to not want to take ds to be weighed?

dipldocus..lol at crap own bodyweight...same with my lo!

chopster was going to post the same thing .
Was mightily pissed off when I caught my FIL weighing my children, they (MIL especially) insist on comparing their grandchildren in a blinkered biased unhelpful way!

YANBU

YANBU don't get mine weighed voluntarily, can't really be doing with the whole thing. Only intend to go to see mine before first birthday to point out that I havn't had the Guthrie results and check they have, oh and for the free books!Probably totally unwelcome comment but have you thought about baby sleeping bags/grobags for the eczema when you are fed up of swaddling? (we did find ours slept better in WInter on one toobut we had cold damp place then)

My mum used to take ds to be weighed every couple of months, but we don't bother anymore as he hated it and usually peed all over the scales in protest. I agree tho, don't take him if you don't want to. If he's fine, then it's not worth the stress

Pay no attention to your HV and stop seeing her. There is nothing wrong with your approach and its up to you how you bring up your child!

Why are you even considering taking your baby to be weighed...this never even crossed my mind, it is totally optional and a waste of valuable time imo unless you feel concerned about your baby being too heavy or too light.

now 9 months of course

you really don't have to take them if you don't want to, it's not a rule, esp if they are making you feel bad
my baby hasn't been since she was 5 weeks old - she's not 9 months!

my 1yo dd was due boosters on her b'day i phoned dr's and told receptionist that i wasnt bringing her that week for her jabs as it was her b'day please pass the message, anyway the next week i was called to be asked why i hadnt turned up to clinic! couldnt believe it that i was being chased by the hv.
You dont need to continuously weigh your dc unless your concerned as no one knows your baby like you i used to go evey 8weeks ish.
I think as long as your happy with your baby's growthetc then its fine to leave going to see hv apart from checks and boosters

Don't bother - it's only a prompter for paranoia.

You will be able to judge if all is OK. No amount of finger wagging from a HV is going to make LOs eat more - only you can do that.

I also did it partly as an excuse to get out of teh house. Then I discovered taht Starbucks is a mecca for new mums and teh rest is history

Trust your own feelings. Unless you think there is a problem, save your time and energy.

only read the OP but at our clinic they weigh them and then ask if you want to see the HV or not.
They also have a recommended amount of times you are supposed to go. Something like every 2 weeks for newborn to weaning, once a moth from 4-9 months etc (I can;t remember the actual weeks as mine are older and it was only started recently)

Oh god, don't bother, why should you?

I used to take ds constantly, for something to do

I wouldn't bother if I wasn't bored witless

Ha Custardo - well put - couldn't agree more, complete waste of time and I never bother

I don't understand this obsession with baby weight either. And the religious filling-in of those centile charts. What's the point?

I hardly every went with dd - but the 2 HVs were loopy anyway. Plus, was a young mother so I think they had me in the useless and clueless category anyway. They do have an uncanny knack of making new mothers feel stupid.

I'd agree don't take him!

dd2 was weighed at birth, 6 months-ish then when she was about 1 - I think!

Unless you are concerned about his weight in any way then don't bother - I don't even know who our HV is!

If the HVs can't address the issues that you have, in a way that is helpful to you, but are stuck in a groove doing things their way, then it's obviously of no help to you to keep going to the baby clinic.

You are under no obligation to have him weighed, nor to follow HV's recommendations. You may well get better advice for his issues here on Mumsnet!

FWIW, I have taken 8m ds2 to the baby clinic 3 or 4 times since he was 3w and the HV stopped doing home visits, and one of those times was only so that I could meet a particular mum who I knew would be at t he clinic on that day!

Don't go. My HV was wonderful (no really ) but even so I didn't bother much with second and not at all with third. No need unless there is something you are worried about.

I never took mine after the first. I stuck them in bowls on the kitchen scales until they got too big, then didn't bother at all. I could see them growing, so I was perfectly happy. The only time when I ever needed to know their weight was upon an A&E trip - so it is worth having a rough idea.

i have no idea what this nationwide predeliction to weekly weighing of children is.

if you had a concern? if there were complications.

but for fucks sake. - they get weighed at home ( or used to) health visitor with a sling thing - might be the midwife its all blurry.

but my point unles syouhave a fucking fat baby, or a skinny rat thing - then why do it?

i mean really why do it?

i didn't - i told midwife and healthvisitor that if they were that bothered they could come to me becuase there was no way was i walking up steep fecking hills with twins and a toddler.

i just dont think its important - in the least.

and relatives asking " how much do they weigh?" like who gives a fuck?

Took ds1 once. Used to get lots of messages left on ansaphone and had several suprise drop-bys (refused enrty on a couple of occasions), but still didn't take him. Haven't taken ds2 at all. (6 months) No-one's hassled me at all.

With ds1 my instinct has always served me well when something's been up and imagine it will do for ds2 too.

i think your doing ok ratfly...if hv does chase you up tell her the truth, that you feel she undermines your judgement as a mother. its easier to do it over the phone and it may well put her in her place enough not to do it to anyone else!

You sound like you are doing very well all by yourself with your maternal instinct. who gives a toss about the weight anyway. I always think the HV make too much of a fuss about weight anyway, you could also just go to your GP once a month and have it done or find another local clinic. What about changing HV?

Hi ratfly, onl;y after having kids myself i realise that you have to suit yourself. its your child if you want to go and weigh him then do so. If you dont want to get into a mad conversation about what your doing with these health visitors then dont. some health visitors can be very pushy and try and talk down to people who they think they know more than. but you know your own child more than anyone and as long as you are looking after your child its none of their business.