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Original poster

to be annoyed that dh will not let me have the gorgeous Mercedes car that is parked outside our house?

240 replies

oliveoil · 25/06/2007 13:10

He claims it is for a client!

Client my arse, where are his priorities fgs, I have given him 2 children had my stomach slashed and my nethers stitched and what thanks do I get?

Do you think divorce is too harsh or just separate for a while?

TIA

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binkleandflip · 27/06/2007 10:21

Don't take her on, seriously, she's only doing it to wind you up, for fun. She's probably sat at home now, waiting for her highflying dh to deliver her new bentley...how do we know really? alternatively she could be sat dispatching cabs in a taxi office for all we know Whatever she is I must say she's a professional wind-up and bloody good at it as it goes!

Anna8888 · 27/06/2007 10:21

CoV - the "compulsory reeducation" business is so ridiculous that it makes Xenia look far less intelligent that she really is. She's just got this "thing" about paid employment, as if it ought to be, for all people, the highest priority in life, whatever their circumstances. It blinds her to reality. A pity.

ComeOVeneer · 27/06/2007 10:15

I know I have made the right decision and I am happy with it. What riles me is her highly insulting comments such as the one I highlighted below about "compulsory re-education" to see the error of our ways. She seems to see SAHMs as some sort of sub species that needs to be taken in hand by the rest of society and sorted out.

muppetgirl · 27/06/2007 09:58

Xenia that is

muppetgirl · 27/06/2007 09:58

She has given away on another thread that she doesn't have dh or dp atm.
Surprised?

binkleandflip · 27/06/2007 09:49

More importantly, why take it to heart what Xenia et al have to say? You know you have made the right choice for your family so why let it rile you? You know as long as you bite she will continue to provoke...

BabiesEverywhere · 27/06/2007 09:47

TBH the more Xenia protests about SAHM's, the more I think she secretly wants to be one

Her posts come across as very bitter as if she is , maybe her lifestyle choices/DH etc prevents her from being one.

Why else would she protest so much about other people choices ?

ComeOVeneer · 27/06/2007 09:47

Snap, same story here. I supported dh through law school, bought our first car, paid the deposit on our first flat. Was earning more than dh. Had dd then went part time, dh's earnings increase each year so when I had ds I went more part time, then we relocated so I am currently a SAHM. I enjoy running the home, dh enjoys his job, we are totally happy with the situation. I most certainly do not neeed to be re-educated, I have a very very good education under my belt already .

Original poster
oliveoil · 27/06/2007 09:40

oh I know, yawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwn

I used to earn more than dh, had dd1 and thought feck this, I think I will go part time, then had dd2 and thought hmmmmm, will remain part time

house runs well, no stress, still have enough money to do what we want

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ComeOVeneer · 27/06/2007 09:38

Olive, I wasn't terribly surprised by your outburst. I too have been getting rather irritated the way Xenia has been popping into all manner of threads extolling the virtues of WOHM and the failings of SAHM. Things like we need to be "compulsorily reeducated" to see the error of our ways!!!!!

Anna8888 · 27/06/2007 09:35

like I said, I'm still waiting for insights...

mozhe · 27/06/2007 09:34

Anna ! ....now be careful

Original poster
oliveoil · 27/06/2007 09:34

May I apologise for my foul mouthed outburst, so unlike me, but Xenia + co make my teeth itch

In reply to why dh works full time and I don't, we are kind of old fashioned in our house and he runs his own business and I don't know anything about cars so can't run it for him basically. Unless he sold toy cars.

He came home with a cake for me yesterday though, I am so ashamed and demeaned by the concept of free bakery items.

I need a compulsory re-education policy, make no mistake.

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Anna8888 · 27/06/2007 09:32
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Anna8888 · 27/06/2007 09:32

Xenia - so caring for others is demeaning and money-earning work the only worthwhile occupation in life?

Do you realise how materialistic, selfish and money-grubbing you sound?

It's a pity, because you bring a lot of interesting and reasoned points to debate (unlike another poster with whom you are frequently, and to my mind wrongly, associated - she doesn't have a tenth of your reasoning skills). And then you rather spoil it all with this mindless and vulgar materialistic nonsense not worthy of a used-car salesman [mile]

ComeOVeneer · 27/06/2007 09:25

"We need compulsory re-education policies for sexist women so they grow up appalled and demeaned by the concept."

Dear God Xenia, you sound like something out of 1984. So women who don't follow your ideals need to be reprogrammed? Your attitude and arrogance that your way is the only way frankly outrages and frightens me at the same time. I have never "met" someone with such narrowminded views in my life.

paulaplumpbottom · 26/06/2007 22:37

To be honest they do scream door to door salesman

Lyrabelacqua · 26/06/2007 22:37

Twinkle, I'm going through a bit of a name changing thing at the moment, can't decide whether to change permanently or not.
I was outed on another thread (a mum at school recognised me) so am considering a permanent name change and trying a few on for size.
I was AnthillMob for about 3 minutes yesterday

Gobbledigook · 26/06/2007 22:34

Oh Olive, those A class ones are minging. Plus, everyone has them.

paulaplumpbottom · 26/06/2007 22:33

Let the kids play in it for an hour and see if he still likes it as much

Twinklemegan · 26/06/2007 22:32

Didn't you like the fit of LyraB then?

Lyrabelacqua · 26/06/2007 22:29

This thread wasn't started to debate men and women's roles in society.
Xenia and Mozhe, are you the same person, because you seem to follow each other around.

Judy1234 · 26/06/2007 22:26

Why is debating the issue of whether men should pay and women serve wrong? We need compulsory re-education policies for sexist women so they grow up appalled and demeaned by the concept.

mozhe · 26/06/2007 22:25

Where have I entioned SAHMS.....?

binkleandflip · 26/06/2007 22:17

Well we've run out of milk, so now's a good a time as any!!