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To want a 4th child at 43

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Oldermummy2019 · 29/12/2018 19:04

Long story short devorced with 2 children, the met perfect husband 9 years ago. He had no children. I have older kids youngest is now a teenager. I agreed to have onother one who is now 2. It’s been such a great experience to have a child with a good man.

I feel broody, he would love another since the older kids will be off be off to university in a few years.

Money and space not an issue just the age .. I know people younger than me struggling to conceive.. will it be too indulgent to have another?

OP posts:
sulflower · 29/12/2018 19:13

Go for it, good luck! Two of my friends had babies at 45 in a second marriage, other kids grown up. They are loving being parents again plus you have a toddler so you haven't forgotten all the baby stuff. .

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 29/12/2018 19:12

I had my 1st child at 19 OP and my second at 41! She is now 7 and its been the best thing I have ever done!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/12/2018 19:11

Only you know what's right for you and your family, way up the pros and cons then make a decision.

ChrisTheCat · 29/12/2018 19:10

If money and space is no issue and both partners are fully on board then of course yanbu. See what happens.

PossiblyPFB · 29/12/2018 19:09

In your circumstances, with a 2 year old and a second marriage, I would definitely give it a go! Best of luck! Flowers

coffeekittens · 29/12/2018 19:09

YANBU. If you’re physically and mentally prepared then go for it. My mum had her sixth at 43. Infertility must be really awful but if we all stopped ttc because we knew of someone struggling then not many people would have babies.

Justgorgeous · 29/12/2018 19:08

Hello, i gave birth to my 3rd at 44. Please go for it and good luck. Xxx

Aquamarine1029 · 29/12/2018 19:07

You having another baby is no one else's business. It has nothing to do with being indulgent. If this is what you both want, go for it.

allisonpeters · 29/12/2018 19:06

You can always ttc and see how it goes. Best of luck Flowers

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