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Reported ex for tax evasion

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Maryqueenofscot · 03/02/2019 14:55

Anyone here ever got back on an ex and reported them for something? I reported my ex-h for tax, he was self employed for years, cash in hand jobs. Before anyone says 'well done' Im well aware I did it simply to get revenge for him wanting to end the relationship, not out of some duty or for it being the right thing to do. Its all got very serious and I now regret doing it and feel terrible. I feel it was spiteful and Ive messed with his life. I was aware of what he was doing when we were together, so I cant even tell myself I did the right thing for my own peace of mind, it was purely a way to get back at him and Im having trouble dealing with that, knowing my motives and the consequences of what Ive now done.

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NorthernSpirit · 03/02/2019 15:19

What a nasty thing to do. I hope it comes back to bite you.

Let me guess, you do a lot of "cash in hand" work?

weegem23 · 14/11/2024 21:49

I just did it and feel amazing. Yes it was for revenge, and yes he did deserve it and no Im not sorry😂

Badbadbunny · 14/02/2023 11:26

Maryqueenofscot · 03/02/2019 15:04

This was last summer, HMRC have already been in touch with him. I regret doing it now, but its too late to do anything about it. The worst thing is he's talked to me about it and Ive tried to give him advice, support but knowing all the time that Im actually the one who reported him! If I could turn back the clock I would but its gone too far. And I dont have the nerve to admit it, not that it would help anyway.

It's an ethical dilemma. But try being an accountant. By law, we are required to report clients who we suspect are involved in criminal activity such as tax evasion. But when we have reported them, then we have to act on their behalf to defend them against HMRC and try to argue that they havn't evaded tax (difficult when we've given HMRC evidence that they have!).

Sushine38 · 11/02/2023 08:50

I don't know why you are worried. Tax evasion is illegal and think about this. If you were still with him, YOU would of been in trouble too! There are too many self employed getting away with this and living a lavish lifestyle whilst others work extremely hard and foot the consequences. My ex-h started his own business and I supported it. He was very good at building and construction and is a very likable character......of course will do anything for you if your paying cash for discount price and paying in crisp £50 notes. I left him 2 years ago because I suffered years of mental abuse and he had affairs since the days our children were young. And then when I had break downs he would film me and tell other people 'I was abusive' to hold his story of a sorry husband. Terrible. But thankfully most people who knew us, eventually realised is was him making me very very poorly. I finished the relationship the first time to divorce him but then stupidly after around 18mnths I took him back under the belief he was truly sorry and wanted to fix the family and start again 😫. But he came back and then after several months he it started all over again. He was having an affair with the woman he is now with (of course, she works for a bank......ideal for him) and before I found out and left him cottoned on very quickly that he was coming home with vast amounts of cash and underdeclaring it with his work mate. When I confronted him, of course he would lie about his income, affair and then make me sound like I was an idiot. When I told him I'd had enough it was over, he made me terribly sick (in the first year of lockdown) and bullied me out of my home. He has now took the marital home ( whilst the finances are going through court)....renting it out without permission to lease, moved in with her and they are now living off his cash in hand through tax evasion and having luxury holidays, he's fixing up her home now, driving a fancy car. Yet he pays his children £15 each a week and contributed nothing else to their needs. Yet he has them once a fortnight. And of course, his new woman (and her family) thinks he's amazing because she's benefitting off the back of him. Tag team together. Disgusting!! Well, I know now I was played like a fool because he came back to me to get back his "material gain".....as he 'actually to me, to my face'. What a swine. But now, he has to face it in court. His expenses have been disclosed and he's tried to blag the courts.

What I would say is don't fall for their pleads to you. He tried to with me a few months ago. He wanted to buy me out of court.......and you know why!!!!! Probably bricking it now that he's been caught lying to court. And it wouldn't surprise me one bit if she was doing the books for him because she is good with figures, you know working for the bank. Who knows? All will come out in the wash!! He tried to devastate mine and our children's lives and lied to so many people...(well of course he would, needs to cover his reputation).

Whether it was bad motives or not, we all mistakes, even I have. But never feel bad for outing a dishonest person who tried to damage your life and break your heart. I feel you. My ex husband hurt me and my children a lot because he was a selfish, greedy, narcissist who pretends he's wonderful to others. Sadly, some don't see it with the charm and money but others see him for what he really is. Hopefully, the landslide is coming. To the Construction of (MPL Bury), polish"peter and martin"

ShebaShimmyShake · 05/10/2020 13:41

Oh shit, sorry.

