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Original poster

to not want to take ds to be weighed?

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ratfly · 26/06/2007 14:28

Sorry, this is more of a rant really...

For the first few weeks I used to take ds weekly to be weighed, but I haven't taken him for about 6 weeks now. He is 5 months.

I am having trouble getting on with the health visitors. Last time I saw one (at an antenatal group) she said that ds waking for a feed at night when he had been only going through for a week was "like taking a step backwards".

When quizzed about my feeding schedule, I told them I feed him at 11pm whether he wakes or not - the dreamfeed so many people and books recommend - and she said "why would you do that?" like I was the most ignorant person on earth. I was too stunned to explain myself fully, and just ended up muttering about him waking earlier if we don't do it.

And the time before, when discussing sleep (he has had trouble since birth, with colic, reflux and now eczema) I was told (in a most disapproving way)to stop swaddling and using a dummy or he would never sleep. Funnily enough, he does sleep pretty well now, with a swaddle to stop him scratching, AND a dummy.

So, I don't want to get him weighed again as I know the HVs will wind me up. Or should I just grin and bear it? Or is there anywhere else I can get him weighed?

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diplodocus · 26/06/2007 15:17

I can't be bothered to sit for hours at the HV clinic, so occasionally take DD to Mothercare where they have scales for checking your child's in the right size car seat. I doubt they're any less accurate than the HVs, and once they're a few months old all all this stripping naked seems a bit unnecessary, particularly when DD appears to be able to crap her own body weight, which they don't appear to take into account.

UCM · 26/06/2007 15:16

We weigh DD with fishing scales every 2 weeks, I bundle her up in one of my sarongs

Gobbledigook · 26/06/2007 15:10

I took ds1 religiously because he was small and a crap 'eater'.

Ds2 - guzzled for England so hardly took him.

Ds3 - probably got weighed at birth and that was it

Twiglett · 26/06/2007 14:59

people on their 2nd don't tend to go at all IME

fennel · 26/06/2007 14:58

Mine only ever got weighed when we went for other things like injections. They were obviously big enough. I thought the baby weighing was just a chance to get out if you needed somewhere to go and couldn't think of anywhere else, rather than anything important in itself.

MaureenMLove · 26/06/2007 14:55

I only took my dd about 3 times! I know it was only that many times, because I went back to work when she was 3 months old. This was in the days, when SMP & maternity leave was pretty much nothing!
I remember the HV phoning me and saying 'Hello xxx and how's baby (rustle and turning of pages) xxx!' She didn't have a clue who I was! I told her I was going back to work, so I couldn't bring her to get weighed and she made me feel like a really bad mother, but like others have said, she was eating, drinking, pooing and she was perfectly pink and healthy! IF, I had any doubts about her, I would have taken her, but I really felt it wasn't necessary.

ChasingSquirrels · 26/06/2007 14:41

weigh yourself, then weigh yourself holding him if you want to know without seeing a HV.
ds2 has only been weighed (officially) once since his 6wk check, and that was at him 9mo check. I did him myself when I took him for his jabs as the scales are in the waiting room, but other than that I have no idea - as we don't have scales at home.

Original poster
ratfly · 26/06/2007 14:40

It also gives me the perfect answer when people ask how much he weighs - I don't know!
Immediately gets me out of all competitive talk!

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ratfly · 26/06/2007 14:37

Thanks guys! He is feeding, sleeping, pooing, weeing and growing out of clothes so I guess everything is going ok. I thought I might start getting chased up or something!

I would quite like to know what he weighs, but without having to interact with the HVs at all. ..

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canmummy · 26/06/2007 14:34

There is no need to get them weighed every week. I've got 3 and dd3 is also 5 months and I don't get her weighed regularly. IMO if she's feeding ok, has plenty of wet and dirty nappies, is alert and happy then I only go to baby clinic if there's something else I'm worried about and need to ask for advice. I'm sure he'll be fine

Loopymumsy · 26/06/2007 14:32

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nickytwotimes · 26/06/2007 14:31

just re read op. my ds gets weighed every few months now, since about 4 mths.

nickytwotimes · 26/06/2007 14:30

no wonder you don't want to go!
could you but suitable scales anywhere to use yourself? also, if he is well, maybe you needn't get him weighed? or go, and when they ask how things are, just say fine!

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