to think that 10pm is too late to visit someone with children?

FioFio - i totally agree with you, lock doors, lights out, turn off phones.

God, they sound really odd. Break away, break away!!

Seriously, I totally agree with jaynehater. Dh should sort this. But if they do stay late, you are pg, thus you have the best excuse (not that it is an 'excuse', or that you need one). Warn dh what you will do. Just get up and say "I am very tired, I must go to bed." Don't hang around for replies. Just go.
Its PERFECT.

Seriously, Bhannae, I think the best advice you've had on here is to just disappear - it'll underline to DH just how bad it's getting you down, and if he is a sweetheart who doesn't easily rock the boat, one to one's till 1am every Monday could bring him around.... I wouldn't feel bad about it, my DH regularly gets up from dinner and ...just...disappears! Guests comment a couple of hours later, and I can usually guarantee he's in bed, in the bath, or tying flies somewhere. He's an ignorant b**r but it's his home, my guests, and somehow they've gotten used to it. (When he does it when my mum comes to stay, she does one too, and they both sit in my room watching tv till the socialising's over!! - maybe I have too many people over, too often)

The temptation to lie on the floor kicking your heels screaming "Goooooooo awaaaaaaaay" must be ever present - watch your blood pressure, they're mean. xx

Being raised in a country that goes to sleep somewhat later, I can say that my father always announced he was going for a nap if the visitors had not left by midnight. Some of them stayed anyway talking to my mum, although they used to joke that they should leave before my father woke up fresh from the nap or he would prevent them from leaving before 4 am!

How come I now get so annoyed at this? [puzzled emoticon]

A friend of mine has the most amazing Dad. Her mum and dad had some people over for dinner one evening who were still there at 2am. They'd tried dropping subtle hints but to no avail.

The dad then went upstairs, stripped naked, came back downstairs and asked, "Haven't you gone yet?" Needless to say, they soon shifted...

LOL @ go to bed. Yeah do it. Leave twonky friend with your dh. I love it.

Make sure you say 'I'm off to bed' at 9.30pm because I bet they are the sort of people who even if they do leave at this heavy hint, will take 30 mins to say goodbye.

could you tell them that you have something very virulent and prgnancy related and you are in quarantine for the forseeable future?

YANBU, and if this twonky friend ignores it, then it's decision time. Do you resign yourself to this appalling rudeness, or do you (well, DH) lay it on the line - yet again - and far more assertively, as in, if you are not prepared to show some basic consideration and manners, you can p*ss off ?

Then I'd block their number(s) so you don't get any more unwanted calls at ridiculous hours.

These aren't friends, this man is a bully. It doesn't matter whether or not you are pregnant, have 10 kids or none, the fact of the matter is, you have politely asked them not to come round so late or ring when they do - as is anyone's right - and this has been blatantly ignored.

We know a couple just like that, who have the added bonus of thinking that sending children to bed at 7:00 is a form of cruelty as it wouldn't allow them to see much of his workaholic parent.

It's not that they are not nice, but FGS, they never leave before 11:00 even when they have a 3 yr old and a baby, they have no consideration whatsoever in our need to wake up early (and to sleep more than them).

We have tried everything, but even inviting them early for lunch means that they will be here for 12 hours rather than leaving on good time. And it is not as we are having a great conversation or lots of fun, as they are very quiet and don't speak much. LAst time they were around I stayed in the kitchen with the wife for an hour just to find DH and all the children sleeping on the sofa while the guy was finishing watching a movie!!!!

So you have my sympathy, all of it. It is easy to say dump them but some times this may be impossible (although if they were ringing us at midnight!). For the time being, seeing them for days out is working relatively well, and... I have banned them from my house unless it's a saturday and we have absolutely nothing planned for Sunday morning.

I think it's late to visit someone FULL STOP children or no children. every fecking MOnday, until after midnight?? What's wrong with these people!

DH may be mild mannered but I think he's going to have to get mouthy about this one.

Friends ? They sound horrible. Put your foot down. And every week ? tell dh, no more.

You are NOT being unreasonable.

I have got much tougher since DS and my 6.30am starts. I am now known to say at 10.30 "I'm going to bed now" . Mostly people haven;'t realised the time and leave very quickly. IF your DH won't stick up for you, you will have to stick up for yourself and just go to bed at 10pm whetehr they are there or not.

They are being hugely unreasonable.

10PM is too late on a 'school night' even if you don't have kids!

These people sound like freaks.

You're well shot of them and if they think you're rude, well, they're not paying your rent, are they?

Stuff 'em.

take aloha advise we did that also

i had friends like this turned up every sat as soon as i got home from work and stayed till the early hours
i got so fed up one day i said to dh lets go out so we are not in, we got back 2 hrs later to find them sitting out side eating mcdonalds waiting !!
i would tell them it is to late you have children in bed etc
or be really blatent and tell them to get stuffed he has no right rining texting at that time with kids in bed !
sounds like a right prick to do that anyway !

If anyone hassled me with nuisance calls at 3am, I'd contact BT and the police.

They sound like nutters. These aren't friends, they are stalkers.
Quick, lock the door, turn off the lights, hide behind the sofa!

Hey when the baby comes, you will have plenty of opertunity to call his phone during nightfeeds