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BF ex GF went as his plus one to a wedding.

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ToKnowAnything · 08/02/2019 01:26

I've just found out and i'm in shock.

By this point we had been seeing each other for around 3 months and he had been finished with his GF two months before we started seeing each other. This was the wedding of his cousin as he doesn't even see her on a yearly bases.

Maybe she did get an invite before the wedding but surely she shouldn't of attended?

I've only found out about this 8 months after the wedding as I was late night FB stalking someone completely irrelevant. From the FB photos she's in the family photos + sitting next to him at dinner.

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LaBelleSauvage · 08/02/2019 03:01

@MidniteScribbler
Laughed quite a lot at that
Sorry OP! Grin

SpareASquare · 08/02/2019 02:53

What did he say when you asked him about it?

budgetneeded · 08/02/2019 02:24

at my wedding my female cousin was shocked to see that her ex boyfriend was at the wedding. she thought that he had been invited as her partner as the break up was recent.
imagine the silly grin on her face when it became apparent that her ex was my husbands cousin and was there with his side of the family.

AdoreTheBeach · 08/02/2019 02:07

Ouch midnite (but I get a little irritated myself when I read the of/have error).

OP - you’ll need to know more information. If ex GF had her own invitation or bride/groom very much wanted her there, then accept that. If BF took Ex GF as plus one and no relationship beteeen Ex GF and bride/groom, then of course YANBU.

By the way, people can still be close even if they don’t see each other often in person.

JingsMahBucket · 08/02/2019 02:06

@ToKnowAnything so how long have you been together? You've been together for about 11 months, I'm calculating correctly?

SleepWarrior · 08/02/2019 02:02

Definitely happened after they had separated and while you were together, and was kept hushed so you didn't find out??? If yes to all of those then I'd say it was a deal-breaker.

I can think of circumstances involving (for example) ageing relatives where you might want to pretend you hadn't split so as not to upset them, and therefore take an ex as a plus one. But keeping a secret from current partner is categorically unacceptable.

Sorry you found out through bloody fb Flowers

everydaymum · 08/02/2019 01:56

Do you know for sure she was his plus one, maybe she was there as a guest in her own right?

MidniteScribbler · 08/02/2019 01:53

Maybe she is close to his family? Maybe the invitation was extended before they broke up? Maybe he just wanted to go with someone who knows the difference between "shouldn't of" and "shouldn't have"?

In any case, the only person who can give you an answer is him.

MRex · 08/02/2019 01:28

You'll need to ask him why. Tell him you spotted a photo, maybe leave out the irrelevant stalking bit.

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ToKnowAnything · 08/02/2019 01:27

BTW i've NC as he knows i'm on mums net and I don't want him reading my other posts.

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