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Original poster

I'm pissed off at my neighbours life.........................

85 replies

toomuchtodo · 27/06/2007 12:42

and yes I know I am being unreasonable cos I wouldn't change with her, but Jesus, she's got it so easy

gets up at 10.30, bf takes kids to school
seems to do nowt with baby, only goes out if she wants maybe once a week

doesn't cook, gets takeaways most nights

has loads of family round to babysit every weekend so she can go out

doesn't want a job as she says her benefits pay for everything (doesn't tell ss she has a partner who works....)

never feeds her kids anything decent, they wander around these streets with crisps/coke/cake and come in to my house while I'm trying to get mine to eat something decent for once

is always relaxed, cos she gets plenty sleep/rest/time away from her kids and I BLOODY DON'T

am jealous I know, just pisses me off when we're struggling on £16k a year and she gets by and doesn't try just has a nice easy life

God I'm really tired today and a moany bitch, but where else can I moan?!

OP posts:
fishie · 27/06/2007 14:13

that's nice honoria. tmtd, the thing about yoru neighbour is that she isn't relaxed so much as uninvolved with her children. (well apart frmo teh criminal sideline)

bohemianbint · 27/06/2007 14:12

Shop her to Gillian McKeith instead. Take aways every night indeed.

HonoriaGlossop · 27/06/2007 14:09

I agree with tiredemma. You have the better life here because your kids have a mum who is fully involved with their care and their lives. They WILL thank you and appreciate you for that (one day)and it WILL have a positive impact on your lifelong relationships with them.

In the future this is what I see:

Toomuchtodo is sitting on the deck outside watching her adorable grandchildren playing while her grown up kids make her a cup of tea and get the dinner on for the family get-together-dinner. toomuch is pleasantly exhausted from a day's shopping with her children while the grandkids have been at school. Her children insisted on treating her to a special present and took the day off from their important executive jobs (they did well at school) so she's had a lovely day and lunch with wine.

see where I'm going with this?

Where will this feckless, going nowhere woman be while you've got your feet up????

xxx

tuppy · 27/06/2007 14:04

Well I can sort of see why you aren't going to drop her in it, (but grrrr people like this are the pits).

However since you seem to be on a brief chat type of footing with her, how about getting her to think about what she's doing and put the wind up her a bit..

Eg., "Ooh Irene, did you hear the benefits agency is clamping down at the moment in certain areas, there's a big blitz going on with all the paperwork, and they've even employed extra private detectives to check up on people. My sister says someone at her work reckons they're targeting...[insert local postcode] next week/month"

or "Oh my God Irene I've been really worried about [your dp]. Is everything OK, only my cousin's dh was investigated last week. He never told them about that job he started last year and they've caught up with him big time. He says he could hardly believe the amount of detail they had about him, work address, photos, the lot..."

Make her stew. Lazy cow.

speedymama · 27/06/2007 13:58

One of the guys at work knew of someone who was reported by her sister. She was making claims and working at the same time. She had children also. She had to pay the money back but importantly, her children did not suffer.

So those who say that someone with children should not be reported are talking rubbish.

OP, YANBU, you are a great role model for your children.

fishie · 27/06/2007 13:47

do you suggest that having a child gives us all licence to defraud then?

Oblomov · 27/06/2007 13:42

Really obi. ? I actually take offence to FRAUD. And I pay my taxes to support their fraud. And yes, that does bother me. AIBU ?

obimomkanobi · 27/06/2007 13:40

I couldn't dob a woman with kids in. No way, it's a horrible thing to do to someone.

Some of you are jobsworths and Daily Mail readers.

fishie · 27/06/2007 13:24

tmtd, why not? i know it might seem mean but she is setting an exasmple to your children too. how could she know it was you, i'm sure the benefits agency are used to this sort of situation. they must recheck claims regularly anyway, her bf must be receiving post at that address etc.

Oblomov · 27/06/2007 13:17

Well, she's setting an example to her children, isn't she. Don't worry, I'll soon be paying for her children to scrounge off the state aswell, then, shall I ?

IcingOnTheCake · 27/06/2007 13:16

I agree with tiredemma.

tiredemma · 27/06/2007 13:12

to be honest- that sounds like a shit life to me.

No aspirations, no drive - whats the point- eating crap food and laying about in bed till 1030 is dire- not desirable.

I want my children to grow up knowing and believing that if you want something in life- you have to work for it.

Life is a struggle- but isnt it rewarding to know that everything you have is achieved through sacrifices and hard work?

Id much rather have my life than the life of a bone idle blagger

Original poster
toomuchtodo · 27/06/2007 13:11

yeah, our houses are pilied on top of each other, you couldn't escape the neighbours if you tried

OP posts:
bobsmum · 27/06/2007 13:10

I have lost the ability to type this afternoon.

Original poster
toomuchtodo · 27/06/2007 13:10

icing, I know I'm at home with my or others kids too much

OP posts:
bobsmum · 27/06/2007 13:09

Depends where you live. On our old estate I could hear everything my neioghbours said and did through the walls. SOunded pretty similar to toomuch's neaighbour. aNd the girl across the road was the same.

Things went quiet after the police raid though

Original poster
toomuchtodo · 27/06/2007 13:09

she'd know it was me

my face was tripping me this morning talking to her, I was looking stressed (3 part time jobs/no break ever/ old mum/ kids relentless etc etc oh and I was childminging too/my ds up at 6am) she said mornings are so hard aren't they with a big smile. she was in her pj's, bf taking kids to school, she emerged from her house at 12 all made up,new gear on, her mum over looking after the baby for her

gggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

must shut up now

OP posts:
IcingOnTheCake · 27/06/2007 13:07

You do seem to know an awful lot about your neighbours life. I just about know my neighbours names.

fishie · 27/06/2007 13:06

[musters mob]

Oblomov · 27/06/2007 13:05

I'm not tired and I want to call the authorities !

bobsmum · 27/06/2007 13:05

/sounds like my SIL - she has amazing holidays

Original poster
toomuchtodo · 27/06/2007 13:04

I know, but I couldn't do that to her

(mad I know)

just feel so tired and hard done by today

OP posts:
Oblomov · 27/06/2007 13:04

No telling the authorities, IS the right thing to do - for all of us - I don't work to pay for her. If you don't want to, give me her name & no - I'LL DO IT !!!!

fishie · 27/06/2007 13:03

you (and the rest of us) are paying for her easy life.

Oblomov · 27/06/2007 13:02

Dob her in, having a dp and not declaring - its called FRAUD.