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In being sick of the way women are endlessly objectfied and treated like pieces of meat?

184 replies

Janos · 02/07/2007 20:42

Rant alert!

I'm just so f'ing sick of it (pardon my French).

It's everywhere, on television, when you walk into the newsagents, advertising billboards, shops - AAARGHH!!

I don't remember it being like this when I was younger. Perhaps I was just more innocent then or maybe its got worse. Depressing to think what view of women this encourages, and that my DS will grow up seeing this stuff as a matter of course.

sigh

Am I just a raddled old prude or what?

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mytwopenceworth · 02/07/2007 20:57

Yes. It's horrible.

Of course, the question is WHY do so many women participate in this? Aspire to it even?

If women said

NO. I will not pose in that with my 'come get me I'm yours' look.

NO. I will not strip naked for your entertainment.

NO. I will not thrust my genitals in the camera or allow you to run your credit card between my buttocks in your music video.

Look at female pop stars, actresses.... how often do you see them clothed? Watch a music video and count how many times there is a close up of their bottom (front and back!) or their breasts.

Now while it is easy to say that women in the porn industry may be manipulated/forced/on drugs etc and therefore not able to make proper choices, we cannot say the same for A-list pop stars who prefer to show you their breasts than sing a song in tune.

Also, women make up 50% of the population, so we have some power! Also, we are the primary carers for the next generation, so we shape the opinions of the next lot of men.

And finally, who is it who tears women to shreads over what they look like, what they are wearing, how much they weigh? Yup. Women.

We cannot change how men work and think without first changing how WE work and think. We need to say NO. And we need to stop thinking of ourselves, and presenting ourselves with the emphasis on our boobs and our fanjos.

As with everything. The first change comes from within. Men want to look at women, That is a fact. It is up to women first to lay out the rules and up to men to accept and respect those rules.

Janos · 02/07/2007 20:55

Oh, thank god I'm not the only one!

It's just the relentless in your face-ness of it that depresses me. And if you make any comment about it then you must be prudish/jealous/humourless etc etc.

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nickytwotimes · 02/07/2007 20:48

I get sick of it too.
It has been going that way for years, but seems so much worse now with all the "porn-chic" that seems to be in vogue.

edam · 02/07/2007 20:48

YANBU, I hate it too. Glad I grew up in the 80s when fashion didn't require you to get your bits out for the lads.

mummypigoink · 02/07/2007 20:48

yup, it's like women didn't chain themselves to buildings or throw themselves in front of horses to get rights!!!

DoubleBluff · 02/07/2007 20:47

I mean crotches!

DoubleBluff · 02/07/2007 20:47

I agree sick of seeing cotches every where.
I started a thread about pop videos a while ack as I was sick of seeing women being objectified.
I wrote a letter to Channel 4 complainig and got no reply. Was feeling very angry about it.
I do bbelieve there is a campaign group about the magazines being sold in shops.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 02/07/2007 20:46

YANBU.

YAN a raddled old prude.

You are quite right.
I get so depressed by how little feminism there seems to be around these days though Mumsnet is quite a good place to find it.

fireflyfairy2 · 02/07/2007 20:44

Yes