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Reported ex for tax evasion

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Maryqueenofscot · 03/02/2019 14:55

Anyone here ever got back on an ex and reported them for something? I reported my ex-h for tax, he was self employed for years, cash in hand jobs. Before anyone says 'well done' Im well aware I did it simply to get revenge for him wanting to end the relationship, not out of some duty or for it being the right thing to do. Its all got very serious and I now regret doing it and feel terrible. I feel it was spiteful and Ive messed with his life. I was aware of what he was doing when we were together, so I cant even tell myself I did the right thing for my own peace of mind, it was purely a way to get back at him and Im having trouble dealing with that, knowing my motives and the consequences of what Ive now done.

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Puggles123 · 03/02/2019 17:24

Really you should have reported it at the time, rather than just out of spite when you seperated. He shouldn’t have done it so in honesty he ‘deserves’ to be investigated and pulled up on it, it’s not like you had made up lies; so I wouldn’t feel bad about it, no matter the intention tbh.

Guavaf1sh · 03/02/2019 17:23

You sound really horrible actually

Geminijes · 03/02/2019 17:22

Now I understand why he finished it, but it wasnt an affair really, just 2 times

2 times or 50 times...you cheated, the number of times is irrelevant.

Maryjoyce · 03/02/2019 17:20

Only 2 times. I guess he didn’t want to wait for the 3rd and 4th time.
Sounds pretty sensible to me

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Maryqueenofscot · 03/02/2019 17:14

Just to clarify I wasnt involved in the business as a partner or anything, so I highly doubt anything will come back to bite me on the bum! And for those having a go, who wouldnt enjoy the lifestyle? What was I supposed to say, I dont want a holiday, go by yourself? No I dont want a new car! Anyone who says otherwise is just lying to themself.

I do feel guilty, but its done now and theres nothing I can do to un-do it. I was angry with him at the time. Now I understand why he finished it, but it wasnt an affair really, just 2 times, no emotions involved or anything, and he chucked it in after 9 years, moved out without even telling me, after i'd tried to make amends.

He does pay child support to his 2 kids, so I cant accuse him of stiffing her or the kids.

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Maryjoyce · 03/02/2019 17:12

You telling them won’t get them far if he denies it.unless you told them specifically loads of the jobs that he did for cash.
Of course they will try to dig around some but may come to nothing.
And of course he can just say your bitter over him leaving you if he found out it was you that is.

Geminijes · 03/02/2019 17:09

What a nice person you are!

You cheated on him, thought he should have got over it.
He couldn't so he left you.
For revenge, you reported him.

One thing is for certain. He definitely did the right thing in leaving you.

BirthdayKake · 03/02/2019 17:07

@NorthernSpirit give over

I did this too. The cunt should have paid child maintenance otherwise I wouldn't have :)

Oblomov19 · 03/02/2019 17:05

Just asking I dont think the penalties are that harsh.
And many accountants do their best for their clients to minimalise tax paid.

If op's ex approached an accountant and said can you help me with this, minimalise the penalty/tax I'll have to pay. Then surely accountant would do his best to only declare what absolutely had to be.

Yabbers · 03/02/2019 17:04

Oh goodness, the taxman can now go back twenty years I think, so this could well affect you. Do not be surprised if you get sucked in
OP didn’t evade tax. They won’t be interested in her.

Kewcumber · 03/02/2019 16:58

I think you're quite unpleasant.

I think he took a risk evading tax and it didn;t pay off - that's the way it goes when you break the law.

I don;t think the two things are inextricably linked. But given that you cheated and then shopped him I think it's OK if you feel guilty.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/02/2019 16:57

Well of course they do Fig.
Its one rule for the rich and another for the poor.

Oh and op yes you are just as much to blame for going along with it, but We won't go into that

Foreverexhausted · 03/02/2019 16:55

I think you are wholeheartedly in the wrong for reporting him.

You've admitted you also enjoyed the benefits of him paying little tax whilst your were together, you knew he was underpaying and chose to accept it because it was to your benefit. Now out of spite you've reported him because you wanted to make him pay for ending your relationship.

I hope it bites you on the arse.

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Maryqueenofscot · 03/02/2019 16:48

Yes I suppose I feel guilty now hes back in touch and asking for advice, and now I know that they are taking it seriously and it'll hurt his kids too with his ex. Looking back I think I ignored what was going on because we enjoyed a certain lifestyle and I didnt object to the extra money coming in. So I dont know in that sense if Im just as much to blame for going along with it.

Thank you for the comments that are supportive though, it makes me feel a bit better to hear that others would do the same. I dont feel like such a bad person. Thanks guys.

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FigandVanilla · 03/02/2019 16:43

People get up in arms about so called benefit cheats, but when it’s a tax dodger you all feel sorry for him! Confused

justasking111 · 03/02/2019 16:42

Oblomov not sure what sort of accountants you know, but any worth their salt would certainly not encourage or cover up a client who fiddled. The penalties are harsh.

Oblomov19 · 03/02/2019 16:42

You cheated? Shock
And then you did this? Shock
You are a one aren't you?

TeddybearBaby · 03/02/2019 16:41

Do you only feel guilty because you’re back in touch? If he continued to not want anything to do with you maybe you’d still feel justified.

I think you were spiteful and spoilt - if he doesn’t do what you want you’ll have your revenge.

It’s done now so you’ll have to forgive yourself and learn from it. It’s all you can do now.

Oblomov19 · 03/02/2019 16:40

Fear not. With a clever accountant/bookkeeper/ his case can be argued. He claims ignorance and pays a small amount. It will be negligible.
HMCE are poor at this area. I deal with them a lot. So I can't imagine they'd be that bad.

hardworkharriet · 03/02/2019 16:37

I also meant to add that it cou be coincidence. A lot of the time these cases are picked up by other means. I rarely see cases that come from this sort of info, although i have seen a fair number of 'cash in hand' cases. HMRC has quite sophisticated means of picking up this type of behaviour.

LakieLady · 03/02/2019 16:35

Imo you did the right thing, albeit for the wrong reasons. Tax evaders deserve everything they get imo.

hardworkharriet · 03/02/2019 16:34

I work for HMRC. You have done him a favour in the long term because he would very likely have been caught further down the line. Hopefully now he will be compliant and have less to pay back then might have otherwise have been the case.

FigandVanilla · 03/02/2019 16:33

I think you did the right thing and tbh I don’t care what your motivations were. Tax dodgers are some of the worst scumbags out there, and if he now faces consequences for his own shitty choices, it’s just what he deserves!

justasking111 · 03/02/2019 16:31

Oh goodness, the taxman can now go back twenty years I think, so this could well affect you. Do not be surprised if you get sucked in.

An acquaintance works for HMRC they get most of their info. from phone calls she was saying just the other week.

flamingofridays · 03/02/2019 16:30

So you cheated on him, he left and you thought you deserved revenge?
Right.

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