and do your own thing. The name of your child is ytour affair
Congrats on babe due in Oct by the way. Good luck babe
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dh named both of our girls and mil hates their names to the point her mother won't call my kids by their names.

It's you're choice and she can lump it. Did she offer any other names as options

That's a horrible thing to say! Both great names, btw (particularly Patrick...lovely name). Don't have any more conversations about the matter infornt of her. Its up to you and your husband.