ShebaShimmyShake · 05/10/2020 13:41

If he doesn't feel guilty about it (as opposed to being sorry he's been caught), then why should you?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 05/10/2020 13:27

Toads! THanks @LakieLady

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LakieLady · 05/10/2020 13:24

Zombie thread!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 05/10/2020 13:22

it'll hurt his kids too with his ex Maybe she'll get more money from him now! CMS will have another look at what he was paying/hiding from them!

But it has to be said: you turned a blind eye when it suited you; chose to cheat within the relationship; chose to get revenge when you felt slighted.

You aren't going to get much sympathy or understanding here!

You chose to play a Big Girl Game. Live with it!

IncandescentSilver · 05/10/2020 13:17

When combined with you cheating on him and THEN seeking revenge, you really are shown in a bad light. Why not just have left him alone? You presumably benefitted from him having more money in the 9 years you were with him.

Yes, he was in the wrong, but actually going out of your way to cause trouble for him due to you not being able to have him any more is a whole other level of manipulation.

Hingeandbracket · 05/10/2020 12:37

@NorthernSpirit

What a nasty thing to do. I hope it comes back to bite you.
No it isn't. People should pay their taxes.
dontdisturbmenow · 05/10/2020 12:35

Well at least you are very honest rather than finding excuses for your behaviour.

Where your morals are to be questioned is not you shopping him, it's doing so when it didn't benefit you any longer but had no qualms when it did.

Although legally you are no guilty, morally you were really as bad as him.

4Wellness · 05/10/2020 12:27

Do they not follow up all leads then

Kikipost · 05/02/2019 18:50

You’re feeling like shite and really guilty for shopping your ex, however you enjoyed the fruits of it when you were together.

Ex likely to be prosecuted for tax evasion

I would say this thread should all full us with happiness. It’s a win win as far as I can tell!

OhCustardPots · 05/02/2019 18:43

Racecardriver did you miss the bit where he left because OP cheated on him??

shortlongterm · 05/02/2019 18:21

Its almost like this is a thread concocted purely to get people aggravated.....4chan trolling is at least funny

Racecardriver · 05/02/2019 16:52

He told his wife he was evading tax then left her. What did he expect to happen? I’m surprised he hasn’t put two and two together. Sounds like you are well rid of him-he’s hardly the sharpest of men.

Badbadbunny · 05/02/2019 16:47

Tax avoidance is not a black and white all-or-nothing universe, it is called "tax optimisation" on the milder end of the spectrum and is completely legitimate.

Tax evasion is illegal and is usually either not declaring your income or over-claiming tax-allowable expenses. It's basically lies and fraud.

Tax avoidance is legal, and is just using tax allowances/reliefs to your best advantage, with no dishonesty involved. Such as putting money into pensions/ISAs, or making a decision which way to claim your mileage if you're a sole trader using the two options provided by HMRC. No sane person would voluntarily choose to pay more tax by not taking advantage of options, allowances and reliefs presented to them by HMRC and the govt.

In this case, the OP's OH was deliberately and fraudulent not declaring all their income. It's black and white, no gray at all. Pure dishonesty. It's not tax optimisation, tax planning etc., it's plain and simple illegal tax evasion.

Tututuna · 04/02/2019 13:38

And for those having a go, who wouldnt enjoy the lifestyle

My DH owns a business. I would be absolutely furious, I mean absolutely furious, with him if I found out he was doing this and risking our families livelihood. I certainly would not play along enjoying fraudulent holidays and cars because it benefits me.

Whilst I can understand not wanting to hand over your husband to HMRC whilst together, I would not sit there quietly!

LakieLady · 04/02/2019 13:28

You’re confusing council tax with income tax. Services are paid for by the local authorities and provided out of tyat income

Councils receive a large grant from central government; council tax (and business rates) only cover a proportion of LA costs. Central government is cutting the amount it pays though, which is why council tax is rising but services are still being cut.

Morgan12 · 04/02/2019 13:26

Such a spiteful person. He is well rid. You will get what's coming to you one day I'm sure. I really hope he finds out it was you.

Cclmsc · 04/02/2019 13:17

You horrible , terrible person

easyandy101 · 04/02/2019 11:53

but all those getting mad there are also others who are saying they'd do the same in my situation.

Well you post here so it runs that other vindictive, horrible people do too

Boysandbuses · 04/02/2019 11:44

This thread really reminds me of a mother one this morning from nasty fucker, that got deleted

Boysandbuses · 04/02/2019 11:42

Wow your a dick. It was fine hon evading tax whole you were benefitting. You cheated and then since you were benefiting anymore you reported him?

Hmm I think they could come after you since you benefited from it and clearly knew.