To want a 4th child at 43

I would in your circumstances. It's not that old at all. Go for it.

Increased chance of high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia and congenital birth defects.
I know all parents can get sick but been an older parent the chances are higher of an earlier death.
I am not trying to be mean, I said personally I would not risk it.

Go for it!! :)

Why not give it a go OP, sounds like you’d regret not trying. Good luck :)

@SylvanianFrenemies love to you xx

As long as you do research into risks such as high chance of MC, a baby with special needs etc and are capable (both of you) to be able to face that if anything was to happen then why the heck not.
Good luck to you

The risks are very high for DM and the unborn DC.

Such as?

Sylvanian

It happens.
Personally I wouldn't. The risks are very high for DM and the unborn DC.
I would feel different if it was my first, or a long awaited baby but with 3 already I would count my blessings.
You would be 60 with 2 teens, I hear teens need as much support and tlc as toddlers.

Go for it! Good luck.

I'm almost 43. You have my admiration for even contemplating it.

Oh my goodness. I should not have read this thread. I’m 42 and soooooooo broody for my third. I told myself that I’m too old, but maybe I’m not....

Go for it, it seems like it would feel right for you and your family.

Just a note of caution however for people considering this. I'm 41 and pregnant with DC3. I will be having a termination for medical reasons soon as my baby has downs with severe physical abnormalities and has stopped growing. I'm 16 weeks pregnant with a bump and should be enjoying the excitement. It's devastating. The risk of this sort of scenario increases massively after 40 year on year. I didn't think it would happen to us. It has. Only you can weigh up if you are willing to risk going through this. I have sometimes thought "why on earth didn't we stick with the family we had, when things felt good and simple".

That's the head side of it. Heart is different. We also may try for another, I'm not sure yet.

Go for it, I was my mums 5th at 42 and all the older ones had left home.

Hi I've just turned 40 and we've started ttc number 4 this month! My eldest two are a touch younger than yours and my youngest is 3. Having our youngest has brought such joy I just want to do it all again. The broodiness is overwhelming.

I've just started following a thread called 'Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!' I think it's in the conception category. There are some lovely ladies on there.

Gave birth to 2nd at 43. I say if you want to do it, do it.

Go for it m'dear Good Luck!

We decided to try for number four when I was 39. I am here now nursing my twins. Just saying! Good luck OP. No reason not to give it a go if you're both up for it.

Yanbu. I am impressed by your stamina.

I know people younger than me struggling to conceive.. will it be too indulgent to have another?

There isn’t a finite number of children - you not having another doesn’t mean an infertile couple will.

Absolutely choose what is best for you and good luck!

Idk whether you should or not as I'm much younger than you so can't comment on how it would be caring for a baby at a much older age, however lots of people do it just fine, as evidenced by many people on this thread, and friends/family I know.

However without putting a downer on things baubles is correct. DD is 6 months and a horrendous screamer. It really grates when people say things like this time should be "magical" when DH and I have hated most of her life so far. Not all babies are lovely, calm, smiley sweethearts, unfortunately. Some of them scream hysterically for hours and hours every day and whinge and cry most of the time they are awake, for no medically discernable reason . But I'm not sure being older would make that any more difficult though, even if it did happen.

When I read the thread title, I was all ready to post to tell you that you're mad!

Now I've RTFT, I think you should give it a go!

I have a friend who had two, met her second dp and had another smaller two for the same reason as you op. It is lovely and the two little ones get on really well.

I had my DD at 41 with my DP and it's been amazing. My eldest DD 13, I had when I was 31 so a big gap. I feel a bit guilty saying this, because is no reflection on my eldest DD, but I've found it SO much easier the second time round because I'm in a far better place emotionally, mentally, everything really and I'm with my DP (not my ex-H and all the problems with that). I've not found being of "advanced maternal age" (thanks doc!) to be a problem and my energy seems to be fine. I'm pretty inactive too, apart from dog walking. So much depends on where you are in life. I would go for it OP.

I had my second at 43. Go for it op. Good luck.