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AIBU?

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To not stop DD when she.....

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 09:50

runs into our bedroom at 6am in the morning and starts poking, patting and shouting at DH until he wakes up and acknowledges her, even though he is currently on late shifts and needs a lie in?

I suspect DH thinks I am but she asks for Dada the second I lift her from the cot and I don't like to refuse my PFB.....

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SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 03/07/2007 21:01

oh ok missed your last post, if hes happy then let it happen!

SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 03/07/2007 21:00

ok i only let dd jump on daddy after 8am and he doesnt work lates (unless its my lay in then she can jump as much as she likes)

yabu me thinks

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Chirpygirl · 03/07/2007 20:38

It's not often that this happens but I have an answer as to whether IABU!

I asked DH if I was and he said that he loved being woken up by his daughter being so happy to see him, and it's not as if he has to get up and start the day so he would be upset if I didn't let her do it!

Vindicated!

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FrannyandZooey · 01/07/2007 14:48

LOLOLOL at 7 am being an early riser

Judy1234 · 01/07/2007 14:43

AH, huge difference between 20 months and 8 years then and even bigger difference from my student son who wakes at lunch time in the holidays. It's very hard to get small children to sleep in. The other day my brother was up from 4am to 6am with his two toddlers and then off to work. You just have to grit your teeth and endure.

DoubleBluff · 01/07/2007 14:32

7am is a lie in our house!

UnConfident · 01/07/2007 12:36

No, I don't, it's fine

Speccy · 01/07/2007 12:34

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hippmummy · 01/07/2007 12:33

xenia - DS2 is 20 months old.He's been like this since just before his 1st birthday. Goes to bed 7-7.30 and is awake 5 - 5.30.

We've tried everything - later bedtime just results in same waking time plus overtiredness the next day.

We are just hoping he'll grow out of it!

UnConfident · 01/07/2007 12:33

My kids are always in bed by 7/7.30pm.

They are usually awake by about 7/7.30am.

Last week when we had a late night [11pm] ds was still up at 7.30am but dd slept in to 9.45am.

dd is 5.6 & ds is 2.6.

They have always been early risers

Speccy · 01/07/2007 12:31

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DoubleBluff · 01/07/2007 12:28

No matter what time DS's go to bed they are up at 6.30am. Even as late as 11pm ( party last night) still awake at 6.3o today.

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worzsel · 01/07/2007 12:21

I dont think that bed later/ up later is true tbh, Toddlers need 12 or 13 hours sleep a night and a nap in the day, If they are going to bed later they could be over tired and be up earlier. DD goes down between 6 30 and 7 30 and usually wakes about 7 and thats how it works for most of my friends aswell and we all seem to put them to bed earlier but thay are all good sleepers. I'd go stir crazy if dd was up till 10 and the house would be a pig sty !

Judy1234 · 01/07/2007 12:00

hip, how old is he? One of my twins has always been the lark but gradually he's slept later. At 8 now he wakes at 7.30 if they've gone to sleep at 10 the night before. If he went to sleep at 7 he'd wake at 4.30.

Ulysees · 01/07/2007 11:37

go up for an hour then

Ulysees · 01/07/2007 11:36

yes you didn't say you were pg and that he only works until 10.

Is he up yet? You need a lie in too hun

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Chirpygirl · 01/07/2007 11:32

Thanks guys!

The early waking isn't normally an issue, she normally wakes at 7 but is being woken as our neighbour is going out early for some reason. I really feel for you guys that have permanently early wakers!

He's up now, finally. Looking nice and rested, and he's in at 1 which means I don't have time for a decent nap before he has to go!

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crunchie · 01/07/2007 11:04

personally my 1st thought was yes YABU, then I read on, he is doing 2 - 10, so geetingin at what 11. SO he could easily be in bed by 12, which mean NO you are no unreasonable. Also the fact he wakes, says hello and sleeps again, mean again not unreasonable. HOWEVER I think he needs to let you have a couple of lie ins too

lemonaid · 01/07/2007 11:03

Agree -- DS wakes up by 6 at the latest whether he goes to bed at 7 or at 10.

suncream · 01/07/2007 10:57

I work late shifts twice a week, in bed around midnight, and STILL I'm the one getting up with ds at 5.30am...and yes Xenia, we tried several weeks of putting him down later, all that happened is that he woke up at 4.30 instead...
OP, if your dp goes back to sleep what's the problem? I don't think you ABU, although you're probably trying to make a point to him by waking him up.

JodieG1 · 01/07/2007 10:48

Xenia if I put mine to bed later they still get up early but are knackered all day as well. Children just aren't all the same. I wish it was that easy.

hippmummy · 01/07/2007 10:45

Xenia - it's a good theory but some children are just larks. We have tried every piece of advice we can think of for our early waker, including a later bedtime. He still insists on waking around 5.00.

We've resigned ourselves to it now and the only way to cope with it is to go to bed as early as we can ourselves.

Judy1234 · 01/07/2007 10:32

Children who wake up early usually go to bed too early. My sister is always complaining about hers - now has a rule no waking until 6am (very late for hers!) who sometimes are up at 4.30am or 5am and it's because they're all getting down to bed round 6 or 7. If she backended the process and had them asleep by 9 I'm sure they'd sleep longer.