Reported ex for tax evasion

And for those having a go, who wouldnt enjoy the lifestyle? What was I supposed to say, I dont want a holiday, go by yourself? No I dont want a new car! Anyone who says otherwise is just lying to themself.

You keep telling yourself that.

You thew away those 9 years OP, not your ex. It's no wonder he left.

You’re confusing council tax with income tax. Services are paid for by the local authorities and provided out of tyat income

Tax dodgers use the NHS, drive on the roads, walk down the street with the aid of street lamps, take their rubbish to the tip etc, but don't pay for it.
Would you be OK if the OP's ex paid his fair share then, or even double his fair share, but avoided paying anything in addition to that? Tax avoidance is not a black and white all-or-nothing universe, it is called "tax optimisation" on the milder end of the spectrum and is completely legitimate.

I am really surprised by the number of people choosing to follow the (perceived) letter of the law rather than their own internal moral compass. I hope you have no issues with big corporate non-payers then, because what they do is exactly toeing the line of the tax code, fully above water. I probably have a biased view, as my ex had repeatedly reported me to the immigration enforcement after the separation (he also cheated and left), apparently just fulfilling his good citizen duties, nothing personal.

In the self employed world there are many ways how people choose to structure their income and tax matters, there is a massive grey area that the government actively tries to avoid explaining (i.e. at which point you stop treating yourself as a service provider and business owner and start treating yourself as an employee of the company you work for). In some of the scenarios personal taxes could be minimal.

@Gems567 you’re right I’m some cases don’t get justice, I shan’t get my hopes up.

@cherry2727 LOL I do not care for you think. Truth is I didn’t know for most of the relationship what was going on, as I’m young myself I didn’t understand about tax evasion until only recently towards the end of the relationship. Not that it matters but this man was verbally and physically abusive towards me, and now I’m carrying his child he continues with the abuse and threatens to not pay a penny but will take the child away from etc etc. I have my personal reasons sure, but I also don’t like the fact he’s working the system. Carry on hating on us if you wish I know I did the right thing and so did OP. Doesn’t matter WHEN we chose to report or if we benefited, we did the right thing in the end and that’s all that matters! So get off your high horse please.

What a nasty thing to do. I hope it comes back to bite you

What utter bollocks. Tax dodgers use the NHS, drive on the roads, walk down the street with the aid of street lamps, take their rubbish to the tip etc, but don't pay for it. They rake in their personal cash whilst you and I pay for these privileges for them. If they're reported they deserve everything they get. Also not sure how a legitimate claim of tax evasion is going to "bite" the OP? She did nothing wrong

I also completely agree with everything @CanILeavenowplease said, I know loads of men who dodge child maintenance this way and boast about it!

You’ve done it now OP so no point crying over spilt milk. Your reasons might not have been honourable but he shouldn’t be doing it anyway so don’t feel too guilty.

In future the best revenge is a life well lived.

🤢 you’re vile. Poor bloke, he may not be perfect, but at least his not a sneaky, lying cheat to people close to him. Telling him you did it would at least stop him suspecting anyone else he knows, but you won’t do that because you’re not an honest person, obviously. Glass houses OP, I hope you’re squeaky clean.

You cheated on him then reported him to just be malicious.
You should feel guilty.

You seem to feel very sorry for yourself over your choice to cheat on your now ex-partner. Good on him for having enough respect for himself to leave you.

You are not the victim, so stop trying to play it.

Catchy
I wouldn't assume the tax man will do anything if I were you. My cousin reported her ex for tax evasion (and supplied lots of evidence) but HMRC did piss all, and her ex is still out making a mint on the side.

What an interesting drip feed, almost guaranteed to make people outraged.

What I was meaning was that it was a mistake, it wasnt like I was in love with this other guy, I had no feelings for him. I was prepared to try and make it work with OH but he took the chickens way out and packed his bags whilst I was out, didnt even tell me, after 9 years together!

You really lack self awareness. You were prepared to work it out? So he had to be too.

In all honesty I'm sure most people would rather not pay tax if they could get away with it.

Leaving without telling you wasn't great...but you do sound like an unpleasant individual.

@Catchy98 so it's ok to keep quiet about fraudulent activities because you're in love but once the person is estranged from you and not complying with your Demands you get back unto your high horse and all of a sudden you have a genuine interest in saving the tax system ?!! I am aghast !

Honestly .... I'm not sure who's lacking in morales , you or your ex? He's a selfish twat for not paying taxes and you're a diabolical and selfish Person for putting up with it during the relationship because it benefited you and now reporting him thinking you're doing a world of good! I despise people like you ! One rule when it suits you and then......!!!! Please don't kid yourself into believing that you're doing good! You have no care for the tax laws - your motive is just pure malice and his tax evasion seem to an easy target!

Hmm
If someone's fiddling the books just to keep afloat then I probably wouldn't say nothing.
But, if they are openly screwing the system, sibling in my case, now in 50's hasn't paid a single penny in tax since leaving school. claimed benefits until late 20's too whilst working full time. I dream of the day when someone knocks at their door!

Well I can say you are not alone in this decision, you won’t of been the first and you certainly won’t be the last. In fact I did the very same thing just earlier today. I reported my ex for tax evasion and I do not feel one bit of guilt, I know it’s still fresh but I honestly think I won’t ever feel guilty because this man deserves everything he gets.
My reason is the fact I am pregnant and was discussing the dreaded child maintenance with him, and he refuses to comply, I actually said I would have no choice but to report him, although I do not wish to go down this route. He said ‘go for it’ he thinks he is so good that he can away with it as he has been doing for so long but we will see about that. I call it karma haha!

I really don’t understand why so many people are hating on your for it though, like come on these people are crooks! There are honest, hard working individuals who do right by the law and have no choice but to pay tax (rightly so) and they are committing crime, they have every right to be caught out. Your reasons may not feel justified but in all honesty it doesn’t matter, you did the right thing. You will obviously feel bad if you are keeping this burden hidden though, perhaps think about cutting contact so you don’t feel so sly? Anyway, even if you knew about his illegal activity in the relationship, that’s what happens! When we are in love and a committed relationship, we let our lovers get away we murder (not so literally) but we keep their secrets, know about their wrong doings etc. When that committee is broken for whatever reason, feelings change and this can’t be helped. Sure, you could of just left it but I don’t think you did a bad thing and I do say well done for stepping up and highlighting fraud chin up!

I'd not been shall we say exactly faithful, but it was a mistake and we tried to make it work, but he couldnt get past it

This is a wind up.

I do hope karma has something special in store for you.

You've learnt a painful lesson. Some people never learn that. The best revenge is to live well and for them to become irrelevant.

Him -
Evading tax - wrong
Enjoying profits of tax evasion - wrong
Leaving partner who cheated on him when he doesn't (presumably have kids with her) - sensible

Her:
Reporting tax evasion - right
Enjoying profits of tax evasion - wrong
Cheating on partner - wrong
Trying to get own back when partner won't accept infidelity - wrong
Being two-faced - wrong (though understandable)

I'm not too impressed with either party but, once he's paid the penalty for tax evasion, I think I'd have more time for ex. Cheating and then getting pissed off for having to pay the price - not attractive.

To be honest, it sounds as if HMRC were already on to him. They can easily take 3/4/5 years to act on information provided. I can't see them acting on your report so quickly.

While it wasn't nice to do, it was him that chose to break the law. And this will only have negative consequences because of his own choices.

HMRC can investigate any taxpayer at any time without needing to be informed of wrongdoing.