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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be jealous of my nanny

29 replies

curiouscat · 27/06/2007 16:31

Kind of embarrassed about this but here goes: I am starting to envy the good times my au pair has with my children. I know it's great that they like her, it lets me go to work etc.

BUT I sometimes wish I could have the free days she gets while kids are at school and I'm at the office. Coming home to find them in pyjamas hugging and cuddling her makes me feel horrible not happy for them all.

I know it's contradictory but surely I'm not the only one who has felt this?

OP posts:
MrsWobble · 27/06/2007 17:49

and remember that the children are yours for ever - her involvement is not

but you have my sympathy - I know the feeling well

ViciousSquirrelSpotter · 27/06/2007 17:37

Yes you are being unreasonable.

But we are not just reasonable beings, we are also emotional ones, so you're entitled to feel a bit jealous.

Do you work full time? Are there times you can set aside to spend time with them both with her and on your own?

merryberry · 27/06/2007 17:33

yanbu but

  1. thank your lucky stars
  2. start to build in some extra things that only you do with them, that are you and your kids good times?
  3. thank your lucky stars
  4. give her to me if you jack work in
Kewcumber · 27/06/2007 16:33

no au pair/nanny and I don't think DS has such a close relationship with CM but my mum looks after him one day a week and I'm very jealous that she gets to go to music class with him and I don;t.