Reported ex for tax evasion

Blimey! I think if nothing else then you're very brave for admitting all that on here.

If you do genuinely regret what you did, I hope you can learn from it and move on.

But I'd step away from this thread now, OP, because you won't get too many admirers on here.

Op, you don't have to worry about what some random strangers think! Karma has a way of biting you back regardless of what the general consensus on Mumsnet is!!

When you were busy enjoying the lovely lifestyle didn't you care to encourage him to do the right thing and pay his taxes ? You cheated on him twice , he left you and then you decided that he needs to be reported as he hasn't been an outstanding citizen of society ?!! I reckon your ex has had a lucky escape ! I hope he manages to pay back what is owed to HMRC and get on with his life ! At least someone would be able to sleep at night !

Two completely separate issues. Tax evasion is terrible. If he hadn’t committed the crime there would be nothing to investigate. He deserved to be reported.

The reason you reported him? Also terrible. It wasn’t about the crime he’d committed, you’d been more than happy to enjoy the perks. You wanted to punish & hurt him for leaving you (apparently cheating didn’t hurt him enough).

Oh and for what it’s worth, I think it’s really cowardly to not admit that it’s actually you who reported him. He’s confiding in you because he thinks he can trust you. You’ve proved categorically that he can’t.

I'm all for reporting tax fraud. However I'd see you just as guilty as you were happy enough to go along with it whilst benefitting from the lifestyle.

I think it's very common to be rerported by an ex. Many are happy to benefit from it at the time and it only becomes an issue after a split when they want revenge or realise it will mean lower child support.

Mumsnet is another planet sometimes. There’s another thread on here with a bunch of posters saying they hope a woman goes to prison for engaging in peaceful protest because ‘she broke the law’ but on this one a scummy arsehole has evaded tax and everyone is piling on the OP because her motives in reporting him for breaking the law weren’t pure enough!

But obviously, you know better
Yes, in this case I know better. Whether he pays tax to the HMRC or not depends on his salary / dividends balance and not on whether he closed legal entities they are drawn through or not.

Are you absolutely sure it was because of your phone call?

I say that because myself and someone I know reported a person for evading tax. He was a horrible man that took great delight in fucking people over and incredibly proud of not only paying very little tax but also putting all of the business earnings/accounts into his dead relatives name.

We both reported him (didn’t know we both reported him until later on when I admitted what I’d done to her) to HMRC with evidence and it never even got looked at (this was at least three years ago we reported it) and he is still doing his dodgy dealings. It was a decent amount of money involved as well.

I find it hard to believe they would even look into your ex after just your call tbh. Either lots of people have reported him or it was nothing to do with you at all and just a coincidence.

He deserves everything he gets - they can only find fault if he's fraudulent. Your reasons for doing it are pretty shitty but he deserves it regardless.

Blimey, is this the same site that usually has people baying for blood about "benefit fraud" with people saying reporting someone for tax evasion - which is far more common - was in the wrong?

We all do things we regret OP. Just move on. And he did evade tax - that's basically stealing from schools and hospitals, and people like my disabled sister! So, don't feel too terrible. You did the right thing for the wrong motive.

Go back and read your first post to your last..you are pathetic..you started off by saying how bad you were now you have completely turned it around on the words of some strangers...you know fine well what you did was wrong and spiteful and you would never have posted if you didn't think you were in the wrong..I can't believe how you have turned this around in such a short time....one small word...KARMA

This does not mean he is not paying taxes though, he is still liable as if the company was still operating

Wel, in my ex’s case, he has a £nil assessment with the CMS because there is no record of him paying tax at the HMRC.

But obviously, you know better

You’re a horrible person OP. What a nasty thing to do to someone you cheated on. Now you feel bad ?!, yeah right!

My ex opens new companies and closes them the minute tax becomes due.
This does not mean he is not paying taxes though, he is still liable as if the company was still operating.

OP what he was doing was wrong but you were clearly happy to benefit from it whilst it suited you!!

You sound like a horrible person.

The Lost this post isn't about the rights and wrongs of tax evasion. Its about whether the poster was unreasonable for reporting him given her reasons which by the way weren't because she believed his behaviour was wrong, it was to get revenge!

What a horrible post.

There are two separate issues here. Evading taxes, which is obviously wrong and it's up to him to take responsibility for that (it would probably have caught up with him in the long run tbh.)

But also the utter control freakery of reporting someone on the grounds that they dumped you after you cheated on them. If this is a genuine post (and I'm not convinced), you sound like an arsehole, OP. Very immature behaviour and in no way justified, imo.

What a nasty thing to do. I hope it comes back to bite you.

Yep. I hope that when you are next breaking the law then you are caught.

Of course there is one very simple way to avoid that. Not breaking the law. Most of society manage this every day and I bet you can too..

Don't feel too bad OP.

@BirthdayKake @CanILeavenowplease

My ex doesn't pay maintenance regularly and when he does it's minimal because he opens and closes companies when the tax
Is due.

What else are you supposed to do when they are fucking everyone over even their kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

He had his reasons for finishing with me, I'd not been shall we say exactly faithful, but it was a mistake

So you were walking along, in a skirt/dress, without any underwear on, when you slipped and fell on to a guy with an erection, and his penis impaled you. After all, it was a mistake, not something you did on purpose, and then regretted. He was a bit harsh to hold that against you. It could happen to anyone.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, or rightfully jilted apparently. Not that he's a saint obviously.

Are you for real or is this a wind up??

Whether you were involved in the business or not is irrelevant! You were happy to benefit from his tax evasion as it funded your lifestyle! You then fuck someone else....twice! He understandably can't forgive you and leaves you so you make HIM pay by reporting him to the tax office when it was you who wrecked the relationship by fucking someone else!

I hope the tax office drops the investigation, not to ease your guilt but because you've been a bitch to report him!

My BIL anonymously (at the time, but subsequently admitted to it) reported DH a self employed builder for tax aviodance.
He had no proof, but an imagined axe to grind.
HMRC contacted DH and I can tell you it is not pleasant to realise someone you know probably a friend or family member has reported you.
Fortunately for us there was nothing to investigate as everything had properly gone through the "books"
OP your Ex has no idea it was you and is now in his head imagining and wrongly blaming loads of different people.
I don't think you are very fair as you benefitted from the advantages of his "cash in hand"
This was not done from having the "moral highground" was it and was just a nasty act of revenge as you felt you had been wronged.
Not very nice was it?